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Abantu abaningi bathandana futhi bacabanga ukuthi uthando luzonqoba konke futhi likuthathe eminyakeni edlule. Yize uthando luyoba isithako esiyinhloko ebudlelwaneni, akumele sikhohlwe ukuthi ezinye izithako zokwenza ubuhlobo buphumelele, ukuxhumana, ukwethembana nenhlonipho.
Uma ucabanga ngakho, bungaphila kanjani ubudlelwano ngaphandle kokulahleka kwalezi zithako?
Ngisebenze nemibhangqwana eminingi ukuthi yize inengqikithi yalokho okungasekela ubudlelwano, okunye kwalokhu kulahlekile noma kungenxa yokuthi kulahlekile, noma ngoba abakaze babe nakho.
Ngiqonde ukuthi ucabange ngakho, buhlala isikhathi esingakanani ngaphandle kobudlelwano, ukuxhumana, ukwethembana, noma inhlonipho.
Uma ufunda lokhu, kungenzeka ukuthi usebenzela ukwenza ubudlelwano bakho bube ngcono, futhi ngiyakuncoma ngalokho ngoba abantu abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi ngemuva kokuthola umlingani, kulapho-ke kuyeka khona, lapho ngokuthembeka konke, kulapho kuqala ngoba ukusebenza ebudlelwaneni bakho kufanele kube ukuzibophezela kwempilo yonke.
Abantu akumele bayeke ukuzama, ubudlelwano bakho yisici esisodwa esibaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho, futhi yebo, kungamangalisa.
Ukuxhumana
Ukuxhumana kuyingxenye eyisisekelo futhi ebaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni, ake sibhekane nakho uma ungenakho, yini onayo?
Kubalulekile ukuba nokuxhumana nomlingani wakho, futhi kudinga ukuthi kuvuleke futhi kuthembeke. Imibhangqwana eminingi inenkinga yokuvuleleka futhi ithembeke. Kunoma ikuphi, abakaze babe neqiniso kubo noma kubalingani babo.
Abantu akumele babe nokuvinjelwa okungabavimba ekwabelaneni nabalingani babo. Izikhathi eziningi, abantu bayashada noma bahlanganyele, futhi banezizinda ezihlukile zamasiko, noma bakhuliswe ngezinkambiso nezindinganiso ezihlukile.
Ngakho-ke, abantu ngabanye badinga ukuthatha isikhathi sokwazana, ekuqaleni kobudlelwano. Chitha isikhathi sazane, nibuze imibuzo, nichithe isikhathi sekhwalithi ndawonye, nikhululeke ngokuba nezingxoxo ezinzima, noma nixoxe ngezihloko ezinzima.
Amathiphu wokuxhumana okunempilo
- Thembeka futhi ukhululeke, uma kukhona okukwenza ungakhululeki wazise umlingani wakho, yabelana ngokuthi kungani kukwenza uzizwe ngale ndlela, hlola izinketho nezindlela ezingokoqobo ongazizwa kangcono ngazo ukuxoxa ngezindaba ezithile noma ngezihloko ezithile.
- Buza imibuzo, bese ucacisa.
- Khetha isikhathi sosuku ozozinikela ngaso ukwenza ukuxhumana okusebenzayo, kwenze isikhathi sakho, noma ngabe kusekuseni kakhulu ngenkathi unekhofi yasekuseni, noma ebusuku kakhulu.
- Ungabi nezingxoxo ezingezinhle ngaphambi kokulala, futhi ungalali uthukuthelele umlingani wakho.
- Kulungile, ukuvuma ukungavumelani, akudingeki ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi uyiqede ingxoxo bobabili bevumelana nganoma iyiphi inkinga ethile, ungahlala ubuyela kuyo.
- Uma othile ezizwa engakhululekile, ungaphoqi inkinga, thatha ingxoxo ngolunye usuku nesikhathi uma kungenzeka.
- Khuluma ngendlela ephansi nenenhlonipho; awudingi ukumemeza ukuze uthole iphuzu.
Inhlonipho
Ngivame ukuzibuza, kungani abantu bema noma bengalokothi baphathe esinye isigamu sabo ngenhlonipho enkulu.Yize ngivame ukubona abantu behlonipha abantu abangabazi, bavame ukwehluleka ukuhlonipha umuntu abaphila naye impilo ethile.
Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi ngeke kulimaze ukuzama, inhlonipho ejwayelekile nabalingani babo. Masibhekane nakho; abanye abantu abasho nokuthi sawubona komunye nomunye. Abasho ukuthi ngiyabonga, futhi ababambi ngisho nezicabha noma badonse isitulo lapho bedla isidlo sasebusuku, kodwa-ke, bazokwenzela abasebenzisana nabo noma abantu abangabazi.
Izikhathi eziningi, ngenkathi ukungaboni ngaso linye abantu bezosebenzisa ulimi olulimazayo nolungenanhlonipho, ulimi abangasoze balusebenzisa esidlangalaleni, noma phambi kwabanye, kungani belusebenzisa nomuntu abamthandayo?
Ukwethemba
Ukwethemba kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo. Ngaphandle kokwethembana, ubudlelwano benu bubuthakathaka futhi buzodinga ukusebenza.
Ukuthembela kungenye yalezo zinto lapho ulahlekelwa yikho, kuzoba nzima kakhulu ukukuphinda ukuthole.
Ukwethenjwa kungalahleka ngezenzo ezahlukahlukene, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, enye indlela yokulahlekelwa ukwethenjwa komuntu kungokungathembeki okuphindaphindwayo, ngiqonde ukuthi ungamethemba kanjani umuntu olala ephindelela.
Enye indlela ukwethenjwa kuyiphule ngokuphelele lapho kukhona ukungathembeki ebudlelwaneni. Izikhathi eziningi, le ndlela yokwephula ukwethenjwa ayinakulungiswa. Uma kukhona ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni, into enhle kakhulu ukuthi kungabi ukuphulukana nayo, ukuxhumana kungathuthukiswa, inhlonipho ingatholwa, kepha ukwethembana kufanele kutholakale.
Ngenkathi ngisebenze nabantu abafunde ukwethemba futhi, kungenye yezinto ezinzima kakhulu ukuzithola kabusha ngemuva kokuphuka.
Ukudla okudlela endlini
Inhlonipho, ukwethembana nokuxhumana kuyahambisana. Kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwane, ukungabi bikho kwalokhu ekugcineni kuzoba imbangela yokuwa. Futhi yingakho kudinga umzamo oqhubekayo. Ngakho-ke, qiniseka ukuthi unalezi zinto eziyisisekelo zobudlelwano ziqinile ukubugcina uphilile, ugcwalisa futhi uhlala isikhathi eside.