Onyakeni omusha, imibhangqwana eminingi iyaqhubeka nokwenza amaphutha afanayo ebudlelwaneni bayo njengoba yenze ngonyaka odlule. Iningi lale mibhangqwana isemaphethelweni edivosi, ifike endaweni lapho ingasathandani khona, futhi ihlukanise ikhaya layo laba yimbili, okusho ukuthi, umuntu oyedwa uhlala ohlangothini olulodwa lwendlu kanti omunye uhlala ngakolunye uhlangothi.
Kodwa-ke, kukhona eminye imibhangqwana enqume ukuthi yize benza amaphutha afanayo, bamukele umthwalo wezenzo zabo futhi bakulungele ukuqhubekela phambili ngokwenza ubuhlobo babo bube ngcono futhi basondelane.
Yini-ke eyenza le mibhangqwana ihluke kwimibhangqwana ekulungele ukudela, iyeke, futhi isuke ebudlelwaneni bayo noma emshadweni wayo. Ngingacabanga ukuthi okwabo:
- Thandanani
- Amandla abo okugxila ezinkingeni hhayi komunye nomunye
- Ukukwazi ukuxhumana ngempumelelo
- Ithoni yabo nokukhethwa kwamagama lapho bekhuluma bodwa
- Amandla abo okugwema ukuhlaselana ngesikhathi sokuxoxa
- Amandla abo okuvuma ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle
- Amandla abo okungavumeli imizwa yabo ukuba icindezele izenzo zabo nokuziphatha kwabo
- Ukuzibophezela kwabo kuNkulunkulu, izithembiso zomshado, kanye nakomunye nomunye
- Ukuzimisela kwabo ukushintsha
- Ukuzimisela kwabo ukufaka isikhathi nomzamo okudingayo ukwenza ubudlelwano babo busebenze
- Nokuzimisela kwabo ukutshala imali komunye nomunye nobudlelwano babo
Kepha ngiyakholelwa futhi, ukuthi kunezinye izinto imibhangqwana ezenzayo ukwenza ubudlelwano bazo buhlale futhi basondelane ndawonye, eminye imibhangqwana eyehluleka ukukwenza. Isibonelo, imibhangqwana efuna ubudlelwane bayo buhlale:
- Ningadebeselani: Ungabambeki ngokulungisa wonke umuntu, ukuthi abunaki ubudlelwano noma umshado wabo. Bayakuqonda ukuthi ubudlelwano buyasebenza, futhi ngaphambi kokuba bazame ukusiza abanye, bazifunela usizo.
- Musa ukuthathelana phansi: Futhi uma bekwenza, bayaxolisa futhi benze izinguquko ukuze bangaphinde bakwenze futhi.
- Thandanani nsuku zonke: Bayakhuthazana futhi bayasekelana; abagxili ezicini ezingezinhle, futhi banaka kakhulu izinto ezinhle ngomunye nomunye nangobudlelwano. Bathola izindlela zokubonana ngombono omusha nowehlukile nsuku zonke.
- Yazisa: Bayazazisa izinto ezincane ngomunye nomunye nangobuhlobo babo.
- Vuma: Bayatshelana futhi babonisane ukuthi bazazisa kangakanani izimfanelo noma izenzo ezithile.
- Ungalokothi ukhohlise: Abakhohlisani ukuze bathole abakufunayo, futhi bayaqonda ukuthi abakwazi ukuphoqelelana ukuba benze izinto ezithile, ngakho-ke abazami.
- Xolelana: Baxolela noma bengafuni, futhi baqonde ukuthi ukuya kolala uthukuthele kubanga ubuhlobo babo noma umshado wabo uhlupheke. Bakholelwa ekuqabuzeni ngokweqiniso nokwakha ngaphambi kokulala. Akunandaba ukuthi ngubani olungile noma ongalungile, bahlala bethethelelana ngoba bayaqonda ukuthi ukulunga akubalulekile, kepha ukuthethelela kubalulekile.
- Yamukela futhi uhloniphe umehluko womunye nomunye: Abazami ukushintshana. Bangase bangathandi yonke into ngomunye nomunye, kodwa bayahloniphana. Abazami ukuphoqa omunye nomunye ukuthi ashintshe enze okuthile, noma baphoqelane ukuthi benze okuthile okungathandeki.
- Ukungavumelani ngaphandle kokumemeza nokumemeza: Babeka imizwa yabo eceleni lapho bexoxa. Imibhangqwana evuthiwe ngokomzwelo iyaqonda ukuthi ukuhlaselana ngesikhathi sokuxabana noma kwengxoxo akuyixazululi inkinga.
- Vumelana ithuba lokukhuluma: Bakwenza lokhu ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Abalaleli ukuphendula; balalela ukuze baqonde. Izithandani ezakha izimpendulo emakhanda azo ngenkathi omunye umuntu ekhuluma, kuyaqabukela zikhulise ukuqonda kwalokho omunye umuntu akushoyo noma akushoyo.
- Ungalokothi ucabange: Abacabangi ukuthi bayazi ukuthi omunye nomunye ucabangani, babuza imibuzo ukuze bacacise futhi bathole ukuqonda. Bayakwamukela futhi baqonde ukuthi ababona abafundi bezingqondo.
- Musa ukukala: Abalinganisi impumelelo yobudlelwano babo nobunye ubudlelwane, futhi abaqhathanisi eminye imibhangqwana. Abalokothi bathi “Ngifisa sengathi ngabe ufana no____________. Lesi yisitatimende # 1 esonakalisa ubudlelwano nemishado.
- Ungavumeli amaphutha adlule: Abavumeli amaphutha nokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphambilini ukuthi kulawule ikusasa labo noma injabulo ndawonye. Bayakuqonda okwedlule okwedlule futhi ukuya phambili kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuletha okwenzekile noma okungenzekanga.
- Qonda ukubaluleka kokuvuleka: Zithembekile, futhi ziyahambisana kwesinye isikhathi. Bayakuqonda ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani lezi zici empumelelweni yobuhlobo babo.
- Ake usho, ngiyabonga: Basebenzisa imishwana enjengokuthi 'Ngiyakwazisa', nokuthi 'Ngiyakuthanda njalo'. Bayakuqonda ukuthi lezi yizitatimende ezibalulekile nokuthi zibaluleke kangakanani empumelelweni yobuhlobo babo.
- Okokugcina, bahlala bekhumbula ukuthi kungani bathandana: Bayakhumbula ukuthi kungani bethi ngiyakwenza, nokuthi kungani bakhethe ukuzibophezela komunye nomunye.
Ubudlelwano bungaba nzima kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi, kepha uma unabantu ababili abazimisele ukwenza umzamo odingekayo ukuze ubudlelwano babo buchume, abafuna ukwenza ngcono ubudlelwane babo, futhi abafuna ukusondelana ndawonye, kuyasebenza ubuhlobo lula futhi kumnandi. Thatha isikhathi bese usebenzisa lokhu ebuhlotsheni bakho, futhi ukubuke kukhula futhi ubuke wena noshade naye nisondelana.