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- Umphumela wokubonga
- Kungani ukubonga kusiza ubudlelwano
- Khombisa ukubonga nsuku zonke
- Ukubonga kukusiza ukwazi ukubhekana nezinselelo
- Awuzizwa? Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzosiza:
I-Thanksgiving isiseduzane futhi nayo, ikakhulukazi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ifika konke okuthunyelwe kokubonga. UNovemba akuyona ukuphela kwenyanga yokuzwa nokwenza izinto ngokubonga, noma kunjalo. Ngabe uhlala esimweni sokubonga unyaka wonke noma ungomunye walabo abazizwa bengenathemba futhi bengazizwa benokubonga? Ubuwazi ukuthi ukubonga kuyisithako esibalulekile ebudlelwaneni bothando obuyimpumelelo? Iqiniso. Abantu abaphila ngombono omuhle wokubonga banempilo ephelele futhi bayajabula.
Umphumela wokubonga
Ukuphila ngendlela enhle ngokubonga njengesithako esiyinhloko kunikela enhlalakahleni engokwengqondo nengokomzimba. Ukuzibekela isikhundla kwehlisa ubudlova nokudangala futhi kusenze sijabule, sibe ngabantu abazethembayo. Le mpilo-ntle engokwengqondo nengokomzwelo isivumela ukuthi sikwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi sikwazi ukubekezela lapho izikhathi ezinzima zisiphonsela inselelo.
Kungani ukubonga kusiza ubudlelwano
Njengomelaphi, ngivame ukubona abantu besezingeni elibi kakhulu. Imvamisa zigxile ngokujule emijikelezweni engemihle ebenza basho izinto ezimbi kakhulu nezehlisayo komunye nomunye. Yonke imicabango nemizwa abanayo ngabalingani babo ayifanele. Kufanele ngibheke okuhle. Kufanele ngithole okuhle phakathi kwabo bonke lolo sizi bese ngiqala ukukukhombisa izithandani ngikhanye ngokukhanya okuncane ezimpilweni zabo zobumnyama ukuze babone ukuthi lusekhona uthando lapho. Lapho beqala ukubona ukuthi kukhona okuhle, bayabonga ngakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, izinto ziqala ukushintsha zibe ngcono.
Uma ubonga umlingani wakho nangeqhaza alibambayo ekwenzeni impilo yakho ibe ngcono, lokho kudala umthelela omkhulu kakhulu empilweni yakho nakubo bonke ohlangana nabo.
Uma usesikhala esingesihle, kufanele wenze ushintsho ngamabomu. Njalo ekuseni nsuku zonke kufanele uvuke uzitshele ukuthi uzobonga namhlanje. Kuzo zonke izimo, kufanele ubheke okuhle ngokucophelela. Uma wenza lokhu, uzobathola, ngiyathembisa.
Lapho sibonga ngokwengeziwe ngalokho esinakho, kufanele sibe nezinto eziningi okufanele sibonge ngazo. Kungazwakala kuyicliche 'kepha kuliqiniso.
Khombisa ukubonga nsuku zonke
Akukwenzeka ngobusuku obubodwa, kepha ungakha umoya wokubonga noma ngabe kwenzekani empilweni yakho ngalesi sikhathi. Sikhuluma kakhulu kubhulogi Lami Lombhangqwana kanye ne-podcast mayelana nokubonga ngezinto ezincane. Iphuzu eliyinhloko ukukhombisa ukubonga kwakho ngokungaguquguquki. Ukuba nemikhuba emihle, ukubonga, ukubhala amanothi nezincwadi nokufinyelela ekubongweni kuyizindlela ezinhle zokwenza lokhu. Ugcine nini ukufinyelela kumuntu ngenothi lokubonga? Lokhu kungukuhlonipha okulahlekile ikakhulukazi emphakathini wethu osheshayo we-elekthronikhi. Kudinga ukuvuswa. Yizame bese ubona ukuthi inomthelela ongakanani kumamukeli.
Faka ikhukhi ebhokisini leposi lomphathi wakho weposi, bonga abadoti bakho nalabo abakunikeza izinsizakalo. Kuzwakala kukuhle! Khanyisa ukubonga kwakho ekhaya ngokubona iminikelo yozakwenu ekunikezeni impilo yakho yansuku zonke nenhlalakahle. Siyabonga izingane zakho ngokwenza umsebenzi omuhle ngemisebenzi yasekhaya noma ngomsebenzi wesikole. Khombisa ukubonga ngekhaya, ukudla, indlela yokuphila noma okwengeziwe wena nomlingani wakho enisebenza kanzima ukukuthola. Uyabona, uthola umqondo manje! Bheka zonke izinto ezinhle ebudlelwaneni bakho nomlingani wakho, abazali bakho, abangane bakho. Xhumana nomlingani wakho njalo ubatshele, "Ngiyakwazisa wena nakho konke ongiletha kukho empilweni yami." Yisho ngokuqondile.
Ukubonga kukusiza ukwazi ukubhekana nezinselelo
Lapho izinto zingahambi kahle, futhi unezinselelo (ngoba uzokwenza kanjalo), kuba lula ukubekezelela futhi ubheke lolo luhlu lwesiliva emafwini esivunguvungu sempilo yakho. Ngisanda kubona izindaba ngezithandani ezikwiminyaka yama-50 ubudala ezashiswa indlu yazo eNyakatho California ngesikhathi somlilo wequbula. Isithombe bekungabo bemomotheka, behleka futhi bedansa emgwaqeni wegobolondo labo elishile lomuzi. Ungase ucabange, “Bangajabula kanjani kangaka, balahlekelwe yikho konke okungokoqobo!” Engikubonile kungabantu ababili abebehlala ngokubonga. Abakwazanga ukusindisa ikhaya labo, ngakho-ke bakwamukela lokho futhi babonga kakhulu ukuthi bazophuma bengenamyocu futhi bengasho lutho. Ukubonga kwabo bekungukuphila nethuba lokuqhubeka nokuphila ndawonye. Ngangicabanga ukuthi yinhle.
Awuzizwa? Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzosiza:
- Zama ukuqalaza eduze kwakho ngalo mzuzu bese ukhetha izinto ezi-5 ongazibona nozithintayo. Izinto ezibonakalayo ojabule ngazo zifinyeleleka kuwe. Yiba nokubonga ngalokhu.
- Bheka umlingani wakho ngokuzayo lapho nindawonye bese ukhetha izinto ezi-3 ezikwenza ubonge ukuba naloyo muntu. Izimfanelo abanazo, izinto ezikhethekile baziletha ebudlelwaneni bakho ezikwenza ubonge. Basho ngokuzwakalayo.
- Hlala uthule wedwa kusihlwa bese ucabanga ngosuku lwakho. Zindla ngezinto ezinhle ezikwehlele futhi ubonge ngazo.
- Cabanga ngezinto ezimbi okungenzeka zikwehlele kuleli sonto, bese ubheka okuhle phakathi nobunzima.
- Qala iphephabhuku. Qopha izinto okufanele uzibonge njengamanje kule minithi futhi wenze lokhu nsuku zonke. Ekupheleni kwesonto, buyela emuva ufunde lokho okubhalile. Uzozithola uphila ngendlela yokuthi uqaphela lawa magugu nsuku zonke ukuze ukhumbule ukuwabhala phansi.
- Qala imbiza yokubonga. Beka imbiza nezinye iziliphu zephepha. Bhala phansi izinto okufanele uzibonge bese uzigoqa zibe amanothi amancane uzifake embizeni. Ekupheleni konyaka, lahla imbiza bese ufunda iphepha ngalinye. Uzothola ukuthi unezizathu eziningi zokubonga ngemuva kwakho konke.
Uma ukwazi ukwenza lezi zinto, usendleleni yokuthuthukisa umoya wokubonga. Zijwayeze lokhu kuze kube umkhuba. Ngeke kuthathe isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ukubheka lezo zinto ezinhle, lezo zikhathi zokubonga noma ngabe uphakathi kobunzima nezinselelo obhekene nazo. Lo ngumkhuba oguqukayo ngempela ozothinta wena nabathandekayo bakho ngendlela enhle kusukela manje kuze kube sekupheleni kwempilo yakho.