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- Ukwethemba
- Kuthembekile
- Ukuziphatha kobugovu
- Ngokuphambene nokwamukelwa
- Umona
- Ungamsiza kanjani umlingani wakho ngokukhathazeka?
Ubudlelwano abusoze baba ikhekhe. Kwakudinga imizamo kubo bobabili abantu ekuqinisekiseni ukuthi ihlala impilo yonke.
Uma omunye wabo ehlehla noma enqaba ukusebenzisana, inqaba yamaphupho izowa ngokushesha. Inselelo wonke umuntu abhekana nayo ebudlelwaneni ukubhekana nabantu.
Njengoba abantu ababili besondelana, ukuzimela kuvame ukudala inkinga. Izinxushunxushu ezingaphakathi kumuntu zingazamazamisa isisekelo sobudlelwano.
Ukukhathazeka kobudlelwano ingenye yaleyo mizwa emibi enekhono lokucekela phansi yonke into.
Uma usebudlelwaneni, uhlangana nabangane nomndeni womunye nomunye. Umuzwa wokuthi othile ohlangothini lomlingani wakho akakuthandi noma akakuzondi ungavele ungene engqondweni yakho.
La ma-ifs nama-buts angakubeka ngempela endaweni ethambile lapho ungathuthuka khona ukukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni. Ukuphela kwendlela yokusingatha lesi simo ukubamba izimpawu nokuthatha izinyathelo ezidingekayo ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Okubalwe ngezansi ezinye zezimpawu ezibonisa indlela ukukhathazeka okubonakalisa ngayo ubudlelwano.
Ukwethemba
Ukukhathazeka nobudlelwano akusoze kwahambisana. Ngenkathi ubudlelwane budinga abantu ababili ukuba bathembane, ukukhathazeka kwenza okuphambene nakho.
Lowo onenkathazo uyangabaza ngezenzo zomlingani wakhe bese eqala ukubuza konke abakwenzayo.
Imvamisa ukungabaza nokubuza kuyaqondakala futhi kwamukelekile, kepha uma izinto ziba njalo, kuthatha ithuba elingalungile.
Ukukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni kwenza lowo onayo abe nezinkinga zokuthembana. Lapho omunye umuntu eqala ukubona ukuthi umlingani wakhe akakwazi ukuba nokholo nokwethemba kubo, uthando luqala ukuphela futhi kancane kancane bahlukane.
Kuthembekile
Ukuncika, kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo, kungalimaza ubuhlobo. Ungumuntu ngamunye futhi unempilo ehlukile engaphezu kobuhlobo bakho.
Unabangani abavela emsebenzini kanye nabangane bakho bezingane. Ngokuqinisekile ungathanda ukuhlanganyela nabo njalo ngezikhathi ezithile. Umuntu onokwethenjelwa angakuyekisa ukukwenza, futhi umthombo walokhu ungowabo izinkinga zokukhathazeka.
Akekho umuntu ongafuna ukuba ku- ubuhlobo obuncikile lapho umuntu engakhululekile ukuthi aphile impilo yakhe yedwa. Ukukhathazeka, uma kungakhulunywa ngakho ngokushesha, kungaholela ekuziphatheni okuphazamisayo.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu uzokhawulela ukuhamba komlingani wakhe futhi angafuna ukuthi banqume ukuxhumana kwabo nabangane nomndeni wabo.
Ukuziphatha kobugovu
‘Ukukhathazeka kwami konakalisa ubuhlobo bami. ' Abantu bangazwakala bekhuluma ngakho uma sebebonile ukuthi banokukhathazeka kobuhlobo.
Umuntu one ubudlelwano bokukhathazeka iba nobugovu. Lokhu kwenzeka njengoba sebethuthukise ukwesaba ukuthi umlingani wabo angabashiya baye komunye umuntu.
Ukuze kugwenywe lokhu ukuthi kwenzeke, benza ngobugovu. Ungafuna umlingani wakho ukuthi akunake ngokukhethekile, noma ngabe yini.
Ubungafuna ukuthi bachithe isikhathi nawe esikhundleni sabangane babo, noma ngabe kuyenzeka ngezikhathi ezithile. Ungakhohlwa imingcele yobudlelwano futhi ngeke ucabange kabili ngaphambi kokuthatha izinyathelo ezeqile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umlingani wakho uhlala nawe.
Ngokuphambene nokwamukelwa
Uma usebudlelwaneni, kufanele unake imininingwane. Kuyadingeka ukuthi wazi ukuthi yini futhi yini engakwazi ukudala inkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Lapho kungekho ukukhathazeka, uyakwazi ukubona izimo; kanti, lapho kukhona ukukhathazeka, izinzwa ziyafa.
Ukukhathazeka kobudlelwano ngeke ikuvumele ukuthi uthathe isinqumo esinempilo esingaqinisa ubudlelwano bakho esikhundleni salokho uzothatha isinqumo esizonciphisa ukuxhumana kwakho nobabili. Lokhu ekugcineni kuzokuphula njengomuntu futhi, ngoba uzozizwa ungenamandla futhi ubuthakathaka.
Umona
Uzibuza ukuthi kanjani ukukhathazeka kobuhlobo kungalimaza ubuhlobo bakho? Njengoba kwabiwe ngenhla, kukwenza ube nomona. Kukwenza ungabaze zonke izenzo zomlingani wakho.
Kukwenza ubangabaze. Kukwenza uvuse imizwa engemihle kuwe, egcina yonakalise ukubopha kwakho.
Ungamsiza kanjani umlingani wakho ngokukhathazeka?
Ukukhathazeka kuyelapheka. Ngesiqondisi esifanele nokusekelwa ukukhathazeka kobuhlobo kungaphathwa. Ngezansi kunezeluleko ezithile ezisheshayo zokuthi ungamthanda kanjani umuntu onexhala.
- Amaphuzu ashiwo ngaphambili akhombisa ukuthi umuntu ophethwe yi- ukukhathazeka kobuhlobo ube nezinkinga zokuthembana futhi ube nomona kalula. Ukuphela kwendlela yokukhuluma ukwethembeka kubo.
- Ungabi udokotela ngokwakho bese uqala ukwelapha udaba uthi ‘ukukhathazeka konakalisa impilo yami '. Kwelulekwa ukuthi uvakashele uchwepheshe futhi ufune usizo lwabo.
- Benze bazizwe bephephile futhi ubone ukuthi awuyi ndawo. Lezo zinkathazo zobudlelwano obuhluphekayo zihlala zinomuzwa wokuthi uzobashiya, okuqhubeka kudala izinkinga ezahlukahlukene.
- Sekela. Qonda ukuthi umlingani wakho ubhekene nezinkinga futhi udinga usizo lwakho. Bazodinga kakhulu ukwesekwa kwakho. Ngakho-ke, basekele futhi ubasize banqobe le nkinga.
- Ukuhlala nomuntu obhekene nokukhathazeka kobuhlobo kungaba nzima. Kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukugcina impilo engaphezu kobuhlobo bakho ukuze ukwazi ukugcina impilo yakho yengqondo isesimweni esihle. Ungavumeli impilo yabo yengqondo ikuthinte; ngaphandle kwalokho ungacabanga ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni njengenye kuphela inketho.
- Ungaqhathanisi injabulo yakho yobudlelwano nabanye. Incazelo yobudlelwano yehlukile kubo bonke ubuhlobo. Funda ukuchaza injabulo ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi ujabule.