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- Ikamelo lokulala
- Ukuzenzakalela
- Uhlelo lwezocansi
- Ngaphakathi kwekhaya lakho lonke
- Ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho
Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile iyakuqonda ukubaluleka kokusondelana ngokomzimba ebuhlotsheni bayo, kepha abanye kungenzeka bangabuqondi ububanzi bezinto ezibonakalayo ezingathuthukisa imishado yabo.
Akuzona nje izindonga ezine zekamelo lakho lokulala ezidinga ukuthintwa ngokomzimba nokusondelana. Kunezindawo nezikhathi zempilo yakho ezingasebenzisa uthando lomzimba futhi. Ukuqala ngekamelo lokulala bese uphumela ngaphandle, ake sihlole ezinye zezinto zempilo yakho yothando ezilangazelela ukuthintwa okungaphezulu komzimba.
Ikamelo lokulala
Lokhu kungahle kube sobala, kepha sonke siyazi ukuthi ukushisa okwake kwavuselela ubuhlobo bakho kungaphola ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Thembeka futhi wazi ukungabi bikho kobudlelwane bomzimba njengoba iminyaka idlula futhi uzokulungela ngokwengeziwe ukwenza ngcono isimo sempilo yakho yezocansi. Ngokukushaya indiva ukungabi bikho kobuhlobo obuseduze, noma unethemba lokuthi libuyela esimweni salo esake saba namandla, uzokwandisa ukungabi bikho komzimba ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ukuphela kwendlela ezothuthuka ngayo kungumsebenzi wokuzimisela ovela kini nobabili.
Ukuzenzakalela
Ikhambi elijwayelekile lokwehlisa ucansi ukuzenzakalela ngokwengeziwe lapho usondela ocansini. Yiba zasendle ngokwengeziwe. Hlanya kakhulu. Mangaza othandiweyo wakho njengoba ubungabuya emuva lapho uneminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Akukona ukuthi lesi iseluleko esibi, kepha masivume; njengoba sikhula, ikhono lethu lokuzenzela konke kodwa liyaphela.Njengoba unyaka ngamunye udlula, siba nokukhululeka ngokwengeziwe endleleni yethu yokwenza izinto. I-cliche ethi "awukwazi ukufundisa inja endala amaqhinga amasha" ayisebenzi kubalingani bethu be-canine kuphela. Umyalo onjengokuthi “Zivelele!” ngeke zikhuthaze izinguquko ezinkulu kwimodi yakho yokusebenza.
Uhlelo lwezocansi
Esikhundleni sokuphakamisa okuthile enginomuzwa wokuthi ngeke usithathe isinyathelo, ake sikhulume ngeqhinga elikhanga kakhulu esimweni sobukhosi somuntu obekwe ezindleleni zakhe: hlela ucansi lwakho. Manje, ngiyazi ukuthi lokho kungabonakala njengokuphikisana nobulili uqobo, kepha hlala nami. Iningi labantu libona ucansi njengento okufanele ibe yinto yemvelo, futhi ngokwenza uhlelo oluhlelekile lwayo, uzobe ususa leso sici sesenzo. Kodwa-ke, uma ungasondelani nomlingani wakho, ukudala uhlelo kungahle kudingeke ukubuyisela izinto kumkhondo.
Ukuthinta ngokomzimba akuyona nje eyemidlalo njengoba ibibuyela ekolishi. Emshadweni wakho kuyithuluzi elidingekayo ukugcina wena noshade naye nisondelene ngokomqondo. Ukuhlela ucansi lwakho kungazwakala kunzima ekuqaleni, kepha uma usukwenze kwaba yingxenye yenkambiso yakho ejwayelekile, kuzokhokha izinzuzo ezinhle kakhulu ebudlelwaneni bakho jikelele. Thuthukisa ukuthinta ngokomzimba ekamelweni lakho ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi kuyenzeka. Khipha lowo mhleli bese uhlela iseshini yakho elandelayo yocansi lwezocansi namuhla.
Ngaphakathi kwekhaya lakho lonke
Kunezindawo ezingenakubalwa ngaphakathi kwekhaya lakho lapho wena noshade naye ningadala ukuthintana okungaphezulu komzimba. Eminye imibhangqwana eshadile ithintana kuphela ngokwanga ekuseni nangokuqabula ubusuku obuhle. Akukona ukuthi lawa kuphela amathuba emini okusondelana ngokomzimba, yingoba nje inqubo ibunile yahlangana nalokhu kuhlangana kuphela.
Esikhundleni sokuthintana okuncane komzimba, bheka ezinye izindawo ngaphakathi kwekhaya lakho ongasondela kuzo. Uma upheka isidlo sakusihlwa ndawonye, kungaba nokuthintana ngokomzimba kuyo yonke inqubo! Akudingeki ukuthi kube ukuthinta ngokocansi, noma. Kungaba ukumanga esihlathini somkakho lapho uhambahamba ngenkathi elungiselela ukudla. Kungenzeka ukuthi uhlikihla amadoda akho emuva noma emahlombe njengoba emi phezu kwesitofu. Ukuthinta ngokomzimba kumane kungukuhanjiswa kwamandla phakathi kwenu nobabili. Isitatimende esingaqondile esithi "Ngilapha nawe." Ngaphandle kwalokhu kuthintwa okuncane, usala engxoxweni ngamazwi. Noma ngabe lokhu kungamandla akho, ukuthinta okuncane okuphakathi kokushintshana kuzophakamisa ukusondelana kwengxoxo.
Thola izikhathi ezinjengalezi ukukhulisa inani lokuthinta ngokomzimba ekhaya lakho. Kungenzeka ngenkathi wenza imisebenzi yasendlini, ubuka i-TV, noma ubeka lapho ufunda incwadi. Izikhathi ezilula zonke zingathuthukiswa ngokuthintwa nje, ukwangana, noma ukugcotshwa ngothando.
Ngaphandle kwekhaya lakho
Enye indlela yokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane bakho obungaphandle kwekhaya lakho ukuqala ukuzivocavoca ndawonye. Ukujoyina ukukhuphuka, ukugijima, noma ukuqeqesha amandla kungaba yinto enhle yokubopha. Ningaphakamisana ngokomoya nangokomzimba njengoba nobabili nilwela ukuthola umphumela ofanayo. Ukuvivinya umzimba futhi kukhonjisiwe njenge-aphrodisiac, ngakho-ke lapho uzivocavoca ngokwengeziwe, uzoba namandla kazibuthe komunye nomunye.
Enye indlela yokwenza ngcono ukuthintana kwakho ngokomzimba ngenkathi ungekho endlini ngokuvula i-PDA. Njengoba sikhula, sivame ukugwema labo abakhombisa uthando oluncane emphakathini. Kepha ngicabanga ukuthi ingxenye yokubalekela ivela ekungavikelekeni kwethu ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukwenza kanjalo nomlingani wethu. Sibona sengathi kungaba okungafanelekile. Sicabanga ukuthi sibadala kakhulu kulolohlobo lokuziphatha. Yilokho okwenziwa ngama-somethings angama-20, asikwazi ukufana nawo, akunjalo? Akulungile.
Ukukhombisa uthando lozakwenu emphakathini kungenza izinto ezimbili ezimangazayo:
- Bezwa uthando ngokuthinta kwakho okungokwenyama, noma ngabe ukubanjwa, ukwanga, noma isandla esibanjiwe. Kuzofudumeza izinhliziyo zabo futhi kubenze bazizwe besondelene nawe.
- Bazizwa njengempahla eyigugu. Uma ukhombisa uthando lozakwenu esidlangalaleni, ukhombisa abantu abaseduze kwakho ukuthi uyiyo uyaziqhenya ukwenza lowo muntu ame eduze kwakho. Ubabonisa futhi kuzobenza bakhanye ngokukukhonzela.
Ungalokothi ubukele phansi amandla we-PDA ethile ebekwe kahle. Angikusikiseli ukuthi nihlubulane phansi nibe nendlela yenu komunye nomunye phakathi nendawo yaseshashalazini yama-movie. Mane wenze iphuzu lokwenza ukuthintana okuthile ngokomzimba. Wagcina nini ukwanga umkakho phambi kwabantu? Ugcine nini ukubambana nomyeni wakho nibambene?
Akunandaba ukuthi ngabe wenza kuphi iphuzu lokwakha ukuthintana okungaphezulu komzimba, qonda ukuthi konke lokho kuzoholela ekusondeleni okungokomzimba okuseduze ekamelweni. Ngokuthintana ngaphandle kwekamelo lokulala, ngeke uzizwe ungakhululekile noma ithuba ngokuqala ukuthintana ekamelweni. Qala ukuthinta abantu abalingani bakho! Bafuna ukuzwa uthando ... ngokoqobo.