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- Ukuxhuma izingcezu eziphukile kungaba buhlungu
- AmaNarcissist adlala umdlalo wokusola ebudlelwaneni
- Yini eyakha ukwethembeka?
- Uphi umugqa wobuqotho?
Iningi labashadikazi lingena emshadweni ngokulindela uthando, ukwethembeka, futhi ngenjabulo njalo.
Ukuqomisana kwakudakisa, umshado, vele, ubungcwele nokuqala komshado, kuvusa amadlingozi ngokweqile esivunguvungwini sesigaba se-honeymoon.
Ngokushesha phambili eminyakeni embalwa kanti isigaba se-honeymoon manje sesiphelile, izithombe zomshado ziyizinsalela zendaba engabizwa ngokuthi, 'Lokhu kuzoba ngukufa kwami ”, kudlala umuntu ongakhohlwa othandweni kanye nomshayeli wezinganekwane abashade naye.
Ukuxhuma izingcezu eziphukile kungaba buhlungu
Ngibona abaningi emsebenzini wami, ikakhulukazi abesifazane, abeza bahlale ehhovisi lami bazame ukunamathisela emuva izingcezu zendaba ebeziphukile kwasekuqaleni.
Bakhuluma ubuhlungu, ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, ukungabaza, ukuthotshiswa nokuzizwa benecala. Intambo ejwayelekile elukiwe phakathi kwalaba besifazane ukuthi bonke bashade nendoda efanayo. Hhayi ngempela umuntu wangempela, kepha i-narcissist ngokufanayo.
AmaNarcissist adlala umdlalo wokusola ebudlelwaneni
Ukuphakama okuhlukile, isisindo esihlukile, umsebenzi ohlukile, imoto ehlukile, kepha izingqondo ezifanayo, izindlela ezifanayo, amaqhinga afanayo okungasebenzi, ukuzikhukhumeza okufanayo, nokungabi nozwelo.
Lawa madoda, ngendlela eyiqiniso yama-narcissist, asola laba besifazane. Bahlanekezela iqiniso ngenzuzo yabo enobuthi, banomuzwa wokuthi banecala ngokungafanele, futhi bayakha futhi bathethelele zonke izenzo ezinyantisayo, noma ngabe zibathinta kanjani abesifazane.
Bakwenza konke ngenkathi bezwakala bephile kahle engqondweni, isisulu ngokuphelele, bethuswa ngokusobala ngamacala abekwa phambi kwabo.
Kwesinye isikhathi kudinga ukususa ukhula ngobumpumputhe bothando ukubona ukuthi uthando, ukwethembeka kanye nenjabulo njalo kudlala kanjani.
I-narcissist ingakholelwa ngokweqiniso ukuthi iyona ebanjiwe.
Into eyodwa impela, bahlala beyisisulu futhi nguwe okufanele ubonge ubukhona babo. Ubakweleta ukwethembeka kwakho.
Ukwethembeka, noma ngabe ubhekene nengxabano kumayelana nencazelo.
Yini eyakha ukwethembeka?
Impendulo incike uma ubuza umuntu osebenzisa izihibe noma oyisisulu sangempela.
Ukukopela nokuphinga kungahluka, izindaba ezingokomzwelo uma kuqhathaniswa nezomzimba kungenzeka zifane.
Konke kumayelana nokuyichaza. Lokho mhlawumbe yingxoxo ebidinga ukwenzeka ngaphambi kwengxoxo nomhleli womshado.
Ukuphi okuphakathi? Noma ingabe kukhona okungalungile noma okulungile kuphela?
Enye indoda inikele kumlingani wayo, ngemuva kokubanjwa kwiwebhusayithi yezinsizakalo zokuphola, "kumane nje kungukuxhumana okubonakalayo." Lesi sitatimende silandelwe “azikho izinsuku, imihlangano yasemini nje ”.
Uphi umugqa wobuqotho?
Sonke sinokulindela okuphathelene nobudlelwano.
Lokho okulindelwe kumele kuchazwe kusenesikhathi.
Qiniseka ukuthi awumane nje uphuphuthekiswe yilawo makhemikhali ebuchosheni bakho akhuthaza “Ngisemathandweni" injabulo. Ushokoledi ungenza into efanayo futhi awusoze wenza okuhle ukuba nengxoxo ebonakalayo nanoma ubani noma umhlangano wesidlo sasemini.
Bheka izimpawu zokuziphatha okunobuthi okushiya uzizwe kabi hhayi umuntu owenza icala ngempela.
Uma uzithola ukulesi simo, kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza -
- Thembeka kuwe uqobo. Oshade naye mhlawumbe ngeke aguquke. Isikhathi sesinqumo.
- Imayelana nokubekezelelana noma ukwamukelwa. Yini ongahlala nayo? Noma ungayishiya ngemuva?
- Funda ukuzimela. Noma ngabe kusho ukuthatha isigaba sokuqinisekisa. Tshala imali kuwe.
- Yiba nesandla ekubhekaneni nokuziphatha okunobuthi. Kukhona amaphethini. Usuvele uyabazi.
- Zibeke wena kuqala, ngaphandle kwecala.
- Kholwa ukuthi ufanele kangcono.
- Yenza i-aphoyintimenti nomelaphi ongakunika ukuqondiswa nokucaca.
- Chaza ngenjabulo njalo ngamagama akho
- Hamba uchaze kabusha impilo yakho.
- Jabula indlela yakho.