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- Siwugcina kanjani umlilo wasekhaya uvutha emuva kwayo yonke le minyaka?
- Iseluleko Sonyaka Wokuqala
- Iseluleko seminyaka eyi-10
- Imicabango Yokugcina
Isenzo sangempela somshado senzeka enhliziyweni, hhayi ebholeni noma esontweni noma esinagogeni. Kuyisinqumo osenzayo - hhayi osukwini lwakho lomshado kuphela, kodwa kaninginingi - futhi lokho kukhetha kubonakala endleleni ophatha ngayo umyeni noma unkosikazi wakho.
UBarbara De Angelis
Amanani abhaliwe ngomehluko omkhulu phakathi komshado omusha nomshado onenkathi. Ngempela, isigaba "se-honeymoon" somshado osafufusa sibonakala ngomqondo omusha nokuzibuza. Eqinisweni, ophathina bangabona abanye babo ababalulekile bengenamaphutha. Abantu abasanda kushada bangaba nesimo sengqondo sokuzikhandla ngokuqina komshado, beqiniseka ukuthi umshado wabo ungacishe “ubekezelele zonke izinto” ngomlingo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umshado weminyaka eyishumi ngokuqinisekile ubhekane nochungechunge lwezivunguvungu ngenkathi futhi - ngokufanelekile - ubungaza ezinye iziqongo zezintaba endleleni. Uma umshado weminyaka eyishumi ubhekene nezinselelo, bathambekele ekugxileni kokugula nokujwayela.
Siwugcina kanjani umlilo wasekhaya uvutha emuva kwayo yonke le minyaka?
Ake sibheke ezinye izeluleko ngemishado “esanda kuphuma esangweni,” kanye nemishado eqala eminyakeni eyishumi yesibili. Ngenkathi iseluleko singahluka ngokuya ngokuthi ubutholaphi ubambiswano lwakho kulokhu kuqhubeka kwalesi sikhathi, ukuphela kuyafana. Iseluleko esihle singakha impilo yesikhathi eside kulabo abashadayo abahlose ukuchuma emashumini eminyaka azayo.
Iseluleko Sonyaka Wokuqala
1. Imali embizeni
Imibhangqwana ibonakala ibona ukusondelana okuphezulu phakathi nonyaka wokuqala womshado. Beshukunyiswa inkanuko yezocansi, abasanda kushada bavame ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi “esakeni,” iphethini evame ukuncipha eminyakeni elandelayo. Iseluleko esingajwayelekile? Ngenyanga yokuqala yomshado, faka idola embizeni yomakhi njalo lapho wena nomlingani wakho nithola ukusondelana ngokocansi. Eminyakeni yekhalenda elandelayo, qiniseka ukuthi ukhipha lawo madola embizeni yamasoni njalo lapho uhlangabezana nobudlelwano bezocansi. Unyaka ngamunye odlulayo, uma wena nomlingani wakho nikwazi ukuzibandakanya ekusondelaneni okuningi njengoba wenza phakathi nenyanga yokuqala yomshado, mhlawumbe wenza kahle kakhulu.
2. Funda ukuthi ungabandakanyeka kanjani ekulaleleni okusebenzayo
Ukulalela okusebenzayo kuyindlela yokuhambela ukuxhumana komlingani wakho, ngenkathi uqinisekisa okushiwo ngezitatimende ezifingqiwe. Khombisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ulalele lokho abakufunayo nezidingo zabo ngokuthi, "Ngiyakuzwa usho" njengomholi wokuphinda lokho okusanda kushiwo. Sebenzisa izitatimende "ngiyazizwa" lapho wabelana nomlingani wakho ngezinjabulo zakho nokukhathazeka kwakho.
3. Ukuhlolwa
Ngigqugquzela bonke abasanda kushada ukuthi bavakashele umeluleki noma isazi somoya ukuthola "ukuhlolwa kokuphela konyaka" lapho kuphothulwa unyaka wokuqala womshado. Inhloso yalolu hambo lokwelashwa akukhona ukubheka izinkinga emshadweni noma ukudala izinkinga. Inhloso ukufingqa ukuthi umshado uhambe kuphi ngonyaka wokuqala, futhi ucabangele ukuthi umshado ungabheka kuphi ngokulandelayo. Lokhu kuvivinya kungenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ongazenzela umshado omusha. Akudingeki ukuthi usayine inkontileka nodokotela bengqondo ukuze uhlanganyele emsebenzini wobudlelwano obuyimpumelelo futhi obunenhloso. Umpristi, umfundisi, kanye norabi wakho wasendaweni ubudlelwano obukhululekile nobutholakalayo.
Iseluleko seminyaka eyi-10
1. Kugcine kusha
Uma usondela eminyakeni eyishumi emshadweni wakho womshado, usuvele uyakwazi ukubaluleka kokugcina ubudlelwano buqhubekela phambili ngendlela enhle futhi enikeza impilo. Kubaluleke impela ukufaka "ukusha" enyunyaneni ngokwenza izinto ezintsha, ukuqhubeka nokwenza ngcono ukuxhumana, nokubungaza indaba "yethu." Kunesizathu sokuthi wena nomunye wakho obalulekile nikwenze kwaba kude kangaka. Unendaba enhle.
2. Hlonipha ingqophamlando
Eminyakeni eyishumi, izingane ziyakhula, izinwele sezimpunga, futhi nomsebenzi uyaqhubeka nokuvela. Njengoba ungazitholi lezi zinsuku emuva, kungani ungazigubhi? Hlonipha ingqophamlando ngokuthatha uhambo ndawonye, ukuvuselela izifungo zakho, futhi ulondoloze indaba yomshado ngokwenza i-journaling kanye ne-scrapbooking. Mema abantu ababalulekile empilweni yakho ukuthi nabo babelane ngezimangaliso zakho. Mhlawumbe uhambo lomndeni lungahleleka?
3. Yamukela ukuguga
Sonke sisendleleni eyodwa eya emathuneni. Usuku ngalunye oludlulayo, imizimba yethu iyawohloka, amandla ethu engqondo ancipha, futhi asisakwazi ukwenza zonke izinto esasikade sikwazi ukuzenza. Kungashiwo okufanayo ngabalingani bethu bomshado. Ungabakhalimeli abangane asebekhulile, funda ukuthi ungakwamukela kanjani. Eqinisweni, yamukela iminyaka. Imibimbi itshela umhlaba ukuthi unokuhlakanipha okuthile ongabelana ngakho. Uma wabelana ngalokho okwaziyo, obunye ubudlelwano buzozuza.
Imicabango Yokugcina
Iwashi liyabaza, bangane. Akunakugwenywa. Impilo. Njengoba udlula ezigabeni zomshado, qaphela ukuthi imibhangqwana eminingi ibikade ikhona. Kukhona ithuba elanele lokwenza ubudlelwano bakho ngokufunda ekuhlakanipheni nasekuhlangenwe nakho kwabanye. Vulekeni, bangane, ekuthululelweni okusha kwamathuba, ukuzijabulisa, nenjabulo yomshado.