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- Wenzani lapho okukuthakazelayo kuphenduke isikhwebu
- Ungayithola kanjani inkululeko ebudlelwaneni?
- Zibuze, ingabe ubuhlobo bakho buhlanganisa inkululeko?
- Ukuzikhandla kunomvuzo
- Akukho lutho oluzizwa luphephe ngaphezu kokuba yingxenye yomshini ogcotshwe kahle
Ngemuva kokuchitha ingxenye engcono emasontweni ambalwa edlule, ngigqilaza ukubuyisela ikhaya lethu esimweni esihle ngemuva kokulungiswa isikhathi eside, ngizithola ngiphupha ngenkululeko.
Ngichithe amahora amaningi ngikhetha amakhabethe ezimpahla zokugqoka, amadivayisi wenhlangano yasekhaya namabhasikidi, ngiwahlanganisa ‘kuze kube sekuseni, ngithuthe futhi ngifake izinto zasendlini. Ngakho-ke into engiyifunayo kuphela ukuthi ngikhululeke kulo msebenzi ozizwa ungapheli.
Ngenkathi ngisebenza nomyeni wami, ngiphupha ngokuthi ikhaya lethu lizobukeka kanjani lapho kwenziwa umsebenzi omkhulu. Sizoba ngcono kangakanani ukusebenza? Ukuthola esikudingayo esinqeni seminwe yethu, kunokufuna esikhaleni esincane ebesivame ukuzikhama kuso.
Ngicabanga ukuthi kuzoba mnandi kanjani lapho yonke into isinendawo yayo futhi sonke sinesikhala esithe xaxa. Ngiphefumula ngikhululekile ngokwazi ukuthi ngenkathi sichitha amahora amaningi kulo msebenzi obonakala ungapheli, sengiyabona manje intambo. Kungenze ngabona ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlungu bekufanele.
Lapho amaklayenti ami ekugcineni ethola umuntu abekade emfuna impilo yabo yonke, baphefumula ngokukhululeka. Yonke leyo minyaka yokuthandana ekugcineni iholele kulo mzuzu.
Ngenkathi bekumodi yokuphola (futhi ngiyalandisa ngokuqinisekile), ubuhlungu bokuba ngivule intelezi, kaninginingi, usuku nosuku, bezizwa bungapheli.
Wenzani lapho okukuthakazelayo kuphenduke isikhwebu
Ukuhlangana nomuntu omusha; ungazi noma uzoxhuma yini; ukuzizwa ungaqinisekile ngokuthi uzobanika yini ithuba lesibili; bekhathazeka ukuthi ngeke bafune; izimali zokutshala imali zokwazi othile - Kuwumsebenzi onzima ngempela.
Kepha ngemuva kwakho konke lokho, ngemuva kokubambisana futhi mhlawumbe nokushada, ungaqhubeka nokuthola ukuthi zonke lezo zinto ezakuthakazelisa ekuqaleni, manje ziyakucasula ngempela!
Isimo sabo sokungakhathaleli manje sesiphenduka ubudedengu nokunganaki. Ukuziphatha kwabo okuhle manje kubizwa ngokuthi yi-workaholism. Imvula yabo ithatha isikhathi eside kakhulu ngakho-ke bachitha wonke amanzi ashisayo, noma bageza kakhulu njalo ne-B. uvukela wena.
Futhi, kungemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa ngisho neminyaka yokuthola izindlela zokukhulumisana, lapho ubona khona ukuthi wonke umsebenzi owufakile ekuqondaneni ekugcineni usuzuzile, futhi ungaqala ukuphefumula kalula futhi uzizwe mahhala.
Ungayithola kanjani inkululeko ebudlelwaneni?
Into iningi labantu lifisa ukukhululeka ebudlelwaneni futhi lifune izindlela zokugcina inkululeko ebudlelwaneni.
Ngakho-ke, kunokuba benze umzamo wokuqondana ngempela ekuqaleni kobudlelwano babo, bancamela indlela abazizwa ngayo benethemba lokuthi izinto zizozithuthukisa bebodwa. Bangakholelwa ngisho nokuthi bacela kakhulu abalingani babo noma babe nokulindela okungavamile, okungenzeka noma kungenjalo. Kepha uma uzizwa ungaqondakali, ungaziswa, noma ungaphephile, lokhu akuwona umuzwa ofuna ukuhlala nawo.
Zibuze, ingabe ubuhlobo bakho buhlanganisa inkululeko?
Abantu abaningi banenkolelo yamanga yokuthi uma umthanda ngempela umuntu onaye, futhi uma uqhubeka ushada nalowo, konke kufanele kuvele kuvele ngokwemvelo. Iqiniso lodaba ukuthi lokhu akunjalo nje.
Uma uzizwa sengathi usebenza kanzima kakhulu, khona-ke ngikuthathela isigqoko. Kunezikhathi ezimpilweni zethu lapho kunje. Lokhu ngikusho njengomelaphi womshado nanjengowesifazane oshadile cishe iminyaka eyi-19.
Ukuzikhandla kunomvuzo
Lapho umlingani wakho ekubona wenza umzamo wangempela, kuvame ukubakhuthaza ukuthi nabo bafune ukungena ngaphakathi bese kuba ubuhlobo obukhululayo. Ubudlelwano obukhombisa inkululeko futhi obungakubophi ekubeni yilokho ofuna ukuba yikho.
Akukho lutho oluzizwa luphephe ngaphezu kokuba yingxenye yomshini ogcotshwe kahle
Ngenkathi mina nomyeni wami singavumelani ngakho konke, ukukwazi ukusebenza kahle ngenqubo eyinselele kakhulu kube yisifundo esihle kakhulu futhi kukhuthaze nokukhula.
Ngingathanda ukuzwa ukuthi uzisingatha kanjani izinselelo zakho empilweni. Futhi kulabo kini abathandanayo futhi abanethemba lokuthi ngelinye ilanga bazoshada, ingabe niyakwazi ukugcina umuzwa wenkululeko yenu ngenkathi nisematasa nifuna enye ingxenye yenu?