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- I-narcissist yangempela - ukuphazamiseka kobuntu
- Uyini umzali we-narcissist?
- Ngabe ukubambisana ngokubambisana nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist kungenzeka?
- Izindlela zokubhekana nomzali osebenza narcissist
Ukuba nomndeni ophelele kuyinto ebesikade siphupha ngayo sonke. Kodwa-ke, zingaba khona izimo eziningi ezingaholela umndeni ngezindlela ezihlukile futhi indlela enhle yokukhulisa izingane zakho ingokubambisana ngokubambisana.
Le yindlela enhle yokuthi bobabili abazali baqhubeke nokuhlala ezimpilweni zezingane zabo babelana ngomthwalo wokukhulisa ingane.
Sonke siyakuqonda ukubaluleka kokuba bobabili abazali bakhulise ingane kepha kuthiwani uma umzali osebenza naye eyi-narcissist?
Ngabe kukhona nezindlela eziqinisekisiwe zokubhekana nomzali osebenza narcissist?
I-narcissist yangempela - ukuphazamiseka kobuntu
Sizwile igama elithi narcissist kaningi kakhulu futhi kaningi, lisetshenziselwa abantu abayize kakhulu noma abazithathela ngokweqile. Kungenzeka ukuthi yenziwa yathandwa ngezinye zezici ezincane zomuntu othanda izihibe kepha akuyona incazelo yangempela yaleli gama.
I-narcissist yangempela ayikona ukuba yize noma ukuzidela, kunalokho ungumuntu onenkinga yobuntu futhi kufanele aphathwe kanjalo. Abantu abatholakala ukuthi baneNarcissistic Personality Disorder noma i-NPD yilabo bantu abasebenza impilo yabo yansuku zonke ngokusebenzisa izindlela zokukhohlisa, amanga nenkohliso.
Abakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obuseduze nabalingani babo ngisho nezingane zabo ngenxa yokukhohlisa kwabo, amanga, abangenalo uzwela, nokuthambekela kwabo kokuhlukumeza phakathi kwabantu.
Ngeshwa, akubona bonke abantu abangatholakala benalesi sifo ngoba bangazifihla izimpawu zabo ngomhlaba wangaphandle. Ngokudabukisayo, abangani nomndeni wabo abaseduze abakwaziyo lokhu futhi bazobona ukuthi ziyingozi kanjani izinganekwane.
Uyini umzali we-narcissist?
Kuyinselelo ngempela ukubhekana nomlingani we-narcissist kepha yini ongayenza uma usuvele unezingane? Ingabe zikhona izindlela zokubhekana nomzali osebenza narcissist? Kungenzeka yini ukuthi bahlale ebudlelwaneni nezingane zabo naphezu kokuphazamiseka kobuntu babo?
Umzali othanda ukuhlanekezela umuntu obheka izingane zakhe njengonodoli noma njengomncintiswano.
Ngeke babavumele badlule izinga labo lokuzimela futhi bazobadikibalisa nangokuthuthuka kwabo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kubo ukuthi bakhulu kangakanani nokuthi bangakuthola kanjani ukunakwa konke noma ngabe kubangela ukuthi umndeni uhlupheke.
Esinye sezimo ezisabekayo ongake ungene kuzo ukubona ukuthi oshade naye ungumqaphi.
Ungazivumela kanjani izingane zakho ukuba zikhuliswe umuntu onenkinga yobuntu? Izinqumo zizosinda kakhulu ngalesi simo. Esikhathini esiningi kunalokho, umzali usengakhetha ukuvumela ukuba ngumzali ngokubambisana enethemba lokuthi kunethuba lokuthi umlingani wakhe ongumlingisi angashintsha.
Ngabe ukubambisana ngokubambisana nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist kungenzeka?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlelwano esinabo, kufanele sifunde ukukhomba amafulegi abomvu ikakhulukazi lapho isisu sakho sikutshela ukuthi okuthile akujwayelekile.
Kwehlukile lapho sizama ukuveza ubudlelwano bethu nabalingani bethu kodwa ukubhekana nabo njengabazali abangabahlanganyeli kuyizinga elisha ngokuphelele. Akekho umzali ofuna izingane zakhe zikhule zinendawo eyihlukumezayo ingasaphathwa eyokukwazi ukuthola umqondo ofanayo nowomzali wazo ongumlwelwe.
Uma kwenzeka ukuthi umzali osebenza naye anqume ukuhlala, kusenezinto okufanele zicatshangelwe ngoba umthwalo wokwenza ukubambisana kubazali kuzoba umthwalo omkhulu.
- Usuke wacabanga ngezindlela ongasiza ngazo izingane zakho ukuthi zizizwe zithandwa futhi zihlonishwa noma ngabe umzali wakho angabambisani naye?
- Ngisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokubachazela ukuphazamiseka kobuntu bomzali wabo narcissistic?
- Yiziphi izindlela ongazisebenzisa ukukusiza ekubhekaneni nomzali osebenza ngokuzithokozisa?
- Ngabe zikhona izindlela zokuthi ungazivikela kanjani wena nezingane zakho ngokuhlaselwa ngumzali osebenza naye?
- Ungabamba isikhathi esingakanani kulokhu kusetha?
- Ngabe wenza okulungile ngokuvumela umuntu othanda ukuba yindlala abe yingxenye yempilo yengane yakho?
Izindlela zokubhekana nomzali osebenza narcissist
Sizodinga lonke usizo esingaluthola uma sinquma ukuhlala kulolu hlobo lobudlelwano.
Kumele uziqeqeshe ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nomzali wakho.
- Yiba namandla uthole lonke usizo oludingayo. Funa ukwelulekwa ngokwakho ukuze uthole ukwesekwa kothile onolwazi ekubhekaneni nalezi zinhlobo zokuphazamiseka kobuntu. Ungazami ukwenza ukuthi umzali osebenza naye ahambe nawe - ngeke kusebenze.
- Ungalokothi ubavumele bathonye abanye abantu ekwenzeni uzizwe unecala noma ubakhombise ukuthi nguwe onenkinga.
- Beka isibonelo futhi ufundise izingane zakho ngokuzinakekela hhayi ngokomzimba kuphela kepha nangokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. Akunandaba noma yini umzali wabo othanda ukubatshela abatshela yona, ukhona ukuze wenze konke kube ngcono.
- Ungakhombisi ukuba sengozini kwakho nomzali wakho. Babheka kakhulu, uma bengathola noma yikuphi ubuthakathaka kuwe - bazobusebenzisa. Yiba yisicefe futhi ube kude.
- Ungaphinde ukhululeke uma unabo. Phendula imibuzo ephathelene nengane yakho kuphela futhi ungavumeli amaqhinga akhohlisayo afike kuwe.
- Uma umzali wakho ongumlingani osebenzisa kabi ingane esebenzisa ingane yakho ukukwenza uzizwe unecala ngomndeni wakho - ungayivumeli ifike kuwe.
- Khombisa ukuthi uyakwazi ukulawula isimo. Namathela ezinhlelweni zokuvakasha, ungavumeli umzali wakho akulawule noma akhulume nawe ukuthi uvume izidingo zakhe.
- Lapho usemncane, zama indlela ehlukile yokuthi ungasichazela kanjani izingane zakho lesi simo nokuthi bangasisingatha kanjani isipiliyoni sabo nomzali wabo ongumlutha.
Ukukhulisa ingane akukaze kube lula, yini enye uma ubambisana ngokubambisana nomuntu ophethwe yi-NPD?
Akulula neze ukubhekana nomzali osebenza nge-narcissist, ingasaphathwa eyokuzivumela ukuthi ziqhubeke nokuba yingxenye yezimpilo zezingane zakho.
Kuthatha lonke izinga lokuzethemba, ukubekezela, kanye nokuqonda ukuze ukwazi ukwenza umzali ofanayo nomuntu onenkinga yobuntu. Noma ngabe yisiphi isimo, inqobo nje uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho isebenza kahle ngabe wenza umsebenzi omuhle!