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- Yini i-narcissism?
- 1. Ingxoxo hoarder
- 2. Ukuphazamisa ingxoxo
- 3. Ukuthanda ukwephula imithetho!
- 4. Ukwephula imingcele
- 5. Ukubonisa isithombe okungamanga
- 6. Ilungelo
- 7. Kungathandeka kakhulu
- 8. Ziqhayise
- 9. Imizwa engemihle
- 10. Ukuphathwa
Kulula ukubiza noma ngubani njengo- “narcissist”, umuntu ochitha isikhathi esiningi ecabanga ngokweqile noma obonakala engangabazi, kodwa ubuntu be-nologissistic bokugula abuvamile — okulinganiselwa ku-1% wabantu.
Yini i-narcissism?
I-Narcissism yigama eliyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho okungase kubonakale: Ihlukile kunensalela yokuzethemba, ehlanganisa isidingo sokubonga, umuzwa wokuhlukanisa, nokusilela kozwela, kanye nezinye izici ezingakhombisa ukulimala ebudlelwaneni.
Ngaphezu kokucabanga ukuthi baphakeme futhi bafaneleke ukwedlula abanye abantu abathanda ukucasula kaningi bayavuma ukuthi nabo bazicabangela bona bodwa.
Abantu abaneNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) banomuzwa ogcwele umoya wokubaluleka kwabo kanye nesidingo sokunconywa. Labo abane-NPD, bakholelwa ukuthi bangcono kunabanye futhi abanandaba nemizwa yabanye abantu. Ukunamathela kumalungu omndeni wama-narcissist kungaba kakhulu ukuthatha.
Kepha ngemuva kwalesi sifihla sokuzethemba okukhulu kunesimo sokuzethemba esonakaliswe kalula, esisengozini yokugxekwa okuncane.
Ubudlelwano obunjalo bungaba yingozi futhi nazi izimpawu ezi-10 ezisobala zokuba kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo nomuntu othanda izihibe noma onomndeni wama-narcissist:
1. Ingxoxo hoarder
AbakwaNarcissists bayathanda ukukhuluma ngabo futhi abakuniki ithuba lokuthi ubambe iqhaza engxoxweni yabantu ababili. Imvamisa ulwela ukwaba imibono yakho noma uzwe imizwa yakho.
Noma ngabe uyakwazi ukuzwakala, uma kungavumelani ne-narcissist, imibono / imibono yakho kungenzeka ichithwe, ilungiswe noma inganakwa. Bahlale becabanga ukuthi bazi kangcono!
2. Ukuphazamisa ingxoxo
Ngenkathi abantu abaningi benomkhuba obuthakathaka wokuxhumana wokuphazamisa abanye, i-narcissist iyaphazamisa futhi isheshe iguqule ukugxila ibuyele kubo. Abakhombisi isithakazelo sangempela kuwe.
3. Ukuthanda ukwephula imithetho!
Umuntu osebenzisa izihibe uyaziqhenya ngokubalekela ukwephula imithetho kanye nezinkambiso zomphakathi, njengokusika umugqa, ukweba izinto, ukweqa ama-aphoyintimenti amaningi, noma ukungalaleli imithetho yomgwaqo.
4. Ukwephula imingcele
Kukhombisa ngamabomu ukungayinaki imicabango yabanye abantu, imizwa yabo, izinto abanazo, nendawo yomzimba. Dlula imikhawulo yabo futhi isebenzise abanye ngaphandle kokucabangela noma ukuzwela. Imvamisa kwephula izethembiso nezibopho kaninginingi. Kukhombisa inani elincane lecala futhi kusolwe isisulu ngokuntuleka kwenhlonipho komuntu.
5. Ukubonisa isithombe okungamanga
Iningi lama-narcissist lithanda ukwenza izinto ezizojabulisa abanye ngokuzenza zibukeke kahle ngaphandle. Lo mkhuba ungazibonakalisa, kwezothando, ngokomzimba, ngokwenhlalo, ngokwenkolo, ngokwezimali, ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo, ngokomsebenzi noma kwezemfundo.
Kulezi zimo, basebenzisa kalula abantu, izinto, isimo, kanye / noma okufeziwe ukuzimela ngokwabo, ukumboza lokho okubonakalayo, okunganele "okungokoqobo".
6. Ilungelo
Imvamisa balindela ukuthola ukuphathwa okukhethekile kwabanye. Balindele ukuthi abanye banakekele izidingo zabo ngokushesha, ngaphandle kokubacabangela. Ngokusho kwabo, umhlaba uyabajikeleza.
7. Kungathandeka kakhulu
AbakwaNarcissist banobuntu obuthandekayo futhi banamakhono aqinile okukholisa. Lapho bezama ukubamba umuntu (ukuze bazenelise), bakwenza uzizwe ukhethekile futhi ufunwa.
Kodwa-ke, uma sebetholile abakufunayo futhi bengasenandaba nawe, bangahle bakulahle ngaphandle kokucabanga kabili.
AmaNarcissist angahlanganyela kakhulu futhi abe nobungane, inqobo nje uma ugcwalisa abakufisayo, futhi ubanake bonke.
8. Ziqhayise
AmaNarcissist ajwayele ukuzicabangela njengeqhawe noma iqhawekazi, isikhulu noma inkosazana, noma omunye wohlobo olukhethekile.
Abanye abakwa-narcissist banomuzwa wehaba wokuzibona bebalulekile, futhi bakholelwa ukuthi abanye ngeke baphile noma baphile ngaphandle kweminikelo yakhe ekhazimulayo.
9. Imizwa engemihle
Ama-narcissist amaningi ajabulela ukusabalalisa nokudala imizwa engemihle yokufuna ukunakwa, azizwe enamandla, futhi akwenze uzizwe ungavikelekile. Bacasulwa kalula kunoma yikuphi ukushelela kwangempela noma okubonakalayo noma ukunganaki. Bangaphonsa intukuthelo uma ungavumelani nabo, noma wehluleka ukufeza abakulindele.
Zizwela kakhulu ekugxekweni, futhi zivamise ukuphendula ngengxabano eshubile noma ngokuziphatha okubandayo. AbakwaNarcissists bavame ukushesha ukwahlulela futhi bakugxeke. Amanye ama-narcissist athanda ukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo. Bayakusola cishe ngakho konke futhi bakwenze uzizwe uphansi ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo okuntekenteke, okubenza bazizwe bengcono ngabo.
10. Ukuphathwa
Umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi angasebenzisa umlingani wakhe othandana naye ukuhlangabezana nezidingo ezingenangqondo zokuzenzela izidingo zakhe, ukufeza amaphupho angafezeki, noma ukufihla ukungaziboni namaphutha abazibona bekuwo. Bathanda ukuthathela abanye izinqumo ukuze bahambisane nezidingo zabo.
Enye indlela ama-narcissist abasebenzisa ngayo ngecala, ngokuziveza njengesisulu futhi bakubeke icala ngakho. Bathatha imizwa yakho, futhi bakukhohlise ukuze wenze ukuzidela okungenangqondo.