-Delile
- Qala kancane, qala uphephile
- Zikhumbuze ukufaneleka kwakho
- Dala uhlu lwengqondo lwezihloko zengxoxo
- 1.Phawula ngento oyibonayo ngokushaywa kwakho
- 2. Phawula ngalokho okuzungezile
- 3. Phawula ngomcimbi osanda kwenzeka
- Uthole ukuthi uthathekile, ngakho-ke qhubeka
- Unokuxhumana
- Yiba "nguwe" ngokweqiniso
Uthathekele othile okhethekile? Lowo ngomunye wemizwa emnandi kunazo zonke emhlabeni, akunjalo? Uyababona, amehlo akho agudlukela phansi, uzama futhi uqukethe ukumamatheka kwakho, uzwa izihlathi zakho zivutha. O, ufuna kakhulu ukukhuluma nabo kepha unamahloni kakhulu. Qagela? Silapha ukuzosiza! Qhubeka ufundele amanye amathiphu wokuthi ungavula kanjani futhi usondele ekuchobozeni kwakho. Silungile? Donsa umoya ngoba kuzoba uhambo oluhle kakhulu.
Qala kancane, qala uphephile
KULUNGILE, siyazi ukuthi uyisethuli futhi kubuhlungu ukuba ngowokuqala ukubingelela. Ngakho-ke ake siqale lokhu ngomkhuba othile.
Uzobingelela umuntu oyedwa ngosuku, kepha hhayi ukuchoboza kwakho.
Kungaba umuntu ofunda naye, osebenza naye, umuntu ombona nsuku zonke esitimeleni noma ebhasini, umakhelwane wakho. Noma ngubani ongeke akhishwe nguwe uma ubingelela.
Injongo yalokhu kuvivinya umzimba ukukubonisa ukuthi umhlaba awungeni lapho uthatha isinyathelo bese uthi “sawubona” kuqala kumuntu omjwayele. Uma usukwenzile lokhu amasonto amabili, uzokwakha ukuzethemba okwanele ukusho ukuthi “sawubona” (noma “sawubona” noma “Kuhamba kanjani?”) Ekuchobozeni kwakho.
Zikhumbuze ukufaneleka kwakho
Imvamisa abantu abanamahloni banokuzenyeza okuphansi okunomthelela ekwesabeni kwabo ukufinyelela kwabanye. “Ngeke babe nesithakazelo kimi,” bangase bazitshele.
Manje isikhathi sokusebenza ekuqinisekisweni kwakho.
Zijwayeze lokhu nsuku zonke impilo. Lokhu kufakazelwe ukuthi kusiza ukuthuthukisa imizwa yokuzethemba nenhlalakahle. Uma uzizwa kangcono ngawe, kuba lula ukuthatha lezo zingcuphe bese uqala ingxoxo nawo wonke umuntu okuzungezile, kufaka phakathi nokuchoboza kwakho!
Dala uhlu lwengqondo lwezihloko zengxoxo
KULUNGILE, ngakho-ke uphathe u- “Sawubona kuhamba kanjani?” futhi ukuchoboza kwakho kuphendule "Kuhle? Nawe?". Unokudonsa okuthile! Ugcina kanjani izinto ziqhubeka? Ngenhlanhla yakho, unohlu lwezihloko ezingxoxo ezingajwayelekile ekhanda lakho. Khipha okukodwa kwalokhu ukuze ugcine ukuthakazeka kwakho kunentshisekelo:
1.Phawula ngento oyibonayo ngokushaywa kwakho
I-tattoo, isitayela sezinwele noma umbala wabo, into ethile abayigqokile (“icici elihle!”) Noma amakha abo (“Lokho kunuka kamnandi! Ugcoba ini?”)
2. Phawula ngalokho okuzungezile
Uma usesikoleni, yisho okuthile ngekilasi lakho elilandelayo noma ubuze indlela ozizwa ngayo ngokuthanda kwabo. Uma usemsebenzini, phawula ngokuthi kusile kangakanani ukusa kwakho bese ubuza ukuthi uzosebenza kanjani njengabo bonke abanye abantu.
3. Phawula ngomcimbi osanda kwenzeka
“Uwubukile umdlalo izolo ebusuku?” iqala kahle ingxoxo, ngaphandle kokuthi awuyena umlandeli wezemidlalo. Kuleso simo, khetha ezombusazwe, ukuhamba ekuseni, noma yisiphi isihloko esishisayo ebesezindabeni kamuva nje.
Uthole ukuthi uthathekile, ngakho-ke qhubeka
Manje wena ne-crush yakho niyakhuluma. Uyabona ukuthi bayathanda; azenzi izaba zokuzama ukuqeda ingxoxo yenu. Ukukhuluma komzimba wabo kusikisela ukuthi bafuna ukuqhubeka nokuqhubeka: izinyawo zabo zikhomba kuwe futhi "babukisa" okwenzayo — mhlawumbe ukweqa izandla esifubeni, noma ukusunduza izinwele eziphambukayo ngemuva kwezindlebe zabo lapho wenza okufanayo. Zonke izimpawu ezinhle!
Ngalesi sikhathi, ungaphakamisa ukuthi uyothatha ikhofi noma isiphuzo esincane, bese uhambisa ingxoxo endaweni lapho ungaqhubeka ukhulume khona ngenkathi uphuza isiphuzo.
Unokuxhumana
I-crush yakho ivumile ukuyophuza ikhofi nawe. Uthukile?
Thatha umoya ojulile bese uzikhumbuze ukuthi umuntu wakho oyithandayo ufuna ukuqhubeka ekhuluma nawe.
Ungumuntu onentshisekelo, onomusa nolungile. Endaweni yekhofi, cela ukukhokhela lolu “suku.” Kuzobonisa ukuthi ungumuntu ophanayo futhi uthumele umlayezo ku-crush yakho ukuthi ubathanda ngaphezu komngane.
Manje futhi yisikhathi sokubuyela ohlwini lwakho lwengqondo lwezihloko zezingxoxo uma kungenzeka ukuthi “uqabule” futhi ulahlekelwe yintambo yengxoxo. Nazi ezinye izindlela ezengeziwe zokuqhubeka nokukhuluma ngamazwi:
- Vula izingcingo zakho bese uphawula ngezinye zezithombe zakho ezihlekisayo.
- Khombisa omunye nomunye ama-memes amahle
- Thola amanye amavidiyo akho e-youtube owathandayo — isibonelo, ukuvulwa okubandayo kwe-SNL.
- Yabelana ngohlu lwakho lokudlalwayo lomculo futhi ukhulume ngamaqembu akho owathandayo. (Mema umlingani wakho emcimbini womculo olandelayo uma unalokho engqondweni.)
Yiba "nguwe" ngokweqiniso
Uma ungumuntu onamahloni, ungacabanga ukuthi kungcono ukwamukela i- “persona”, ulingise umuntu omthandayo noma ombona enedumela elibi kunawe. Ungenzi lokhu. Ufuna ukuthatheka kwakho kukuthande ukuthi ungubani ngempela, hhayi umuntu ozibonisa zona.
Yiba nguwe, yikho konke onakho.
Futhi uma umuntu omthandayo engakuthandi —uma ubona ukuthi balahlekelwa inzalo — kulungile. Zikhumbuze ukuthi lokhu akukhona ukwenqatshwa. Ukuthi nje anifanelani kahle njengoba nicabanga ekuqaleni.
Lokhu kwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi futhi akusho ukuthi awuyena umuntu omkhulu. Qhubeka uzibeka lapho. Uzoba nezinye izinto empilweni, ngokuthokoza. Futhi ngolunye usuku, lowo “sawubona omncane, kuhamba kanjani?” Kuzoba ukuqala kobudlelwano obuhle, obunothando.