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- 1. Ungalindeli ukukholwa enkantolo
- 2. Ijaji lizokuphatha ngokulingana wena nomqashi wakho
- 3. Nciphisa ukuxhumana
- 4. Beka imingcele bese unamathela kuyo
- 5. Bhala konke
Wenze iphutha ngokushada nomuntu othanda izinto zasemlonyeni, mhlawumbe uzizwa ungathandwa noma ungafunwa ebudlelwaneni bakho. Awukhulumisani kahle nomlingani wakho, umyeni wakho othanda izinto zobudlabha akathwali umthwalo ngesenzo sakhe, uzizwa ephakeme emshadweni, uhlala eqinisile futhi akalokothi enze iphutha futhi uhlala ezenza lokho okungeyena.
Ucabanga ukuthi ungawusindisa kanjani umshado, kepha uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, umshado wakho awukwazi ukulungiswa. Ukuphela kwento esebenzayo ongayenza ukufaka isehlukaniso. Yebo, yize kuzwakala kuxaka, isehlukaniso siyindlela engcono kakhulu kuwe.
Abantu abaningi kuyaqondakala, bazokwenza cishe noma yini ukugwema ukumangalelwa nganoma yiziphi izizathu, kufaka phakathi izindleko zezimali, ukulahleka kwemfihlo, ukubalwa okungenakugwemeka kokuphikisana phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho, ubuhlungu obubangela izingane namanye amalungu omndeni, kanye ukwesaba ukubeka impilo yakho yonke ezandleni zomuntu ongamazi nhlobo, uhleli ebhentshini elingaphambi kwenkantolo.
Kepha kufanele kwenziwe ngandlela thile, ngakho-ke nazi izeluleko ezibalulekile ozidingayo ukuze uqede isehlukaniso sakho nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe.
1. Ungalindeli ukukholwa enkantolo
Ngokuqinisekile, enkantolo, kunamaqhinga ahlukahlukene oshade naye angakusebenzisa kuwe. Inombolo eyodwa yenza wena nabangane bakho nibe nokungabaza okushoyo.
Kepha kufanele ume umile uzame ukwenza izinto zicace, ngizokweluleka ukuthi ube nomngani okholelwa yonke into ngesimo sakho. AbakwaNarcissists bayakujabulela ukukugqugquzela ukuthi uphendule, ngakho-ke kungcono ukuthi uvimbe isifiso sakho sokuziphindiselela noma wenze ngokuxhamazela kulokho okushiwo nayekwenza.
2. Ijaji lizokuphatha ngokulingana wena nomqashi wakho
Inkantolo eyokulingana nobulungiswa.
Ijaji lizokuphatha ngokulingana wena nomqashi wakho, ijaji ngeke libone inkunzi yomshikashika. Ijaji ngeke licabangele iqiniso lokuthi ubelokhu ekuhlukumeza izinyanga noma iminyaka eminingana, ijaji ngeke libone amanga alikhulume noma indlela akade ekuwe ngayo esikhathini esedlule. Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukulungela noma ikuphi ukumangala.Thola amaqiniso nemininingwane yakho ngokufanele.
Ungacabangi ukuthi ijaji lizokuthanda ngenxa yesizathu noma esinye. Lungela.
3. Nciphisa ukuxhumana
Ngokuqinisekile, oshade naye uzofuna ukwenza noma yini ukushintsha inqubo yesehlukaniso. Lokhu kufaka ukuhlangana nawe nokuzama "ukukuncenga" ukuthi ungaqhubeki nesehlukaniso. Angaqala nokukuthembisa ukuthi uzoshintsha.
Kepha konke kungukukhohlisa.
Ukulwa izimpi zansuku zonke nowakwakho nakanjani kuzokuqeda amandla futhi kuzokugcina ungathuthuki phambili ezintweni ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ukunqoba le mpi, udinga ukunquma noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuxhumana naye. Kufanele ususe oxhumana naye, umvimbe kuwo wonke ama-akhawunti wakho wezokuxhumana.
Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukumvimba kususa zonke izinhlobo zokuphikisana ngamazwi njalo lapho ubona owakwakho.
4. Beka imingcele bese unamathela kuyo
Ukuze unqobe noma yiluphi uhlobo lwesehlukaniso, ukubeka imingcele noma imingcele kubalulekile. Kunezinto okufanele uzibekele ukuthi uzenze futhi kunezinyathelo okudingeka uzenze uma imingcele yeqiwa.
Indlela enhle yokugwema ukuba yipayipi emdlalweni wakhe, ukubeka imingcele eqinile.
Futhi, namathela emingceleni, u "Cha" wakho abe ngu "Cha". Ukwedlula isehlukaniso nomyeni wakho we-narcissist, udinga ukwenza okungaphezulu kokubeka izindinganiso kepha ngokunamathela kuzo.
5. Bhala konke
Njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, ama-narcissists angcono kakhulu emidlalweni yengqondo. Uzokwenza izinto ezizokwenza ungabaze ukuthi uphilile engqondweni. Angakusebenzisa amaqiniso onawo ngokumelene naye. Indlela enhle yokulwa namakhono akhe okukhohlisa ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ubhala konke okwenzekayo nomyeni wakho we-narcissist.
Khumbula, akukho lutho ozohlangabezana nalo ngaphandle kwezinxushunxushu nezinkinga ngenkathi ushade nendoda eyi-narcissist. Umyeni wakho we-narcissist akafuni ukulahlekelwa yicala lesehlukaniso kuwe. Landela lawa macebiso awusizo wokuthi unganqoba kanjani lapho uhlukanisa nomyeni we-narcissist bese uqeda usizi lwakho, ukuze uqale kabusha.