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Sesivele sizwa ngakho. Inhlebo evela kubangane bethu, emndenini, nasezindabeni. Abesifazane abanamathela kokuhluliwe okuthile okuwasebenzisayo futhi okubahlukumezayo kuze kube ngolunye usuku kuya kude kakhulu futhi iziphathimandla zidinga ukuzibandakanya.
Abantu bayazibuza ukuthi kungani umuntu osengqondweni yakhe efanele angavumela into efana naleyo ukuthi yenzeke kubo. Kepha kwenzeka kaninginingi. Kwenzeka kuzo zonke izinhlobo zabantu besifazane, kungakhathalekile isimo senhlalo, ubuhlanga, noma igama abalibiza ngoNkulunkulu.
Kunamaqenjana lapho ephikelela khona kakhulu kunamanye, kepha leyo ngenye indaba kwesinye isikhathi.
Kule ndatshana, sihlola isizathu kungani abesifazane behlala ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo. Kungani nabesifazane abazihloniphayo nabahlakaniphile babamba iqhaza esimweni esinzima kangaka.
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Izizathu abesifazane abahlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo.
Kulula ukwahlulela ngokubheka ngaphandle kwebhokisi. Asizile lapha ukwahlulela abesifazane ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo; ake sizibeke ezicathulweni zabo.
Okwamanje lapho siqonda izinqubo zokucabanga zabesifazane ebudlelwaneni obunjalo obuhlukumezayo, singakwazi ukuqonda isimo sabo uma sifisa ukusiza.
1. Inani ubungcwele bokuzibophezela - Kukhona abanye besifazane abakholelwa ekugcineni izithembiso zabo ngesihogo somlilo nesibabule kuze kube sekufeni.
Ngokwethembeka konke, ngabo bonke ubudlelwane obunamadwala, isehlukaniso esidlangile, nokungathembeki okusobala, umuntu onamathela kumlingani wakhe ebunzimeni nasebubini uyisici esincomekayo.
Ukweqisa kwento enhle akuhlali kukuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Siyazi ukuthi kunabesifazane abanamathela kulabo abangaphumeleli. Abaphumeleli abenza okusemandleni abo ukwephula ukuzethemba komlingani wabo.
2. Uthando olungenathemba - Kusekhona abantu, abesifazane ikakhulukazi, abakholelwa ukuphela kwezinganekwane. Bayazikholisa ukuthi iPrince Charming yabo izokwenza ushintsho oluyisimangaliso.
Bonke ubudlelwano buba nezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi; abesifazane abasebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo baziqambele amanga futhi bathethelele izenzo zabo ngothando.
Lo mbhangqwana udala "mina nawe" uma kuqhathaniswa nesimo somhlaba futhi uhlala emhlabeni wokukhohlisa. Kuzwakala kuthandana kodwa, kuyingane. Owesifazane uthethelela ubudlelwano babo noma owesilisa wabo ngokuthi "akaqondwa kahle" futhi uvikela ekugxekweni okuvela ngaphandle.
3. Isifiso somama - Kunezwi elincane ekhanda lawo wonke umuntu wesifazane elibenza bafune ukucosha amazinyane angenamakhaya, imidlwane emnandi, kanye ne-losers ezibuhlungu bese beyisa ekhaya.
Bafuna ukondla yonke "imiphefumulo empofu" eyeqa indlela yabo futhi ibaduduze. Laba besifazane abakwazi ukuzinqanda futhi bakwenze kube umgomo wabo wokuphila ukunakekela zonke izidalwa ezineshwa, kubandakanya nabesilisa abahlukumezayo, abaxova izimpilo zabo.
4. Ukuvikela izingane zabo - Lokhu kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu izizathu ezijwayelekile zokuthi kungani abesifazane behlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo.
Ngokungafani nezinye izizathu lapho abesifazane abaziqambela amanga ngokwabo bekholelwa ukuthi yonke into imane nje ingumgwaqo endleleni yabo ende eya enjabulweni, laba besifazane bayazi ukuthi indoda yabo ayinanhliziyo.
Bahlala ngoba basebenza njengehawu lokuvikela izingane zabo. Bayazidela ukuvimbela umlingani wabo ekuhlukumezeni izingane esikhundleni salokho. Kwesinye isikhathi bacabanga ngokushiya ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo kepha bacabange ukuthi kungabeka izingane zabo engcupheni; banquma ukuhlala.
Bazizwa bevalelekile futhi bayazi ukuthi izinto zimbi kanjani ekhaya. Bakugcina kuyimfihlo ngoba izinqumo zabo zingashukumisa le ndoda ukuthi ilimaze izingane zabo.
5. Ukwesaba ukujeziswa - Abahlukumezi abaningi basebenzisa izinsongo zomlomo, ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba ukuvimbela ukuthi owesifazane angahambi. Bahlukumeza umndeni futhi basebenzise ukwesaba njengesikhali ukuwagcina ekuphikiseni intando yakhe.
Owesifazane uyazi ukuthi umlingani wabo uyingozi. Banokwesaba ukuthi uma indoda isihluleka ukulawula isimo, bazothatha izinyathelo zokuyinqanda. Kungagcina sekuhambe kakhulu.
Lokhu kwesaba kufanelekile. Izimo eziningi ezeqile zokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba zenzeka lapho kulahleka inkohliso yokulawula, futhi owesilisa uzizwa ukuthi badinga "ukujezisa" owesifazane ngokuziphatha kwakhe kabi.
6. Ukuthembela nokuzenyeza - Ukukhuluma ngezijeziso, abahlukumezi njalo benza owesifazane akholelwe ukuthi konke yiphutha lakhe. Abanye besifazane bagcina bewakholelwa amanga anjalo. Uma ubuhlobo buhlala isikhathi eside, maningi amathuba okuthi bathathwe ubuchopho ukuze bakukholwe.
Kuyasebenza kakhulu lapho owesifazane nezingane zakhe bethembele kowesilisa ukukhokha izikweletu. Bezwa umzuzu wokuthi ubudlelwano sebuphelile; ngeke bakwazi ukuzondla.
Lesi yisona sizathu esiyinhloko esenza abalweli besifazane lwela ukunikezwa amandla.
Bayazi ukuthi abesifazane abaningi banamathela kubayeni babo abalahlekile ngoba abanakho ukukhetha. (Bakholelwa) abakwazi ukuphuma emhlabeni bazenzele imali eyanele bona nezingane zabo.
Kuyisizathu esivamile sokuthi kungani abesifazane behlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo. Banomuzwa wokuthi kuyisinqumo esingcono kunokulamba emigwaqweni.
7. Ukugcina ukubukeka - Kungazwakala njengesizathu esincane, kepha lokhu futhi kuyisizathu esivamile sokuthi kungani abesifazane behlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo.
Bacabanga ngokuqinile ukuthi abanye abantu bazothini lapho bezwa ngobunzima babo. Abesifazane bakhuliswe ngokukhuliswa ngamasiko nangokwenkolo okubavimbela ukuthi bashiye abalingani babo.
Abesifazane abakhulele ekuphatheni imindeni yezinzalamizi bavame ukuba yizisulu zalesi siwombe esinobudlova basekhaya.
Bakhule nomama abazithobayo futhi bafundiswe ukunamathela kubayeni babo ngoba “kuyinto efanele ukwenziwa” njengowesifazane.
8. Ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo bumayelana nokulawula - Indoda ifuna ukulawula abesifazane babo nempilo yabo yonke. Bachitha ubuntu babo futhi babumbe owesifazane abe yisigqila esithobelayo.
Bakwenza lokhu ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene, kepha ikakhulukazi ukushaya isithunzi sabo esinamandla futhi bazondle ngokuzikhohlisa ukuthi abesifazane bayimpahla yabo.
Ukucabanga okunjalo kungazwakala kuwubuwula kubantu banamuhla.
Uma ubheka ujule emlandweni wesintu, wonke amasiko nemiphakathi iqale ngale ndlela. Akukhona ukwelula ukuthi amadoda abheke abesifazane njengezinto nezinto zabo.
Ezinye izinkolo namasiko zisabambelele kule mikhuba yendabuko. Kukhona ngisho nabesifazane abakholwa yibo uqobo.
Ngakho-ke kungani abesifazane behlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo?
Kunezizathu eziningi. Zonke ziyinkimbinkimbi futhi azinakuxazululwa ngokumane nje uhambe. Uma ufuna ukusiza, qiniseka ukuthi uyasiqonda sonke isithombe bese usisa ekugcineni. Izingozi zingokoqobo.
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