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Kubantu abaningi uJanuwari ngandlela thile wehlisiwe. Amaholidi asephelile, kuyabanda ngaphandle, futhi imvamisa sishiywa ngamakhilogremu athe xaxa kusuka ekuwenzeni ngokweqile ngoDisemba. Kepha kimi uNyaka Omusha usho ukuqala okusha, ukuqala kabusha, futhi njengoba u-Oprah Winfrey ejabulisa- “unyaka omusha nelinye ithuba lokuthi sikulungise.”
Unethuba elihle kakhulu kulo nyaka omusha sha wokuletha umoya wezinguquko ezinhle emshadweni wakho. Ngisho kulezi zinsuku eziyinyumba zobusika umbono omusha ungaqala ukuqhakaza.
Imibono eguqukayo
Ingabe impilo ayikona konke mayelana nombono? Ngivame ukutshela amaklayenti ami ukuthi ngikholelwa ukuthi impilo ingumbono we-99.9%. Indlela esikhetha ngayo ukubona umhlaba ukuthi sizokuthola kanjani. Ngakho-ke, akuyona indaba yokulungisa ubuhlobo bakho bonke. Lokho kungazizwa njengenselele enkulu. Mhlawumbe kuyindaba nje yokuguqula umbono wakho - okuncane nje. Ukuqaphela, mhlawumbe okokuqala ngqa esikhathini eside, okuhle obekulapho sonke isikhathi.
Kufana nezinsimbi zeruby zikaDorothy kuWizard of Oz. Ngiyasithanda leso senzakalo esimangazayo lapho uMthakathi Omuhle embulela uDorothy inani lalawo ma-slippers. Wayekade ezigqoke sonke lesikhathi ngaphandle kokuqaphela amandla ababenawo. Ngaleso sikhathi uDorothy uthola ukuthi wayengabuzi umbuzo ofanele. Umbuzo wawungewona, "Ngikuthola kanjani engikufunayo?" Umbuzo wangempela wawungukuthi, “Ngikubona kanjani engikudinga ukukwenza ukupholisha itshe eliyigugu elidala futhi ngithole ukuthi lihle futhi liyigugu kangakanani ngempela. Lelo tshe eliyigugu impela ngumlingani wakho!
Ukudala lolu shintsho ekuqwashiseni kwakho kulula kunokuba ungacabanga.
Nazi izinyathelo ezi-3 ongazithatha njengamanje.
1. Yiba nomusa
Lesi sicaphuna sisho konke. Ilula kanjalo, kepha inamandla amakhulu! "Umusa ongalindelekile unamandla kakhulu, ungabizi kakhulu, futhi ungummeleli ophansi kakhulu wezinguquko zabantu" ~ Bob Kerry
2. Qala ukugxila kulokho okuthandayo ngomlingani wakho
Yenza uhlu ukuzikhumbuza. Indlela enhle yokwenza lokhu ukugcina i-Gratitude Journal ngobudlelwano bakho. Lapho ukungezwani kukhuphuka ungabheka kulo magazini ukukusiza ukuthi uguqule wonke umbono obalulekile. Lokhu kungasiza kakhulu ekubukeni udlule inqwaba yemikhuba ecasulayo futhi kungakusiza ukuthola kabusha okwenza umlingani wakho akhetheke kangaka. Yifunde kaningi futhi ungakhohlwa ukwabelana ngemininingwane eyigugu nomuntu okhethekile ovusa lolu thando.
3. Zibeke ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu
Zijwayeze ukubona izinto “ngombono” womuntu oshade naye esikhundleni sokubona kwakho. Ungamangala ukuthi kungakanani ongakufunda lapho wamukela isimo selukuluku kunokwahlulela.
Ezikhathini zami zokwelulekwa nasendaweni yami yokusebenzela, ngivame ukubhekisa kwisisho -
"Okugxile kukho kuyanda." Uma ugxila emaphutheni ebudlelwaneni bakho, uzowabona la maphutha kaningi. Uma, noma kunjalo, uzijwayeza ukushintshela umbono wakho kokuhle, bese ugxila kulokho okuthandayo futhi ukukwazise ngomlingani wakho, yilokhu okuzokwanda emkhakheni wakho wokuqwashisa.
Enye yezindlela zokuqala ukushintsha umbono wakho ukusebenzisa isimo sokubonga kulo lonke usuku lwakho. Lokhu kuguqulwa kwesimo esibaluleke kakhulu kungashintsha kakhulu umbono wakho ngaleyo ndlela kuguqule umhlaba wakho.
Kusebenza okufana ne-prism, kuguqula ukukhanya okujwayelekile kube uthingo lwemibala. Ukukhanya akuguquki empeleni, kepha ukuqonda kwethu ngakho kuyashintsha kuye ngokuthi sibheka kanjani kulolucwecwe.
Ukuhlakulela umoya wokubonga nokwazisa emshadweni wakho akuyona into enzima noma engeyona eyemvelo njengoba kungazwakala. Ukubonga akudingeki kube inkulumo elungiselelwe. Kungaba yizwi nje lokubonga ngokwenza umsebenzi othile ojwayelekile noma umusa onjengokuthi, “Ngikuthande kakhulu ngesikhathi ungisiza ngokugeza izitsha kusihlwa.” Noma, "Ukudla kwakusihlwa kwakumnandi!" Kungenzeka uqaphele okuthile okugqoke umlingani wakho noma into oyithandayo ngokubukeka kwakhe, - ”Ihembe elihle!” Noma, "Hawu, ubukeka umuhle kulelo juzi."
Lapho imibhangqwana isebenza ngale ndlela yokuxhuma njalo ihlakulela umkhuba wokubona nokwabelana zonke izinto ezizithandayo ngomunye nomunye. Ungacabanga ukuthi lokhu kungabuthinta kanjani ubudlelwano bakho?
Eminye imibhangqwana efuna ngempela ukuthatha lokhu iye ezingeni elilandelayo iqeda isikhathi esithile esikhethekile usuku ngalunye futhi ibambe iqhaza Engxoxweni Yokwazisa. I-Dialogue Dialogue iyinhlobonhlobo ye-Couples Dialogue, engiyifundisa kwi-Workshop yami yokulungisa imishado, Izithandani zibekela eceleni isikhathi futhi zisebenzise le ngxoxo ukwazana ukuthi zithandani futhi ziyazani ngomunye nomunye.
Kuyajabulisa ukwazi ukuthi ngomzamo omncane ungaqala lo nyaka omusha ngokuqala kabusha ebudlelwaneni bakho.
Ngakho-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi uJanuwari akuyona into enjalo.
Ah ubuhle BOKUBONAKALA!