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- Kunjani ukuhlala nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe
- Kungani kunjalo?
- Ngabe ungaba nobudlelwano obunempilo nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa?
- 1.Funda ukuxoxisana
- 2. Ungavumeli ukuzethemba kwakho kulimale
- 3. Thola usizo
Sonke sazi okungenani umuntu oyedwa othanda ukulwa; abanye bethu bahlala noyedwa kanti abanye bethu bangaze bathande noyedwa. Kodwa-ke, ukuhlala nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist akulona usizo. I-narcissist ichazwa njenge “Umuntu onentshisekelo eyeqile kuye noma azincomayo ngaye”. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuzithanda wena, noma kunjalo, i-narcissist yeqe imingcele yothando lokuzithanda futhi yayisa ezingeni elilandelayo - ukuzithanda ngokweqile.
Abantu abahlala noma abasebenzisana nabakwa-narcissists yibo impela abazi ukuthi kungakucindezela kanjani ngokomzwelo.
Bangakhubaza ukukhula kwakho komuntu siqu futhi bahlale befuna ukunconywa nokwazisa kwabo. Kepha yini imiphumela yokuphila nomuntu obiza ngama-narcissist futhi ungaba nobudlelwano obuhle nabo? Ake sithole!
Kunjani ukuhlala nomuntu osebenzisa izihibe
Zicabange usubudlelwaneni lapho uhlala wenza ukuzidela, ukuyekethisa, unikeze u-100% wakho kodwa ungathandwa. Kufana nokuhlala nomuntu obonakala ngathi akanendaba nokunye ngaphandle kwakhe. Ungase uzibuze ukuthi kungani omunye umuntu aze angene ebudlelwaneni kwasekuqaleni, lokho kungenxa yokuthi bekungahlali kunje.
Ekuqaleni, ama-narcissists angaba ngabantu abathandekayo. Imvamisa kuyimpilo yephathi, abantu abathandwa kakhulu obaziyo.
Ungazithola uhehwa yibo noma kwezinye izimo uzizwe uzwelana nabo. Yileyo ndlela abenza ngayo abantu babathande.
Kodwa-ke, konke lokhu kufinyelela ezimpini ezimbi, imithwalo eminingi engokomzwelo kanye nokukhathazeka kwenhliziyo okungaba khona.
Kungani kunjalo?
AbakwaNarcissists akunakwenzeka neze ukujabulisa. Akukho okwenzayo okungaba ngokwanele. Babonakala benomuzwa wokuzibiza ngobukhulu. Kucishe kube sengathi akukho lutho olubaluleke ngempela noma olwanele ngokwanele kubo. Lokhu, ebudlelwaneni, kufakazela ukuthi kunobuthi kakhulu. Njengoba kungaholela njalo umuntu ukuthi akholelwe ukuthi kuyinto ethile engalungile kubo.
Bangabantu abanobugovu abangenandaba nokuthi izenzo zabo zibathinta kanjani abanye.
Benza okuhle kakhulu kubo ngaphandle kokucabanga ukuthi imiphumela ingaba kanjani kwabanye abantu. Lokhu ukunyakaza kwesiginesha kwe-narcissist futhi kungakusiza ukuthi uyibone kalula.
Umphumela obucayi wokuhlala nomuntu obiza ngama-narcissist ubekezelela izingqinamba zabo zentukuthelo.
URage yisici esivamile esitholakala cishe kuwo wonke ama-narcissists. Kungaholela nasekuhlukunyezweni ngamazwi futhi kwezinye izimo, sekukubi kakhulu.Lapho umuntu obiza ngama-narcissist ebizwa noma ebuzwa ngokuziphatha kwawo izindlela zawo zokuzivikela zikuthuka noma zikumemeza.
Umuntu osebenzisa izihlukumezi akanalo uzwela, ngakho-ke, uvame ukutholwa enza kuwe ukuphathwa kwabo kabi yingcebo yezinto ezibonakalayo.
Ungangizwa kabi kepha, abakwa-narcissists ngeke bawavume amaphutha abo. Kodwa-ke, ukubumba izimo ngendlela abazithandayo bazozama ukuyidambisa ngezinto ezibonakalayo. Konke lokhu, ekuqaleni, kungasebenza njengasekuqaleni kobudlelwano. Kepha, uzothola ukuthi izenzo zabo zingenalutho futhi ziyize ekugcineni.
Ngabe ungaba nobudlelwano obunempilo nomuntu othanda izidakamizwa?
Akukho lutho olungaba nempilo enhle ngobudlelwano nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist. Kodwa-ke, uma usuvele usebudlelwaneni nomuntu osebenzisa i-narcissist, ungakwenza kube nzima kancane. Ngezinguquko ezimbalwa ekuziphatheni kwakho, uzobona izinguquko ezimbalwa ekuziphatheni kwabo.
1.Funda ukuxoxisana
Into eyodwa okufanele uyishintshe "isimo sonke noma akukho lutho". Udinga ukuzimela ngokuqinile futhi wazi ukuthi yini okufanele ibekezelelwe noma engafanele.
Udinga ukuveza uhlangothi lwakho lwesimo futhi ngale ndlela ungathola okufunayo futhi. I-narcissist izohlala izama ukubalekela ngakho konke okwenziwa ngendlela yazo. Lokho kudinga ukuma.
2. Ungavumeli ukuzethemba kwakho kulimale
I-narcissist iphakela abantu ngokuzethemba okuphansi njengoba bengakhohliseka kalula. Ungabi yimpango yabo.
Kuzoba kuhle kumuntu obhala ngezidakamizwa ukuthi abe nomuntu ozenyeza ukuze azisebenzisele ukondla izidingo zazo zokuthola ukunakwa konke.
Ungalokothi uvumele i-narcissist obandakanyeka kuyo ikwenze uzizwe sengathi ufanelwe noma yini engaphansi kokuhle kakhulu. Uma wenza kanjalo, ukuphathwa kabi nokungaziswa kuzoba yinto ehlala njalo.
3. Thola usizo
Ungesabi ukufuna usizo kwabathandekayo bakho. Khuluma ngezinkinga zakho futhi uma kudingeka funa nosizo lochwepheshe. Kunzima ukushintsha umuntu futhi lokho akuyona into obekufanele uhlose ukuyenza futhi. Kepha ungabenza balungise isimo sabo sengqondo kuwe.
Ukuhlala narcissist kungaba yinto embi kakhulu. Kepha ungasiza isimo sibe ngcono kakhulu. I-narcissism ingaba ngumphumela wokuhlukumezeka ebuntwaneni noma ukukhuliswa ngendlela ebuntwaneni futhi akukho ukungahloniphi okuhloselwe abantu abahlushwa ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic.