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- Bona ukuthi yikuphi ukunganaki okuletha emshadweni
- Vula imigqa yokuxhumana
- Dedela okulindelwe okungenangqondo
- Chithani isikhathi ndawonye
- Nobabili niya kodokotela
- Hamba uyobona umelaphi womshado
- Khuluma ngokulindelwe ngesikhathi sokuzalwa nangemva kwalokho
Ngaphandle komcimbi ojabulisayo wokukhulelwa, ngeshwa, ukwehlukana komshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuvame kakhulu. Kepha, ukwahlukana ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kungaba yinto ebuhlungu kumlingani ophethe ingane.
Ukuba ngumama akuyona into elula. Umzimba wowesifazane kufanele ubhekane nezinguquko eziningana zamahomoni ezithinta impilo yakhe yengqondo kanye neyomzimba.
Kungaba nzima kakhulu kowesifazane uma ekhulelwe futhi umshado uqhekeka. Futhi uma owesifazane kufanele ahlukaniswe ngokomthetho ngesikhathi ekhulelwe, ukuhlupheka kwakhe bekungeke kwenzeke!
Kepha, umbuzo usalokhu uthi, kungani isimo 'sokushabalala komshado ngenkathi ukhulelwe' sivame kakhulu?
Imibhangqwana iwela ogibeni lokulindelwe okungafinyelelwanga kanye nama-roller coasters asusa ukugxila kunqwaba yenjabulo esondelayo, bese angena ezindabeni ezingezinhle ezivelayo.
Ungakuvumeli lokhu kwenzeke kuwe! Ungakwazi, ngazo zonke izindlela, ukusindisa ubudlelwano bakho buchitheka ngenkathi ukhulelwe, uma wenza umzamo wakho oqotho wokusindisa umshado wakho.
Ngakho-ke uma ucabanga ukuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukwahlukana futhi ugcine umshado wakho, ungakhathazeki. Nawa amathiphu ambalwa abalulekile wokukusiza ukuthi ugweme ukuhlukaniswa komshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Bona ukuthi yikuphi ukunganaki okuletha emshadweni
Kuhlale kuyiphutha lomunye umuntu — okungenani yilokho okuvame ukucatshangwa yiwo wonke umuntu. Kunzima ukubona ukuthi yikuphi ukunganaki esikuletayo emshadweni, kepha kubalulekile ukwenza njalo.
Ngoba empeleni, kuthatha ama-tango amabili. Lokho kusho ukuthi, uma oshade naye ethukuthele noma ecasukile, kungaba nesizathu.
Mhlawumbe unkosikazi ophethe ingane akahlangabezani nezidingo zabo noma ubabandakanya kunoma yiziphi izinto ezimnandi zengane.
Mhlawumbe ukubelesela kwakhe kuvala owakwakhe. Bobabili kufanele basolwe ngokunganaki, ngakho-ke bobabili abantu kumele bakubone lokho.
Yinakekele ngokushesha kunangesikhathi esizayo, ngoba ukungabi bikho kwesikhathi eside kungena, kungenzeka ukuthi bobabili noma bobabili bangasho noma benze okuthile abangazisola ngakho.
Lokhu kungaholela ekulimaleni imizwa futhi ekugcineni, ukwahlukana ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, okuyisikhathi lapho kufanele ukuthi izithandani zihlangane ndawonye.
Vula imigqa yokuxhumana
Lapho imibhangqwana iyeka ukukhuluma, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, izinto zingaya eningizimu ngokushesha.
Uma omunye wenu noma nobabili nisaba ukuthi kungenzeka nibe ngabazali kodwa ningakhulumi ngakho, imizwa ingakha futhi iveze ngezindlela ezihlukile.
Naka indlela omunye umuntu enza ngayo futhi mhlawumbe uzizwa ngayo, bese ubuza imibuzo. Khuluma ngezinto ezikukhathazayo. Qiniseka ukuthi usiza omunye umuntu azizwe ekhululekile ukukhuluma nganoma yini, noma ukukhathazeka ngengane noma ngokukhulelwa.
Ngakho-ke, ukugwema ukwahlukana ngenkathi ukhulelwe, vula imigqa yokuxhumana ukuze nibe ndawonye njengabantu abashadile futhi niphile lesi sigaba sokukhulelwa ngenjabulo ngazwi linye.
Dedela okulindelwe okungenangqondo
Ikakhulukazi kubazali bokuqala, imibhangqwana ingaba nombono osontekile wokuthi ukukhulelwa nokuba nengane kunjani.
Ozoba ngumama angalindela owakwakhe ukuthi enze izinto ezithile noma amnake kakhulu, mhlawumbe aze athathe imisebenzi yasekhaya noma azi ukuthi enzeni lapho ezizwa enesicanucanu.
Lapho lokho okulindelwe kungafinyelelwanga, imibhangqwana ingazizwa icasukile noma intukuthelo. Zama ukubhekana namaqiniso futhi uqaphele ukuthi akekho kini owake wabhekana nalokhu phambilini.
Yeka okulindelwe okungenangqondo futhi uqaphele ukuthi ubuhlobo bomshado ngamunye buhlukile, futhi ukukhulelwa ngakunye kwehlukile. Kwenze kube ngokwakho — ndawonye.
Chithani isikhathi ndawonye
Kwesinye isikhathi, udinga nje ukusuka kukho konke bese ugxila komunye nomunye.
Ukukhulelwa kuyacindezela. Kuningi kakhulu okufanele kubhekwe mayelana nokuthi kwenzekani emzimbeni wowesifazane, ukuthi ingane ikhula kanjani, nawo wonke amathuba esikhathi esizayo.
Uma ugxila kakhulu kulokho hhayi komunye nomunye, ubuhlobo bakho bomshado buyahlupheka.
Ngakho-ke hlela ukusuka ngokushesha ukuze nibe khona lapho nitholana, kude nomsebenzi nezinye izibopho. Phinda uxhume futhi ubuye uvuselelwe futhi ulinganise okuningi ezimpilweni zakho.
Abanye abantu bakubiza lokhu ngokuthi 'yi-babymoon' njengenyanga yangemva komshado ngaphandle kokweqa ngaphambi kokuba kufike ingane. Lesi kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokuxhuma kabusha.
Nobabili niya kodokotela
Kwesinye isikhathi imibhangqwana iyahlukana phakathi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ngoba owesifazane ophethe ingane uzizwa enesizungu ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, futhi owakwakhe uzizwa eshiywe ngaphandle kukho konke.
Enye indlela yokukugwema lokho futhi ulethe injabulo eyengeziwe ezinyangeni eziyisishiyagalolunye ukuthi nobabili niye kodokotela abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka.
Lokhu kusiza unkosikazi ukuthi azizwe esekelwa ngumlingani wakhe njengoba bechitha lesi sikhathi esikhethekile ndawonye, nozakwethu uzizwa ebandakanyekile njengoba nabo bebona udokotela futhi babamba iqhaza olwazini lokuthi ingane ikhula kanjani.
Bobabili bangabuza imibuzo futhi baxoxe ngokukhathazeka nokuthi yini abangayilindela ngesikhathi sokuvakasha.
Hamba uyobona umelaphi womshado
Ngenxa yengcindezi eyengeziwe yokukhulelwa, kwesinye isikhathi ukuzama nje ukuba khona ngokwengeziwe komunye nomunye akwanele. Ungahle udinge usizo lwangaphandle.
Kungekudala, hamba uyobona umelaphi womshado. Khuluma ngokwenzeka emshadweni nokuthi ukukhulelwa kungeze ini kulengxube.
Umeluleki uzonisiza nobabili nihlele imizwa yenu futhi niqondane kangcono.
Khuluma ngokulindelwe ngesikhathi sokuzalwa nangemva kwalokho
Ukuzalwa kungaba isikhathi senjabulo, kepha imizwa ebuhlungu ingenzeka kalula.
Imizwelo iyakhula, futhi umuntu ngamunye angaba nokulindela okwehlukile ngezindima zomunye nomunye. Uma lokho kungafinyelelwa, usuku lokuzalwa lungahle lungabi luhle kakhulu.
Ngakho-ke khuluma ngalokho okulindele, nokuthi ngamunye wenu ufuna ini, ukuphuma kukho. Ukwehlukana nendoda ngenkathi ukhulelwe kungakulimaza impilo yakho yonke, ngakho-ke yenza imizamo engcono kakhulu yokugcina ubudlelwano bakho buqhubeka.
Futhi qhubeka ukhulume ngemicabango yakho ngokuba ngumzali, nokuthi ngamunye wenu uzosiza kanjani ekunikeleni ekunakekeleni usana lwakhe olusanda kuzalwa.
Ukuba ngabazali kuyinto ejabulisayo, kepha ukukhulelwa kuyabuguqula ubudlelwano bomshado. Qiniseka ukuthi phakathi nalezi zinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye ukuhlangana ngangokunokwenzeka, esikhundleni sokuhlukana.
Ngokuba khona komunye nomunye futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ugxila emshadweni ngenkathi ulindele ingane yakho entsha, ungakugwema ukuhlukana ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.