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- Lapho kunomehluko emibonweni
- Izidingo zabesilisa, izidingo zabesifazane
- Uzisingatha kahle kangakanani izivunguvungu ezingokomzwelo?
- Ukwenza owakwakho azi ukuthi uyakhathala
- Intethelelo kuqhathaniswa nentukuthelo
Iningi, uma kungeyona yonke imibhangqwana, liyazibuza ukuthi yini eyenza ubuhlobo busebenze njalo. Noma ngabe baqala nini ukuthandana, noma lapho behlangabezana nenkinga yabo yokuqala (noma yamashumi ayisihlanu), bebuyekeza izisekelo zobudlelwano obunempilo. Sizokunikeza izindawo ezinhlanu ezibalulekile ongazihlola (ngokufanele) nowakwakho noma uwedwa. Lezi yizindawo ezingasebenzi kahle ebudlelwaneni obunciphayo, futhi lokho kubuyekezwa futhi kwalungiswa ekwelashweni kwengqondo. Zama amathiphu ethu ukubona ukuthi ungawusetha kabusha yini umshado wakho ubuyele esimeni sempilo futhi sijabule kakhudlwana.
Lapho kunomehluko emibonweni
Yize singathanda ukukholelwa ukuthi umhlaba wethu unenhloso futhi unemithetho ecacile yokuphila, iqiniso ukuthi kuncike kakhulu kunalokho. Okungenani ngokwengqondo. Siphila isethi yemibono yethu kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuhluke kakhulu kokwabanye. Ngamanye amagama, kumayelana nombono. Akunandaba ukuthi singahle sifane futhi sisondele kangakanani nabalingani bethu, kunikezwe ukuthi sizoba nemibono eyehlukene ezindabeni eziningi.
Kepha, yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi abantu banemibono engafani, banamandla futhi okuxhumana ngezimo zabo kanye nezidingo zabo. Nokuhlonipha okwabanye. Inkani yokuphokophela umbono womuntu kuphela ibuthinta kakhulu ubuhlobo, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni yamuva yomshado.
Ngakho-ke, esikhundleni sokuma umhlabathi wakho noma ngabe kunjani, zama ukuthambisa isimo sakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi ububele nothando kudlala indima enkulu.
Izidingo zabesilisa, izidingo zabesifazane
Lapho abantu ababili behlangana okokuqala futhi bethandana, imvamisa badlula esigabeni sokuzidela, ngomqondo othile. Ngokuqinisekile uyakhumbula ukuthi kwakulula kanjani ngawe ukubeka izidingo zoshade naye omusha kuqala. Ububambe kakhulu izindinganiso zabo futhi wakunikela ngakho konke okusemandleni ukubathokozisa. Ngeshwa, njengoba ukucasuka nokungavumelani kwakha emshadweni, ukuzimisela kwethu ukubeka izidingo zomlingani wethu kuqala kwehla kakhulu.
Uma kukhulunywa iqiniso, cishe yonke imishado iwumbango wamandla.
Okucashile noma okucashile, ngemuva kokuphuma esigabeni sabathakathi, sithola umuzwa wokuthi izidingo zethu manje sekufanele zigxile kakhulu emizamweni yawo wonke umuntu.
Ikakhulukazi uma umshado ungasebenzi ngendlela ebesifisa ngayo. Ukuze uvuselele ubudlelwano bakho, zama ukubuyela esigabeni sangemva komshado bese uphinde ugxile kuzidingo zoshade naye.
Uzisingatha kahle kangakanani izivunguvungu ezingokomzwelo?
Umshado uyinsimu eyodwa lapho uhla lwemizwa olubanzi kakhulu luzovela khona eminyakeni oyichitha ndawonye. Kokubili okuhle nokubi, okukhulu noma okuncane, maqondana komunye nomunye noma imicimbi engaphandle. Futhi akufanele neze ucindezele imizwa yakho. Kodwa-ke, zikhona ngempela izindlela ezinempilo nezingalungile zokuveza umuzwa.
Ukube ubujwayele ukukhipha intukuthelo yakho ngezilinganiso zeBhayibheli nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kungenzeka ukuthi lokho kulimaze ubudlelwano bakho.
Oshade naye ugcine ezizwa engaphephile kakhulu uma unawe, kungakhathalekile ukuthi ubungacabanga ukuthi kufanelekile kangakanani ukuqhuma kwakho. Ukwenza umshado wakho ube ngcono, funda ukuqonda nokuxhumana ngemizwa yakho kangcono.
Ukwenza owakwakho azi ukuthi uyakhathala
Njengoba isikhathi sihamba, kujwayelekile ukuthi umshado ufane nesikhathi sokushela kancane kancane. Yize sonke besikholelwa ukuthi sizozizwa sithakathiwe impilo yethu yonke, lokho akusikho ukuthi izinto zisebenza kanjani.
Noma ngabe yi-biology eqhuba ama-hormone ethu, noma iqiniso elimsulwa lempilo nezingcindezi zansuku zonke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi sivame ukukhohlwa ukukhombisa abangane bethu bomshado ukuthi sibakhathalele kangakanani.
Uma ufuna izindlela zokwenza umshado wakho usebenze futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, ube muhle, kufanele uhlole izindlela zokuthola (futhi uhlale) nezothando futhi.
Siyazi ukuthi kungaba nzima ukucabanga ngezothando uma unenkinga yokungaboni ngaso linye okungaxazululeki, imali ebanjwayo, imisebenzi, nokukhulisa izingane zakho, kepha kufanele njalo ukwenze kuqala kwakho ukwazisa oshade naye ukuthi nabo babaluleke kangakanani empilweni yakho.
Intethelelo kuqhathaniswa nentukuthelo
Yonke imishado ishaya izigaxa endleleni, futhi leyo ephumelelayo yilabo abakwazi ukubeka intethelelo nothando kuqala. Intukuthelo ingena imishado eminingi futhi isuse izisekelo zayo kancane kancane. Esikhundleni sokuzithokozisa futhi uvumele ukuholwa yintukuthelo nentukuthelo yakho, zama ukungabambeli igqubu. Akulula ukuthethelela ukoniwa okuncane noma okukhulu, kepha kunendlela. Futhi ukukuthola kuyisihluthulelo sobudlelwano obunempilo.