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- Ukuqonda ukuthi yini echaza uthando ebudlelwaneni?
- Isithombe sangempela
- Ukukhumbula izinsuku ezinhle zakudala
- Ukwethembeka njalo kuyinqubomgomo ehamba phambili
- 1. Zazi kangcono
- 2. Funda ukujabulela inkampani yakho
- 3. Thembeka kuwe uqobo
- Ukwenza umqondo wothando nobudlelwano bothando
Kuthathwa kalula ukuthi wonke umuntu uyimvelo ekwakheni nasekulondolozeni ubudlelwano noma ukuzibandakanya kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano bothando. Awekho amakilasi obudlelwano esikoleni, abazali bethu ngokwabo abanalwazi futhi nekhwalithi yokuxhumana kwethu nabanye ishiyelwa ethubeni.
Noma kunjalo, sonke kudingeka sifunde ukuqonda omunye nomunye futhi sixhumane kangcono. Le yindlela esingakujabulela ngayo ukwabelana ngempilo yethu nalabo esibakhathalelayo futhi siqonde incazelo yangempela yothando ebudlelwaneni.
Singabantu imikhiqizo yokukhuliswa kwethu.
Inani lethu lobuzali nelomphakathi laqoshwa kithi ngaphambi kokuba sihlakulele ukuzazi nokuzinqumela. Ngakho-ke, bonke baqonde ngqo ekwakheni umnyombo wobuntu bethu nokunquma ukukhetha kwethu nokuziphatha kwethu.
Ngokuqwashisa, singazenzela izinqumo.
Ngakho-ke, akusadingeki ukuthi sibe onodoli bokukhuliswa kwethu futhi manje sesingakwazi ukwakha amandla okwenza ubuntu bethu, indlela esiziphatha ngayo, impilo yethu ngendlela esikhetha ngayo.
Yazi, abanye abantu abazibuzi le mibuzo ngakho-ke ukwazi kwabo kunqunyelwe futhi bayaqhubeka nokuziphatha ngaphandle kwemikhuba, bagcina benomphumela ofanayo futhi babe ‘O! Ngimangele ngakho 'ngakho.
Ukuqonda ukuthi yini echaza uthando ebudlelwaneni?
Sithatha isinqumo sokwakha ubudlelwano nomuntu ngoba siyabathanda. Sithanda abantu abafana nathi. Ngakho-ke siyahlangana futhi sithuthuke ebudlelwaneni silindele ukuthi bazofana nathi njengazo zonke izindlela.
Ngaphambi kokuthi wazi, isikhathi sesidlulile, okunamathiselwe sekuthuthukile, kwenziwa izethembiso futhi kokunye, abanye abantu abancane bazelwe. Ukungezwani ngezikhathi ezithile akuzange kunakwe futhi impikiswano yayikhohliwe ngemuva komzuzwana wokusondelana nothando.
Isithombe sangempela
Kepha, ubudlelwane bezothando abuhlali bungumbhede wama-rose. Uyakuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthandana? Ubudlelwano bunothando oluncane kakhulu nenzondo, ukuvumelana nokungavumelani, uthando nentukuthelo kuhlanganiswe nenhlanganisela ephelele.
Uma ubudlelwano bakho bezothando bungasinda ezikhathini ezivivinyayo, khona-ke nobabili njengombhangqwana niyikhombisile ngokusobala incazelo yangempela yothando.
Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi uqaphele (noma kwesinye isikhathi ngemuva kwesikhathi eside), ukusondelana kuyaphela, umlilo wothando uyancipha ebudlelwaneni bakho obukade buthandana, futhi konke osenakho ngabantu ababili manje ababona ukwehluka okuncane kakhulu okuvelayo lapha futhi lapho.
Ukucasuka okuncane kuphenduka izikhalazo futhi ngesikhathi esanele ngisho nentukuthelo ayikude kakhulu. Yiphakamise ngokulindela okuvela kumlingani wakho ukuthi nizofeza izethembiso enizenze nobabili kanye nengcindezi yemisebenzi yansuku zonke engeza nje ohlwini.
Iphutha lilele kithi hhayi ebudlelwaneni bethu bezothando.
Sikulindele ngokwemvelo ukuthi isimilo somlingani wethu sizohlala sinjalo unomphela.
Ukukhumbula izinsuku ezinhle zakudala
Khumbula nje, ucabangele kangakanani futhi wazikhandla kangakanani kuzo zonke izinsuku empilweni yakho, ikakhulukazi leyo yokuqala kakhulu?
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uku-plasta okuningi kuzobe sekuqhamuka njengoba uzobuyela kancane kubuntu bakho beqiniso. Ebudlelwaneni bezothando, lesi sikhathi sibizwa ngokuthi ukuthandana, ukuntanta emafwini, isigaba se-honeymoon, njalonjalo.
Uma usuguqukele emuva kuwe futhi, ngokuzumayo okulindelwe ngumlingani wakho ngeke kuhlangane, izingxabano ziyalandela, futhi intukuthelo izothatha indawo yothando - Ithi sawubona ukudumala!
Ukwethembeka njalo kuyinqubomgomo ehamba phambili
Ngakho-ke, ukuzihlalela kunoma yisiphi isimo kuzoheha abantu abazokuthanda ngalokho oyikho hhayi ukuthi uzama ukuba ngubani. Ngakho-ke, hlala njalo 'Yamukela Ukwethembeka' ebudlelwaneni bakho bezothando.
Futhi, uma wenza lo mzamo owengeziwe, kukhombisa ukuthi aweneme ngendlela okuyo ebudlelwaneni bakho bezothando, noma ungazizwa ngathi 'asanele' komunye nomunye. Futhi, ukufihla lokhu "kukhubazeka", uzozama ukufaka isenzo. Kepha, lapho ucasukile, ukungezwani kuzovela. Ngabomo noma cha, uzogcina ukhohlisa omunye umuntu.
Ngakho-ke ulindeleni ebudlelwaneni bakho bezothando nomlingani wakho? Ngokusobala, uthando nokuzwana kuze kube phakade naphakade.
Manje usuphindaphinda lokhu kusebenza ngababili futhi kushiya indawo encane kakhulu yokumangala ukuthi ubudlelwano ngeke busebenze njengoba ubuhlelile.
Lapha singabona ukuthi ukwethembeka nokwethembeka kuyonakaliswa kanjani ngaphambi kokuthi uhlangane nomunye umuntu. Ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, lokhu kuziphatha kukhombisa umona, ukukopela nokungathembani.
Yini engenziwa umfana noma intombazane?
1. Zazi kangcono
Uma ungazazi ukuthi ungubani, izidingo zakho nezinto ozithandayo, ungazethula kanjani komunye ngokufanele? Uma ungazijabulisi nawe, ingabe ulindele ukuthi omunye umuntu ajabulele ukuba nawe?
2. Funda ukujabulela inkampani yakho
Chitha isikhathi uwedwa futhi uhlole izinhloso nezifiso zakho.
Sivame ukulinda lowo muntu okhethekile ukuthi alethe okuhle kithi futhi asithande ngaphandle kwemibandela, kepha konke kusho ukuthi ngeke sikhathazwe (noma asazi ukuthi) sizokhipha kanjani izingqimba zethu bese sifuna omunye umuntu senzele.
3. Thembeka kuwe uqobo
Zakhele ukwethenjwa nawe, funda ukukuveza futhi ube nesheke endaweni lapho wena nomyalezo wakho wamukelwa ngomunye ngendlela ohlose ngayo.
Ngalokhu okungenhla, uvula umzila wokuxhumana ongaphakathi kuwe nosuku lwakho, umlingani wakho, ingane yakho, nomuntu odlula ngezikhathi ezithile.
Ukwenza umqondo wothando nobudlelwano bothando
Kubudlelwano bezothando besikhathi eside, lapho ukungaboni ngaso linye kwenzeka, lokhu kuthembeka kanye nokukwazi ukuveza imicabango yakho kuzokuvumela ukuthi usheshe ukhombe umbono wakho kulesi simo futhi uqonde owomlingani wakho.
Ngakho-ke, jabulela ukuzwana futhi uzizwe uthandwa ebudlelwaneni bakho bezothando.