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- 1. Uhlangane kanjani nomyeni wakho?
- 2. Ingabe imisebenzi yakho ehluke ngokuphelele ikusondeza kanjani ndawonye?
- 3. Yiziphi ezinye zezinselelo zokushada nomuntu osebenzisa umthetho?
- 4. Wake wabhalwa noma yiziphi izinhlamvu ngokuya ngomyeni wakho nangomsebenzi wakhe?
- 5. Yini amakhono omshado, futhi awusizo emsebenzini wakho wokuba umbhali?
- 6. Yiziphi izinto ezine ezibaluleke kakhulu kunoma imuphi umshado?
- 7. Iseluleko sokulinganisa umsebenzi wobuciko nomshado onempilo?
UDevri Walls ungumbhali waseMelika othengisa kakhulu. Njengoba esekhiphe amanoveli amahlanu kuze kube manje, ugxila ezintweni zonke eziyiphupho nokufana. UDevri uhlala eMeridian, eIdaho nomyeni wakhe nezingane ezimbili. Umyeni wakhe usebenza kwezomthetho futhi ndawonye, ngaphandle komehluko omkhulu kuphrofayili yomsebenzi wabo, izinselelo kanye nezindlela zokuphila ezihlukile abakwazile ukwakha uthando-ipharadesi ngendlela yobumbano lomshado ojabulisayo. Nazi izingcaphuno ezimbalwa ezivela engxoxweni naye ezokusiza ukuthi wakhe izinhloso zomshado ezibucayi zomshado wakho.
1. Uhlangane kanjani nomyeni wakho?
Ngahlangana nomyeni wami eneminyaka engamashumi amabili kanti mina ngangineminyaka engamashumi amabili nambili. Sobabili sasiseNew York ngaleso sikhathi futhi sayishaya ngaso leso sikhathi. Ngikholwa ukuthi umhlangano wokuqala uhambe kancane kanje. Ngibona umfana ephethe isikhwama sikaswidi ezandleni zakhe. “Hawu, ufuna ukwabelana nami ngempango yakho?” (Ngiphuzeni ikhefu, bafo. Bengilambe ngempela), kusho umfana enquma amehlo akhe eceleni bese emamatheka ngobuqili, obungaqondakali.
“Angicabangi ukuthi ungasho lokho kimi.” Uyazikhukhumeza, afake uswidi emlonyeni wakhe. Ngisele esihlalweni sami, ngikhwehlela, "Akusikho lokho ebengikuqonde! I-Booty, efana pirate's impango! ” Kwakuwumthombo oqhubekayo wokuhlukumeza iminyaka ngemuva kokushada. Ngosuku engathola ngalo isikhwama sikaphaphayi sikaPirate sikaBooty esitolo ngasisusa eshalofini ngamemeza, “Bheka! pirate's impango! ”
2. Ingabe imisebenzi yakho ehluke ngokuphelele ikusondeza kanjani ndawonye?
Ukuze sobabili senze lokho esikwenza kahle, kufanele kube nomehluko ohlukile ebuntwini nasengqondweni. Uyacophelela, uzolile, futhi unekhanda elisezingeni. Futhi ngiyaphila, ngingumbhali. Ucabanga ukuthi nginjani? Ukucabanga okumatasa, ukuxokozela, nokuthinta imizwa kakhulu. Kepha labo bantu abaphikisayo bayalingana. Ngizolile ezimweni ezingavamile kakhulu akayona. Futhi amanye amaphesenti ayisishiyagalolunye nesishiyagalombili esikhathi, uyangixosha futhi aduduze imizwa. Kuyinhlanganisela enhle kakhulu.
Kwesinye isikhathi uze asebenzise amaqhinga amaphoyisa ukuthuthukisa umshado wethu. (Lokhu akubandakanyi isikhathi azama ukungibopha ngaso phakathi kobusuku ngenkathi ngilele ngikhuluma. Lokho bekusabisa kancane.) Ngesikhathi siqala ukushada kwaqubuka izingxabano, wayephendula umuntu wami okhathazeke ngokweqile kancane ithoni kunaleyo ebengiyisebenzisa. Ngingafanisa ngokungazi ivolumu namandla akhe ngokungazi. Wayezokwehla futhi kuze kube sekugcineni, sasinengxabano egcwele ngenkathi sihleba. Kamuva, wavuma ukuthi kwakuyiqhinga elalifundiswa amaphoyisa ukwehlisa izimo. Yize bekucasula kancane ukuthi "ngidicilelwe phansi," lokhu kuyiguqule ngokuphelele inkambo yomshado wethu yaba ngcono, futhi unomphela. Sivame ukuphikisana futhi cishe asikaze, simemeze njalo.
Ukukwazi kwami ukubona umlingo ezintweni ezijwayelekile kumkhanyisile futhi. Indoda empeleni yasikisela ukuthi sakhe ingadi yezinganekwane. Kwakumele ngimcele ukuthi aziphinde.
3. Yiziphi ezinye zezinselelo zokushada nomuntu osebenzisa umthetho?
Lokhu akuyona umsebenzi olula kunoma ngubani wethu. Kunzima kuye, kunzima kimi, futhi kunzima ezinganeni. Kepha uyayithanda. Nginqume kudala ukuthi izinselelo bekufanele ukumnika amandla okwenza lokho akuthandayo. Ukuya emsebenzini nokuthanda umsebenzi wakho kuyisipho abaningi abangekho. Futhi bengifuna lokho kuye, njengoba nje efuna nami. Amahora akhe ayahlanya. Ngishaya ngibuye ngibuye ngibuyele emuva phakathi kokuba ngumama ongayedwa nokuba nomyeni wesikhathi esigcwele.
Konke ukuhlela kufanele kwenziwe ngendlela yokuthi ngikwazi ukukwenza ngokwami ngokomzimba, bese kuthi lapho esekhaya, angene futhi akhulule enye ingcindezi. Ngenxa yalokho, kuye kwadingeka futhi ngisebenzise izitayela ezimbili zokukhulisa izingane engiye ngafunda ukuzishaya ngazicisha — imodi yomama ongayedwa futhi ake sixoxe ngalokho ngemodi yozakwethu. Izinto azibona nsuku zonke emsebenzini zisithinta sonke isikhathi. Zithinta indlela azikhulisa ngayo izingane zethu. Izindawo esikhetha ukuzidla. Lapho ngihlala khona lapho siyodla. Esikhululekile lapho izingane zethu zikwenza noma lapho ziya khona.
Kuyinselelo futhi ukumkhumbuza ukuthi udinga ukungitshela izinto azibonayo. Ufuna ukungivikela ohlangothini olumnyama lomhlaba, okungokwemvelo, futhi ngiyakwazisa lokho. Kodwa-ke, izinga lesehlukaniso ekusebenziseni umthetho liphezulu kakhulu ngenxa enkulu yalokho. Ukugcina kuwe kalula okuyingxenye yokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kubeka ibhuloho elingahambeki phakathi kwakho nohlelo lwakho lokusekela. Akangitsheli konke, kodwa ufunde ukungitshela izinto eziningi ukuze agcine leyo mizila yokuxhumana ivulekile futhi isibopho siqinile. Futhi-ke kufanele ngiziyeke izindaba zihambe ukuze ngingakhathazeki njalo. Uma ngabe kukhona kini obengazi, ubuyokwazi ukuthi "ukuyidedela" akuyona into engiyithandayo. Kepha ngempilo yami, umshado wami nenjabulo yomyeni wami, ukuphela kwento ongayikhetha.
4. Wake wabhalwa noma yiziphi izinhlamvu ngokuya ngomyeni wakho nangomsebenzi wakhe?
Kususelwa kumyeni wami, impela. Kepha ngingasho okuncane, "ngokususelwa," nokuningi, kuthonywe ngu. Yonke incwadi ibukeka iphela ngomlingiswa owomile impela, oklolodayo onenhliziyo yegolide, noma ngabe ngiqala ngaleyo nhloso noma cha. Ukuhlala nomyeni wami iminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu edlule kunginikeze iziqu ze-master ekubhuqeni okwomile. Futhi ukubhala kwami konke kungcono ngakho.
Ubungcweti - lokho kuyinkohliso encane. Impendulo yami yokuqala kwakunguye. Kepha ngakubona lokho Ama-Venators: Kukhululwe uMlingo yindaba yentsha emibili eyelela kwenye indawo yamaphupho, lapho izosebenza njengabomthetho. Ngokusobala, ngenza ngokungaqondile.
5. Yini amakhono omshado, futhi awusizo emsebenzini wakho wokuba umbhali?
Ngicabanga ukuthi emshadweni into eyodwa engcono kunazo zonke ongayenza ukufunela omunye umuntu okungaphezu kokuzifunela wena. Uma wenza kanjalo, uzosebenzela ukwenza lowo muntu ajabule. Uma lokhu kwenzeka kuwo womabili amaqembu, nibe nomshado omuhle. Yize ngike ngaxoxa ngokuzidela engikwenzile ukumjabulisa, ngaphandle kwemihlatshelo yakhe, uthando nokusekelwa, ayikho nje indlela engingaba ngayo umbhali kuleli phuzu empilweni yami.
Umyeni wami ungumpetha wentobeko nokuzidela. Uzosebenza amasonto omsebenzi wamahora angamashumi ayisithupha bese efika ekhaya angihlanzele ikhishi lami phakathi kwamabili, athathe isikhundla sokuba ngumama lapho ngisuka edolobheni ngiyosayina, angixoshe ekhaya ukuze ngisebenze ngokuthula ngenkathi ushwabanisa izingane. Usehlombe kakhulu muva nje ukuze ngikwazi ukujaha leli phupho. Futhi ukwenza ngoba ukhathalela kakhulu injabulo yami kunokwakhe. Njengoba nje ngikhohlwa izindaba zosuku lwakhe, ngiziba amahora futhi ngiphatha izinto ngedwa izinsuku eziningi.
6. Yiziphi izinto ezine ezibaluleke kakhulu kunoma imuphi umshado?
Ukuthobeka. Uthando. Umhlatshelo. Ukwethembeka.
7. Iseluleko sokulinganisa umsebenzi wobuciko nomshado onempilo?
Ngifunde indlela yokulinganisela. Ibhalansi yinto ehlala njalo, futhi ngiqonde ukuthi njalo, umsebenzi uyaqhubeka. Ukuba ngungqondongqondo kusho ukuthi akukho switch engingayicisha. Ingqondo yami isebenza ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi lapho ngihlela incwadi. Ngigijimisa izindaba zezindaba ngenkathi ngipheka isidlo sakusihlwa, ngishayela (ungakuncomi lokho), njll. Kulula kakhulu ukusongwa ngento ongeke uphume kuyo ukhohlwe izimangaliso ezinhle eziphambi kwakho.
Yize ngisasebenza ngokulingana, ngicabanga ukuthi ukuxhumana ngokukhululekile kuyisihluthulelo. Ngisakhumbula ngesinye isikhathi, eminyakeni eyedlule, ngemuva kokuba umyeni wami esethathe kancane ukuze ngikwazi ukusebenza ngencwadi yami, wagcina efikile lapho ngangisebenza khona. Waguqa eduze kwami, wangilinda ukuba ngiqede umugqa engangisebenza kuwo, wabeka isandla sakhe engalweni yami wathi ngobumnene, “Siyakudinga, nawe sthandwa. Ungakhohlwa ngathi, kulungile? ” Kwesinye isikhathi ngiyamdinga ukuthi athi, "Buyela kithi." Ngemuva kwalokho kufanele ngizimisele ukuzwa, ukulalela, nokuthi, "Kulungile." Ngaleso sikhathi lapho ngizama ukulungisa futhi ngilinganise kangcono kangcono.
Ukuba nobuciko nakho kunikeza isethi yezinkinga ezihlukile abantu abangaziboni. Uma sihlala phansi ukubhala, ukudweba, ukupenda — noma ngabe kuyini — izinto zenza lokho esifuna bakwenze. Siphethe. Ukuqedwa ngaleso sikhathi kulawo maphupho nokuthi leso simo sokugeleza sinzima futhi sibuhlungu. Izwe langempela liyashintshashintsha; ayikwenzi okushoyo. Lesi simiso yiso esondla izinkolelo-mbono eziningi zabaculi — njengesizungu esihlukanisile esihlala estudiyo saso usuku lonke siphuza kakhulu iwhisky. Abaningi balaba baculi bakhetha ukugwema ubuhlungu obungapheli kanye ne-whiplash yokushintshela empilweni yangempela futhi bahlale lapho kulula khona. Kepha impilo nobuciko akusho lutho uma kungekho osele okumele akuthande futhi akuthande.