-Delile
- Kuyini okunamathiselwe okuphephile?
- Izindlela zokwandisa okunamathiselwe kwakho kumlingani wakho
- Zwanane
- Izindlela ezincane zokwakha ukusondelana
- Hamba ngemvelo
- Vuleleka ngezidingo zakho nemizwelo yakho ukuze wakhe okunamathiselwe okuphephile
- Zakheleni umphakathi
- Yiba nobulili obuningi
Abezindaba basigibelisa ngezithombe ze- "The Larger-Than-Life Romantic Gesture". Uyazi, lawo ma-movie lapho umfana ephakamisa khona intombi yakhe ngohlelo lwamakheli omphakathi endizeni noma ishiya umzila wamacembe ama-rose kusuka egumbini lokuphumula kuya ekamelweni lokulala, lapho ethola khona ibhokisi elincane elinendandatho enkulu yedayimane.
Akumangalisi ukuthi abantu abasha bacabange ukuthi isenzo esihle lesi singubufakazi bokuthi “Uthando Lweqiniso”, futhi bazishaye indiva zonke izindlela ezincane esingakha ngazo okunamathiselwe okuphephile.
Kunamamodeli ambalwa emithonjeni yezindaba esingayibheka ukuze sikubone lokhu - ukuthi ukwakha okunamathiselwe okuphephile nomlingani wakho nokukugcina kwenziwa ngezinto ezincane eziyinkulungwane.
Kuyini okunamathiselwe okuphephile?
Wonke umuntu udinga okunamathiselwe.
Ukwakha okunamathiselwe okuphephile noshade naye kuyisisekelo sobudlelwano obujabulisayo nobunempilo. Ukunamathiselwa okuphephile kungumuzwa wokuba ngowokuzizwa uxhumeke komunye umuntu nasempilweni emazingeni ajulile. Abantu bayizilwane eziqoqiwe, futhi ngenxa yalokho banesidingo sokuzizwa beyingxenye yeqembu.
Lokhu kuxhumana okuphelele nomunye umuntu kukhiqiza i-loop eneempendulo enhle emithathu.
Ukuzwa lolu hlobo lokuxhumana kusinikeza umuzwa onamandla wokuxhuma ngaphakathi kwethu; ukuzethemba kwethu kwangaphakathi kukhuthazwa ukuthi kuhlanganyele empilweni ngezindlela ezisisiza ukuthi sakhe ukuzazi, futhi lokhu kuhlanganyela kukhulisa imizwa yethu yekhono nokuzethemba.
Ukuzethemba okuphezulu kusivumela ukuthi sixhumane kalula nabanye. Ngakho-ke lokhu kudala isiyingi esiphelele sokunamathiselwe okuphephile.
Izindlela zokwandisa okunamathiselwe kwakho kumlingani wakho
Ngokwakha okunamathiselwe okuphephile noshade naye, gxila ekwelapheni noma yikuphi okunamathiselwe okungavikelekile kungenzeka ukuthi uqhubeka nobudlelwano bangaphambilini.
Amandla okunamathela ngokuphepha komunye umuntu akhiwa (noma cha) ebuntwaneni. Uma ubona ukuthi awunawo amandla athuthukiswe kahle okunamathisela komunye, ungahle uthande ukusebenza nomelaphi ngezindlela ongelapha ngazo.
Uma ungakwenzi lokho, uzibeka engozini yokugwema okunamathiselwe, ongakwazi ukuthatha imivuzo ecebile yokufaka kumlingani wakho okuzoletha empilweni yakho. Ukusiza ekwelapheni nasekuphenduleni umbuzo, ukuthi ungabakha kanjani ubuhlobo obuphephile, zama okulandelayo:
- Sebenzela ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho, usebenzisa izinsizakusebenza ezinjengezincwadi nomelaphi wakho. Umuzwa oqinile wokuzethemba usiza ekwakheni okunamathiselwe okuphephile noshade naye.
- Funda ukubona, ukuhlonipha, kanye nokuveza izidingo zakho ezingokomzwelo ngendlela ezinakekelayo futhi engaphoqeleli noma ekhokhisayo.
- Ubungozi bokuba yiqiniso nokuqondile. Ungadlali imidlalo noma uzame ukukhohlisa intshisekelo yomlingani wakho. Kuphela ngokukhombisa ukuthi ungubani ngempela lapho uthola khona uthando lwangempela.
- Prakthiza ukwamukela wena nabanye. Ungagxeki kakhulu.
- Yeka ukusabela bese uqala ukuphendula.
Ufunda kanjani ukuxazulula izingxabano nokuyekethisa ngokombono wokuthi "thina"?
Zwanane
Le yinto encane kangako kepha ibaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni okunamathiselwe okuphephile noshade naye.
Lapho uzwa ukuthi umlingani wakho uveza ini, uyakuqinisekisa. Ake sithi uphume ngemoto. Ninezingoma ezimnandi emsakazweni futhi nobabili nizizwa nikhululekile. Umlingani wakho ubheke ngaphandle kwewindi lemoto, bese wenza into angayiqapheli: “Hawu, ukukhanya manje kumnandi nje.”
Ungavele nje unqekuzise ikhanda uqhubeke. Kepha ukuqinisa okunamathiselwe kwakho, yenza into encane: "Yebo, kunjalo impela."
Khona lapho uthumele umlayezo kumlingani wakho ukuthi uzwile ukuthi bathini nokuthi uhlanganyele nabo ekuboneni kwabo. Lokho kuzwakala kukuhle futhi njalo kuwuphendula umbuzo, ukuthi ungenza kanjani umlingani wakho azizwe evikelekile.
Izindlela ezincane zokwakha ukusondelana
Kuyini okunamathiselwe okuphephile ngaphandle kwezinga elijulile lokusondelana nomlingani wakho? Lokho kusho, wena nomlingani wakho akudingeki nenze umhlangano wokulungisa impilo ukwengeza ukusondelana kwakho.
Kunezindlela eziningi kakhulu ezincane ongazenza zokwakha okunamathiselwe okuphephile noshade naye-
- Ukuletha ikhofi yasekuseni elungiselelwe ngendlela abayithandayo.
- Ukuba nengxoxo yomuntu nomuntu wemizuzu eyi-10 ngaphandle kwamaselula, kumane kugxilwe ekushintshaneni.
- Ukuncoma okusheshayo kokudla okumnandi okwenziwe ngumlingani wakho
- Ukubonga umlingani wakho ngokucosha indawo yokuhlanza eyomile.
Hamba ngemvelo
Izinzuzo "zokugeza amahlathi" zibhalwe emasikweni aseJapan. Kodwa bewazi ukuthi ukuhamba ndawonye kuyasiza ekwakheni ukusondelana okuphephile noshade naye?
Ukuhamba kancane nangokucabanga emvelweni kuyindlela encane, engabizi ukunamathisela kumlingani wakho. Ungahle ulingeke ukuthi wenze okuthile eduze nasekhaya, njengokuhamba ngezitolo ndawonye, kepha lokhu ngeke kukunikeze ukuthatha okuhle okufanayo.
Ukuhamba ngezitolo kuqukethe umuzwa oqinile impela wesikhuthazo (futhi ungahle ulingeke ukuthi usebenzise lesi sikhathi ukwenza futhi imisebenzi ethile, eyehlula inhloso yokunamathisela yalolu hlelo).
Vuleleka ngezidingo zakho nemizwelo yakho ukuze wakhe okunamathiselwe okuphephile
Udinga ukubuyisela ubuchopho bakho ekwakheni izibopho ezivikelekile nomlingani wakho.
Ukwabelana ngezidingo zakho ngqo, kunokusebenzisa isitayela sokuxhumana "sokudlala umdlalo", kuyisihluthulelo sokwakha okunamathiselwe okuphephile nomlingani wakho. Lapho umlingani wakho ekubuza ukuthi kukhona yini okungahambi kahle, mtshele ukuthi kuyini, kunokuba usho ukuthi “akukho” okungacacile bese ukhathazeka ngakho.
Uma usho izidingo zakho ngqo, umlingani wakho uyakhululeka ngoba akudingeki baqagele ukuthi kwenzekani ekhanda lakho. Lokhu kuhumushela kokunamathiselwe okungcono phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Zakheleni umphakathi
Ukuba nezinamathiselo ngaphandle kobuhlobo bakho kunomphumela omuhle ekusizeni nina nobabili ukuthi ninamathele komunye nomunye. Ukubandakanyeka kwakho emaqenjini angomakhelwane, indlu yokukhonza oyikhethayo, umsebenzi wokuzithandela, isikole sezingane zakho, konke lokhu kuyasiza ekuzizweleni kwakho futhi kusiza ekwakheni ubudlelwano obuphephile noshade naye.
Yiba nobulili obuningi
Impilo yezocansi ekhulayo izosiza kakhulu ekwakheni okunamathiselwe okuphephile noshade naye. Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuqinisa ukunamathela kwakho okuphephile kumlingani wakho ukuya ocansini.
Ama-hormone akhishwe ngemuva kwe-orgasm, i-oxytocin - afakazelwa ukuthi akhulisa imizwa yakho yokuxhumana nokwethembana. Kuyinto encane kodwa emangalisayo, akunjalo?
Ukwakha ukusondelana okuphephile noshade naye ukuze uthole injabulo ehlala njalo
Ngokulandela le mibono uzokwazi hhayi kuphela ukwakha ukunamathela okuphephile noshade naye kepha futhi uzuze izinzuzo zobuhlobo obunomvuzo obunjalo eminyakeni eminingi ezayo. Njengoba okunamathiselwe okuphephile kuyisixhumanisi sanoma yibuphi ubudlelwano obujabulisayo futhi kuzikweleta ukuthi usebenze ngokungaguquguquki ekwakheni okunamathiselwe okuphephile nokuhlala isikhathi eside nomlingani wakho.