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Ukwethembana nenhlonipho kuyisisekelo sabo bonke ubudlelwano babantu, ikakhulukazi umshado. Ngabe oshade naye angathembela ezwini lakho ngokungaguquguquki? Ubudlelwano bomshado abunakuphila noma buhlale ngaphandle bobabili abalingani babe nobuqotho kuzo zombili izenzo namazwi. Ukwehluleka okuthile akunakugwenywa kuyo yonke imishado. Ngakho-ke, ukwethembana akwakhiwa ngokungabikho kokwehluleka njengokuzama okwangempela kwabo bobabili ophathina ukuzibophezela nokuzama ukulungisa lokho kwehluleka. Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, ukwehluleka empeleni kungaholela ekwethembaneni okukhulu lapho kusingathwa ngokwethembeka nangothando.
Sonke sithola ukukhaphela ebuhlotsheni bomshado. Izinhlobo zokukhaphela ebudlelwaneni zingahluka ngokuya ngomuntu okukhaphele. Ukukhaphela ebuhlotsheni bomshado kungavela ngendlela yokukhulunyelwa ekuthengeni okungahlakaniphile noma ukuqanjelwa amanga ngumngane. Umonakalo ochazwe lapha wuhlobo oluvela entweni ebucayi njengokungathembeki.
Umonakalo wenkohliso
Ngiwubonile umonakalo wenkohliso emishadweni eminingi. Kuguqula ubudlelwano bube nokunakekela nokucabangela kube ngumzabalazo wamandla. Uma isisekelo sokwethembana sephuliwe, umlingani owoniwe ucishe agxile kuphela ekuzameni ukulawula nokunciphisa ubuhlungu balokho kukhaphela ebudlelwaneni bomshado. Okuthile ngaphakathi kithi kuthinteka lapho sikhohlisiwe futhi sikhashelwe. Konakalisa inkolelo kumlingani wethu, kithi futhi kusenze siqale ukubuza konke ebesikukholelwa ngomshado wethu.
Abantu abakhashelwa ebudlelwaneni bomshado bavame ukuzibuza ukuthi bekungenzeka kanjani babe yiziphukuphuku noma babe nesibindi sokuthembela kwabalingani babo. Ihlazo lokusizakala lokujulisa isilonda. Imvamisa umlingani olimele ukholelwa ukuthi ubengakuvimbela ukukhashelwa emshadweni ukube bebekhaliphile, bephapheme kakhulu noma besengozini encane.
Umonakalo owenziwe kozakwethu abathola ukukhashelwa ebudlelwaneni bomshado imvamisa uyefana noma ngabe banquma ukubuqeda ubudlelwano noma cha. Umlingani okhashelwe uqala ukuvala isifiso sobudlelwano. Okhashelwe unomuzwa wokuthi akekho umuntu ongathenjwa ngempela futhi kungaba ubuwula ukuphinde uthembe umuntu kulelo zinga futhi. Oshade naye ozwa ubuhlungu bokungathembeki emshadweni uvame ukwakha udonga lomzwelo olubazungezile ukuze angabe esabuzwa ubuhlungu futhi. Kuphephe kakhulu ukulindela okuncane kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo.
Abalingani abathengisiwe bavame ukuba ngabaseshi be-amateur.
Omunye wemiphumela yokukhaphela emshadweni ukuthi oshade naye aqaphele kakhulu ekuqapheni nasekubuzeni konke okuphathelene nomlingani wakhe. Basola kakhulu izinhloso zomlingani wabo. Imvamisa, kubo bonke obunye ubudlelwano babo bavame ukuzibuza ukuthi omunye umuntu ufunani ngempela. Baphinde babe nokuzwela okukhulu kunoma ikuphi ukuxhumana lapho bezizwa bengcindezi yokwenza omunye umuntu ajabule, ikakhulukazi uma bezwa ukuthi kudinga ukuzidela okuthile ngakubo. Esikhundleni sokufuna izindlela zokuthi ungakudlula kanjani ukungathembeki emshadweni abashadayo baba nobudlova kubantu abaseduze.
Umonakalo omkhulu ukukhaphela ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo emshadweni yinkolelo yokuthi ubudlelwano bangempela abuphephile nokulahleka kwethemba lokusondelana kwangempela. Lokhu kulahleka kwethemba kuvame ukuholela ekubhekaneni nabo bonke ubudlelwano buqhelile. Ukusondelana sekumele kumelele okuthile okuyingozi kakhulu. Oshade naye ozizwa ekhashelwe ebuhlotsheni uqala ukucindezela izifiso zokuxhumana okujulile nabanye ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Labo abasebudlelwaneni nomlingani okhashelwe kungenzeka bangasiboni lesi simo sokuzivikela ngoba angahle abonakale efanayo ebusweni. Indlela yokuxoxa ingabonakala ifana kepha inhliziyo ayisasebenzi.
Okungenzeka ukuthi into elimaza kakhulu ukukhaphela okukhulu ebuhlotsheni ukuzizonda okungakhula. Lokhu kuvela enkolelweni yokuthi ukukhashelwa emshadweni bekungavinjelwa. Kubuye kube nomphumela wokukholelwa ukuthi awathandeki. Iqiniso lokuthi umlingani ababemethemba angakwazi ukwehlisa isithunzi futhi alahle ukwethenjwa emshadweni kuwubufakazi balokhu.
Izindaba ezimnandi ukuthi noma ngabe umshado uyaqhubeka noma cha umlingani okhonjiwe angathola ukuphulukiswa futhi athole ithemba lokusondelana kwangempela futhi. Ukubhekana nokukhaphela emshadweni kudinga ukutshalwa kwangempela kwesikhathi, umzamo nosizo. Lapho oshade naye ekhaphela ukwethembana kwakho, ukuyeka ukuzenyeza ngokuxolela kuyisiqalo. Ukwedlula ukukhaphela ebudlelwaneni kudinga ukubekezela okukhulu nokuqonda kubo bobabili abalingani.