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- 1. Xhumana njalo
- 2. Iya kumnyama
- 3. Imilayezo yokulinganisa kwesibuko
- 4. Bancome phambi kwabantu
- 5. Geza izinyawo zakhe
"Lonke uthando olukhulu luqala ngendaba emnandi."
UNicholas Sparks, umbhali wenoveli yezothando ethengiswa kakhulu kunazo zonke Incwajana bekufanele ngesikhathi esho lokho. Zonke izindaba zothando ziqala ngendaba ekhethekile nehlukile. Ezinye ziyahlekisa, ezinye ziyamangaza, kanti ezinye zinomlingo. Uma ucabanga emuva ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bakho uzothola indaba ekwenze wazizwa uthandwa, ukhethekile futhi wajabula ngekusasa.
Ngeshwa, eminyakeni edlule imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile iyayikhohlwa indaba yayo. Bacwiliswa yizinkinga nezinselelo zempilo abangakwazi ukukhumbula ukuthi yini ebahlanganise kule ndawo yokuqala. Ubudlelwano buya kusishisi sangemuva futhi ukunganaki kuyangena lapho beqhubeka ezindleleni ezihambisanayo ezizogcina zenze ibanga abangakwazi ukulinqoba.
Ezothando - esake zaba yitshe legumbi lobudlelwano - azitholakali ndawo.
Kepha akumele kube njalo. Noma ngabe usushade iminyaka emithathu noma engama-30 ungagcina ukuthandana emshadweni wakho. Kuthatha ukuzinikela nomzamo kepha nakanjani kuyenzeka.
Lokhu okulandelayo izindlela ezinhlanu ezihlukile zokugcina ezothando ebudlelwaneni bakho.
1. Xhumana njalo
Enye yezinto zothando ongazenza ukukhombisa oshade naye ukuthi bangabantu abaphezulu kwengqondo. Ayikho into ekhetheke ngaphezu kokwazi ukuthi yize uhlukene nowakwakho akulahlekile. Yilapho “ukuxhumana njalo” kusebenza khona. Isonto ngalinye hlela ukufinyelela koshade naye uma nihlukene futhi nibazise ukuthi bayafisa. Lokhu kungenziwa ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene kufaka phakathi: imiyalezo; ama-imeyili amafushane; noma izingcingo. Shiya izipho ezincane, amanothi noma amakhadi ngemuva ukuze kutholakale, noma uwafake esikhwameni, esikhwameni noma emotweni. Kunezindlela eziningi ongazibandakanya ngazo udinga nje ukudala. Hlela ukuxhumana kwakho usebenzisa ikhalenda ye-elekthronikhi ngakho-ke ikunikeza ngezexwayiso ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo futhi ufinyelele. Lokhu kudinga umzamo wakho kodwa kufanelekile ukuthi kudlalwe.
2. Iya kumnyama
Ngobusuku obubodwa cisha yonke into kufaka phakathi amalambu, omakhalekhukhwini, ithelevishini, amakhompyutha neGo Dark. Ngokukhanya okuvela emakhandleleni, chitha isikhathi sabelana ngemizwa futhi nihleka ndawonye. Slip iwayini, hlala eduze futhi wabelane ngekhwalithi ethile, isikhathi esiseduze ndawonye.
3. Imilayezo yokulinganisa kwesibuko
Sebenzisa isibuko sokulinganisa ukubhala imiyalezo emifushane, emifushane yokuvuma kuyamangaza ukwazisa othile ukuthi uyakhathala. Okuthile okulula njengokuthi “Angisakwazi ukulinda ukukubona namhlanje ebusuku” ukubingelela umlingani wakho ekuseni lapho ebuka esibukweni sokugezela kuyinto ezohlala nabo usuku lonke.
4. Bancome phambi kwabantu
Amagama anomusa koshade naye azohamba ibanga elide, ikakhulukazi uma abiwa phakathi kwabantu. Unganqikazi ukutshela umhlaba ukuthi ukholelwa kanjani ukuthi owakwakho ukhethekile noma uhlukile. Yabelana ngamagama amahle okuvuma phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, abangane, omakhelwane nabanye ukukhombisa uthando lwakho nokuzinikela kwakho.
5. Geza izinyawo zakhe
Le eyabafana. Kunesimo esihle esivela ku-movie iThe War Room, lapho umyeni athola khona ipani lamanzi afudumele futhi amasaje ngobumnene futhi ageze izinyawo zomkakhe. Uma ungakwenzanga lokhu ngaphambili kungokuhlangenwe nakho okuzehlisa ngokumangalisayo okungaletha izinyembezi emehlweni akho, ngenkathi kwenza nobabili nizizwe nisondelene kunanini ngaphambili.
Zama lezi zeluleko zothando emshadweni wakho bese ungitshela umehluko owenzile ebudlelwaneni bakho.