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- Lapho imibhangqwana ilindile, ikhuphula izinga lokusondelana ngokomzwelo
- Uma ufuna ukuthi umlingani wakho naye abe yi-BFF yakho, linda ukuya ocansini
- Ubudlelwano bakho nabasekhweni lakho elizayo bungcono
- Akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokukhulelwa noma ama-STD
- Ucansi lwangemva komshado luyinqubo yokufunda enhle
- Okushiwo abanye besifazane ngokulinda kuze kushade:
Ukulinda kuze kube yilapho umshado wenza ucansi kubonakala kungathandeki esimeni sanamuhla sobulili obuvulekile, izifiso, nobudlelwano bokuthandana obugxile ebulilini. Ngempela, labo abalindayo bayingcosana: u-89.1% wabesifazane uya ocansini ngaphambi kokushada, kusale kuphela u-10% wabantu besifazane abangazibandakanyi ocansini lapho befika e-altare. I- “Virgin” ne- “Pure” kuzwakala njengamagama avela ngeminyaka yo-1950, ngaphandle kwalapho esetshenziswa yizinkolo ezithile eziqhubeka nokuwazisa lawo mazwe.
Masibuyele emuva kumanani amanje, lawo asitshela ukuthi thina kufanele Ukuya ocansini ngaphambi komshado ukuze "sikwazi ukubona lokho esikutholayo", futhi sibheke ezinye izinzuzo ezihlukile zokulinda ukuthi "Ngiyakwenza" ngaphambi kokuba sisondelane nomlingani wethu.
Lapho imibhangqwana ilindile, ikhuphula izinga lokusondelana ngokomzwelo
Ukwenza uthando kuyindlela yokuxhumana, impela. Futhi emphakathini wethu wanamuhla, kubonakala kuyingxenye eyamukelekayo yokuqomisana, ngisho nasekuqaleni kobudlelwano bokuthandana. Kepha lapho ubudlelwane bugxila kakhulu esicini somzimba, esenzeka ngoba ubumnandi bezocansi buba yinjongo, okuvame ukuthatha isihlalo sangemuva ukufunda ezinye izindlela zokuxhumana nomlingani wakho.
Abantu abalinda kuze kube semshadweni babona ukuthi isibopho sabo esingokomzwelo nengqondo sithuthuka kakhulu ekuqaleni kobudlelwano ngaphandle kwesilingo socansi.
Izinsuku zabo bazichitha bekhuluma, babelana, futhi bakhe olunye uhlobo lokusondelana okuthi, uma sebeshadile futhi benza ucansi, lwenze ukusondelana ngokomzimba kube kukhulu futhi kwanelise. Bayamazi ngempela umuntu abathandana naye, njengoba bebenesikhathi esanele sokwenza ukuxhumana okuqinile ngokomzwelo nabo.
Uma ufuna ukuthi umlingani wakho naye abe yi-BFF yakho, linda ukuya ocansini
Ngaphandle kwesici sobulili ebudlelwaneni bakho bangaphambi komshado, unesikhathi sokwakha ubungani obucebile, obugcwele futhi obunenjongo nomlingani wakho wesikhathi esizayo.
Uthanda noma ungathandi, ukusondelana ngokocansi kungasebenza njengesiphazamiso futhi kugxile kakhulu emsebenzini wakho wokuphola.
Ungagcina uchitha isikhathi esiningi uvundlile kunokuma mpo futhi unethuba elincane kulezo zingxoxo ezinde, ezijulile ezisiza ekwakheni ubungani obuyiqiniso nobumsulwa.
Ubudlelwano bakho nabasekhweni lakho elizayo bungcono
Ngisho nakulezi zikhathi zesimanje, abasekhweni lakho bangase babe nokusabela okungathandeki lapho bazi ukuthi ingane yabo, noma ngabe umuntu omdala ngokweqile, uyaya ocansini. Ukulondoloza ucansi kuze kube yilapho umshado ukhulula kulokhu, futhi ungachitha isikhathi nabazali bezezimali zakho ngaphandle kokuzizwa unecala noma ukufihla izinto kubo.
Izikhathi zakho ndawonye ngeke zikwazi ukubukeka okumnyama noma imibuzo engathandeki kubo.
Ukuzibamba ocansini kuze kube yilapho umshado ekukhulula ekucindezelweni, noma uqhamuke nezaba zokuthi ubukuphi nokuthi wenzani. Ungajabulela abasekhweni bakho bakusasa unembeza omsulwa.
Akudingeki ukhathazeke ngokukhulelwa noma ama-STD
Ngoba wena nomlingani wakho nivumelane ngokulinda kuze kube umshado uzolala ndawonye, awudingi ukuzikhathaza ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa (noma ukwehluleka kwakho), ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa, izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi nanoma yikuphi ukuhlolwa kwalabo, kanye ukuhlukahluka kwezinye izindaba ezingafuneki ezilethwa umsebenzi wezocansi wangaphambi komshado.
Ucansi lwangemva komshado luyinqubo yokufunda enhle
Imibhangqwana elinde kuze kube umshado ukuya ocansini iyavuma inani elithile lokuxakaniseka nokungakhululeki lapho ekugcineni lenza isenzo.
Kepha ngoba bafunda imizimba yomunye nomunye esimeni abasithathile ukukhetha okuhlonishwayo, noma yikuphi ukungaphatheki kahle, umuzwa wokujabha noma ukungazi lutho ngalokho okuya lapho kungesikho okwephula isivumelwano.
Ijika lokufunda lomzimba womunye nomunye nenjabulo yinto enhle, futhi bayayilandela endaweni ephephile futhi ephephile ebudlelwaneni babo bomshado. Ngakho-ke kuthiwani uma okokuqala kungesilo uhambo oluya epharadesi? Banakho konke ukuphila kwabo ukuthola lokhu ... futhi imvamisa kuthatha imizamo embalwa ukuthola ukujwayela.
Okushiwo abanye besifazane ngokulinda kuze kushade:
“Ngokuvamile, imibhangqwana yanamuhla igxumela ebuhlotsheni bobulili ngaphandle kokungabaza. Kepha uma kukhulunywa ngohlobo lobudlelwano olufunayo ekugcineni, bengifuna ukuqinisekisa ukuthi umyeni wami uyangithanda sonke, ama-quirks, imikhuba, konke, njll.
Ngicabanga ukuthi uma uphola nothile isikhathi esanele ngokwanele ukuba wazi owangempela, ukuthi mhlawumbe kungenzeka bude uma bungabulondolozi ubuhlobo unomphela. Iningi labantu bonke lizokhula luthanda ucansi, awudingi ukuthi "uzame umfana" ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokushada naye. Qiniseka ukuthi uthola umuntu ofanele nanoma yisiphi isitayela sakhe sokwenza uthando, kuzoba esifanele. ” URebecca, oneminyaka engama-23.
“Yebo, bengilinde umshado ngaphambi kokuya ocansini nomyeni wami. Kimina kwakubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina ubuntombi bami ngendoda engangiyithanda ngenhliziyo yami yonke, futhi ukuya ocansini ngobusuku bomshado wami okokuqala kwakuyibhonasi. Kube wudumo ukumnikeza ubuntombi bami. Ngashada ngineminyaka engama-23 ubudala. Ngiyaziqhenya ngokugcina ubuntombi bami ukuze ngishade. Bekungukukhetha kwami ngamabomu, ngenhloso. ” UChristina, oneminyaka engama-25.
“Ucansi luwuhambo lokufunda lwabo bonke abantu, futhi uma nobabili nilubheka njengezintombi nto, lubaluleke kakhulu ngoba nifunda ndawonye! Kimina, ukuya ocansini akusona futhi isisekelo somshado omuhle, yize kuyinzuzo enkulu. ” UCarmen, 27.