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- Izingcaphuno zisiza kanjani ukwelapha inhliziyo ephukile
- Isehlukaniso sicaphuna yena
- Isehlukaniso sicaphuna yena
Lapho sinenhliziyo ephukile singaphendukela kumculo noma siphendukele kuzingcaphuno ezinengqondo. Kulabo manje abacabanga ukuthi ngabe badinga ukuqeda ubudlelwano noma umshado wabo, induduzo yakho ongaya kuyo kungaba izingcaphuno zesehlukaniso ezizothinta inhliziyo yakho nje.
Izingcaphuno zisiza kanjani ukwelapha inhliziyo ephukile
Ungase uzibuze ukuthi izingcaphuno zesehlukaniso noma izingcaphuno ezijwayelekile zisiza kanjani ukuphulukisa inhliziyo ephukile. Ngabe ukucaphuna okukodwa kungasho kangakanani njengoba kungafingqa ngokoqobo lokho okuzwayo kuleli phuzu lempilo yakho futhi empeleni kube nengqondo engaka?
Kungaba nempendulo eyodwa kulokhu, kungenxa yokuthi lezi zingcaphuno zenziwe ngemizwa ngabantu abaphefumulelwe hhayi ngemizwa ejabulisayo kuphela kepha nangokudabuka, ukulahlekelwa kanye nokuhlukana.
Baphelele ngoba bafushane, bagcwele imizwa, futhi banamagama afanele okuchaza lokho esizizwa khona manje.
Ngakho-ke masiqhubeke futhi sifunde amanye amaqoqo anengqondo kunawo wonke wezingcaphuno zesehlukaniso kuye futhi nezilinganiso zesehlukaniso zakhe.
Isehlukaniso sicaphuna yena
Impela akuvamile ukuthi sibone indoda igquma noma iveze imizwa yayo. Kuze kube manje, sisenomqondo wokuthi amadoda angamadoda futhi ayakhala noma okungenani ukukhipha umoya kuzowenza angabi yindoda. Kepha okuhle ukuthi kukhona izingcaphuno lapho, lapho kukhulu kakhulu, umuntu angaphendukela kuzilinganiso zesehlukaniso ukuze anikeze incazelo kulokho abakucabangayo.
“Isehlukaniso singezinye zezinto ezihlukumeza kakhulu ngokwezimali ongadlula kuzo. Imali esetshenziselwe ukuthukuthela noma ukuziphindiselela imali isetshenzisiwe. ” URichard Wagner
Akulona iqiniso lelo? Isehlukaniso sisidlela imali eningi, imali esivele siyisebenzisa ukuthenga imoto entsha noma ukuqala ibhizinisi elisha kodwa ungacabanga ukuthi abantu basakhetha isehlukaniso ngoba kuyadingeka.
"Isehlukaniso akuyena umuntu kuphela, yikho konke okuhambisana nakho - izingane zakho, ukulungiswa, nakho konke." UPeter Andre
Isehlukaniso akulula neze; awumhlukanisi nje umuntu. Ekugcineni uthinta konke owawunakho. Akufani nokuthi sikwenzela lokhu ukuzijabulisa. Eqinisweni, kuzophula nezinhliziyo zethu ukubona ukuthi isehlukaniso singathinta kanjani thina kuphela kodwa nezingane zethu.
“Isehlukaniso mhlawumbe sibuhlungu njengokufa.” UWilliam Shatner
Awekho amanye amagama angachaza isehlukaniso kangcono kunokufa. Ukufa komshado wakho wamaphupho, ukufa komndeni ophelele kanye nengxenye yakho kumane kufe kanye nesehlukaniso. Abesilisa cishe bazokwazi ukufihla imizwa yabo kepha isehlukaniso sibuhlungu futhi lokho kuyiqiniso.
“Isehlukaniso sifana nokunqunywa; uyasinda, kodwa bambalwa bakho ”- uMargaret Atwood
Noma imuphi umbhangqwana uzosinda esehlukanisweni, kumane kuyinqubo ende etusayo kepha ungaphila nakanjani. Kodwa-ke, ingxenye yakho, noma ngabe kukhululeka kangakanani ekuhlukaniseni kwakho kuzozwakala sengathi yafa kanye nokuphela komshado wakho.
"Ngiyakwazi engikuletha etafuleni ... Ngakho-ke ngethembe uma ngithi angikwesabi ukudla ngedwa." - Akwaziwa
Isikhathi esiningi, isehlukaniso singazizwa sodwa futhi singadala nokudangala kepha kwabanye abaziyo ukuthi banikele ngakho konke futhi banikele ngakho konke okusemandleni abo - isehlukaniso ngeke sibashukumise ngoba bayakwazi ukubaluleka kwabo.
"Isehlukaniso ukufa kwephupho obucabanga ukuthi lizophela." - Akwaziwa
Sonke siphuphe ngomshado ozohlala impilo yonke. Yingakho sashada kwasekuqaleni, akunjalo? Kodwa-ke, lapho impilo yenzeka, isehlukaniso siyenzeka kithi nephupho lokuthi sake safa.
Isehlukaniso sicaphuna yena
Abesifazane baziwa ngokukwazi ukuthatha izinhlungu futhi basabekezelela. Abesifazane baziwa ukuthi banomzwelo kakhulu kunabesilisa.
"Lapho abantu ababili benquma ukuhlukanisa, akusona isibonakaliso sokuthi 'abazwani' omunye nomunye, kodwa uphawu lokuthi, okungenani, baqale.” - UHelen Rowland
Kwesinye isikhathi, lapho ekugcineni sibona ubuntu bangempela bomuntu esishade naye, ekugcineni siyaqonda ukuthi kungani umehluko othile ungeke walungiswa.
“Isehlukaniso akulona iphutha lengane. Ungakhulumi into engeyinhle nge-ex yakho enganeni, ngoba empeleni uyilimaza ingane. ” - UValerie Bertinelli
Ngobuhlungu obuningi, kwesinye isikhathi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuziphindisela ukutshela izingane ukuthi kwenzekeni nokuthi yini ebangele ukuthi isehlukaniso singazi, asiziphindiseli nje kumlingani wethu kodwa futhi silimaza nezingane.
“Isehlukaniso asiyona inhlekelele enjalo. Ukuhlala kabuhlungu emshadweni ongajabulisi, ufundisa izingane zakho izinto ezingalungile ngothando. Akekho owake wabulawa isehlukaniso. ” - UJennifer Weiner
Yikuphi okubuhlungu kakhulu? Ukuthola isehlukaniso nokuba umzali ongayedwa noma ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo nobunobuthi? Kwesinye isikhathi, isehlukaniso siyindlela engcono kakhulu.
“Uma abantu behlukanisa, kuhlale kuyinhlekelele enjalo. Ngasikhathi sinye, uma abantu behlala ndawonye kungaba yimbi kakhulu. ” —UMonica Bellucci
Isehlukaniso sibuhlungu kodwa ayikho into ezolimaza ngaphezu komshado owawuhlala ebumnyameni futhi ungajabule.
“Ukuyekelela akusho ukuthi awusenandaba nomunye umuntu. Ukuqaphela nje ukuthi ukuphela komuntu onamandla okumlawula nguwe uqobo. ” - UDeborah Reber
Kwesinye isikhathi, noma ngabe kunothando phakathi kwabantu uma omunye engeke aguquke ukusindisa ubudlelwano ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokulwela uthando noma umshado uqobo.
“Abukho ubuhlungu nokwehluleka njengokudivosa.” —UJennifer Lopez
Yize isehlukaniso kuyindlela yokuqala impilo entsha nejabulisayo, kusekhona lokho kuzizwa kobuhlungu nokulahlekelwa lapho umuntu ethatha isinqumo sokuhlukanisa.
Sekukonke, isehlukaniso siyakhululeka futhi sibuhlungu ngasikhathi sinye. Yingakho izingcaphuno zesehlukaniso zinemizwa eminingi kuzo. Noma ngabe wawudabukisa kangakanani umshado wakho, kusekhona lokho kulimala okuza nesehlukaniso ikakhulukazi lapho kunezingane ezithintekayo. Kungakho kufanele ukuthi uhlale uqinile kuyo yonke le nqubo ngoba lokhu kungenxa yekusasa lakho lonke.