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- 1. Ukwakha kabusha ubudlelwano, zombili izinhlangothi zidinga ukufaka imali ekwenzeni lokho
- 2. Shintsha imikhuba yakho edlule
- 3. Xazulula okuhlangenwe nakho okungajabulisi
- 4. Dedela noma yikuphi ukucasuka
- 5. Zibheke ngokujulile
Kunzima uma uhlangabezana nesikhathi esinzima ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ikakhulukazi lapho nisathandana kakhulu kepha ngandlela thile nisukile kuthrekhi eshayiwe ngandlela thile.
Ubudlelwano obuningi buhlukana ngezikhathi zebanga nobunzima. Kepha uma ufunda lokhu, amathuba ukuthi ubheka enye indlela - indlela yokwakha kabusha ubudlelwano bakho.
Ukuthatha isinqumo sokwakha kabusha ubudlelwano bakho kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esihle. Kepha uzodinga ukuzilungiselela, indlela yokulungisa ingahle ibe nde. Kuzoba nemizwelo nemikhuba eminingi yakudala edinga ukuxazululwa, nezinkumbulo ezintsha ezizodala ngenkathi nobabili nisebenzela ukwakha ubudlelwano benu.
Kodwa-ke, akukho lutho oluyoba nzima kakhulu ukulufeza uma nobabili nithandana, futhi nizinikele ekwakheni kabusha ubudlelwano benu. Ubudlelwano obuzokhula kusuka emlotheni wobudlelwano bakho obudala ndawonye ngeke ngokungangabazeki buzoba yinto enamandla futhi enelisayo.
Nazi izinyathelo ezi-5 ozodinga ukuthi uzicabangele ukwakha ubuhlobo bakho
1. Ukwakha kabusha ubudlelwano, zombili izinhlangothi zidinga ukufaka imali ekwenzeni lokho
Uma iqembu elilodwa lingazange lifinyelele esinqumweni, noma ekuboneni ukuthi lifuna ukusebenzela ukwakha kabusha ubudlelwano, khona-ke kunezinyathelo namasu angadinga ukucatshangelwa ngaphambi kokuba uqhubeke nokuzibophezela kulobu budlelwano. Phela ubuhlobo buthatha abantu ababili.
2. Shintsha imikhuba yakho edlule
Ngemuva kokuthi senenze ngokuhlanganyela isinqumo sokuthi nobabili nisazinikele ebudlelwaneni benu. Nobabili kuzodingeka nisebenze kanzima ekushintsheni eminye yemikhuba yenu edlule.
Akungabazeki ukuthi uma ubudlelwano bakho budinga ukwakhiwa kabusha, uzobe uhlangabezana nemizwa yokusola, yecala, nokuntuleka ngandlela thile. Njengokungathembani, ukuntuleka kokusondelana, ukungabi nezingxoxo, bese kuthi konke ukusolwa necala okuzohambisana nokushoda kwanoma yiliphi iqembu.
Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi uqale uqaphele ukuthi nobabili nixhumana kanjani. Futhi sebenzani kanzima ukushintsha indlela enikhulumisana ngayo ukuze ukuxhumana kwenu kube nothando nokucabangela.
Ngoba lapho nikhombisa uthando nokucabangelana, kuzoqala ukuncibilikisa okunye 'okulimazayo' okwedlule, bese kuhlwanyela imbewu yokwakha kabusha ubudlelwano bakho ngendlela ezoqina kakhulu futhi isondele.
3. Xazulula okuhlangenwe nakho okungajabulisi
Noma ngabe nobabili nizinikele ekwakheni kabusha ubudlelwano benu, ingxenye enkulu yalokho izolala ekuxazululeni okuhlangenwe nakho okungajabulisi osekuyingxenye yesikhathi esedlule.
Uma kunezinkinga ngokuthembana, kuzodingeka ziphathwe, okufanayo ngentukuthelo, usizi, njalonjalo. Njengoba sekushiwo, kuzodingeka ufunde ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani kangcono.
Ngokufanelekile ukusebenza nomeluleki wezobudlelwano, i-hypnotherapist noma olunye uhlobo lomeluleki kuzokusiza ukuxazulula kalula lezi zinkinga endaweni elawulwayo. Qaphela ukuthi ungaqhubeki ngephutha ukuveza lezi zinkinga komunye nomunye.
Lo ngumbuthano ononya ongeke usize ngalutho ekwakheni kabusha ubudlelwano futhi yilowo ozofuna ukuwugwema nakanjani.
Uma kunzima ukubona umuntu wesithathu ukwesekwa, zama ukusebenzisa ukubona okuhle ukuze usebenze ngemizwa ehambisanayo - kuzosiza kakhulu. Yonke imizwa iyancibilika lapho kuvunyelwe ukuthi ivezwe. Ngakho-ke ngokubona okudala, ungazibona ngeso lengqondo uvumela imizwa eyeqile ikhululeke emzimbeni wakho.
Futhi uma uzwa noma yimiphi imizwa, noma ufuna ukukhala, vumela leyo mizwa noma imizwa ukuba ivezwe (kwesinye isikhathi ingavela ngokushosholoza endaweni ethile emzimbeni wakho) hlala nayo nje uzivumele uveza noma yini edinga ukuzwakaliswa kuze kube iyama - izoma.
Lokhu kuzokhipha leyo mizwa efakiwe, okukuvumela ukuthi ugxile ekwakheni kabusha ubudlelwano bakho ngaphandle kokucindezela imizwa engemihle. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile nangothando.
4. Dedela noma yikuphi ukucasuka
Lesi sinyathelo siyefana nesinyathelo 3. Uma noma ngubani akha ubuhlobo, kubalulekile ukuthi ungabi nolaka noma ulimale kunoma ikuphi ukungaziphathi kwangaphambili.
Isibonelo, uma ubakha kabusha ubudlelwano ngemuva kokuqomisana, iqembu elingenacala kufanele likulungele ngokweqiniso futhi lizimisele ukuyeka inkinga iqhubekele phambili. Akufanele kube yinto ehlala iphonswa phezulu ngezikhathi eziyinselele, noma ngesikhathi sokuphikisana.
Uma uzibophezele ekwakheni kabusha ubudlelwano bakho kepha ukuthola kunzima ukwamukela noma ikuphi ukukhetha, yize uzibophezele, kungaba yisikhathi sokufuna ukwesekwa ngamunye kumeluleki wenkampani yangaphandle ukukusiza ukubuyisane nalokhu.
Lokhu kutshalwa kwemali okuncane kuzoletha imivuzo emikhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho, esikhathini esizayo.
5. Zibheke ngokujulile
Uma unesibopho sezinto ezingekho emthethweni ebudlelwaneni bakho, ingxenye yokwakha kabusha lobu budlelwano izodinga ukuthi uqonde ukuthi kungani ukwenzile kwasekuqaleni. Mhlawumbe uqhelelene futhi ukude nobudlelwano bakho futhi lokho kudale izinkinga, mhlawumbe kunezinkinga zentukuthelo, umona, izinselelo ngokunakekelwa kwemali, izingane noma impahla nokunye.
Isikhathi sokuzibheka ngokujulile futhi uqaphele noma yimaphi amaphethini obukade unawo empilweni yakho.
Bheka emuva lapho uqala ukwenza lokhu kungaziphathi kahle bese uzibuze ukuthi ubucabangani, nokuthi ubufisa ukuzuzani.
Lo ngumsebenzi womuntu siqu, ongahle uzizwe ungabelana nomlingani wakho, futhi lokho kulungile impela. Kufanele ube nesikhala sokusebenza ngalokhu, kepha kubalulekile ukuthi ungakusebenzisi njengezaba zokugwema ukusebenza ngomsebenzi onzima wokwakha kabusha ubudlelwano bakho (okungenani hhayi uma ufuna ukubulungisa!).
Uma ubona amaphethini wokuziphatha okungenzeka ukuthi abekhona iminyaka eminingi, lapho-ke ungaqala ukusebenza ngawo futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani kwenzeke, futhi ekuqondeni ukuthi kungani, uzonikezwa amandla okwenza ushintsho ongadinga ukulwenza ukufeza impilo ejabulisayo negcwalisekile nomlingani wakho.