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- Ungayibuza kanjani imibuzo eyiyo
- Nazi izingxoxo ezimbalwa zobudlelwano
- Imibuzo yobudlelwano obujulile yokukusondeza
- Imibuzo efanele inciphisa izingxabano
- Ukwelashwa kwezithandani kungasiza
- Buzana imibuzo ejulile
- Xhumana ngenhloso
Izimbangela ezinkulu zokuwohloka kokuxhumana ebudlelwaneni yimibuzo yobudlelwano bokufa.
Imibuzo efana nesicefe saphakade, "Belunjani usuku lwakho?" cishe akusoze kwaholela kunoma iyiphi ingxoxo okufanele ibe nayo. Imibhangqwana embalwa kakhulu engasho ukuthi ithole ukuqonda okusha ngokubuza umlingani wayo ngosuku lwayo.
Ukubuza njalo ngesikhashana kuhle futhi kukhombisa ukuthi uyakhathala kepha ukusetshenziswa kwemibuzo yobudlelwano bokufa kufanele kugcinwe okungenani.
Lapho kunezinkinga ebudlelwaneni, ikakhulukazi lezo eziphathelene nokuxhumana, shintsha ukugxila kwakho ekubuzeni imibuzo efanelekile yobudlelwano esikhundleni sokuzula ebumnyameni ngokungenanjongo.
Ungayibuza kanjani imibuzo eyiyo
Ukubuza imibuzo efanele kuyikhono elizuzisa ngokweqile elingasindisa ubudlelwano bakho empeleni.
Lokhu akusebenzi ebudlelwaneni bakho nomlingani wakho kuphela kodwa nezingane zakho namanye amalungu omndeni.
Ukukhumbula kakhudlwana kungakusiza ukuthi ubazi ngempela labo osondelene nabo ngokungena ezinhliziyweni nasezingqondweni zabo.
Ukuze uzame, gwema imibuzo ejwayelekile enganikeli impendulo enenjongo futhi ugxile emibuzweni ethile edinga impendulo engaphezu kwalokho, “kulungile”.
Kubalulekile ukukhetha imibuzo yobudlelwano obuhle noma imibuzo ebucayi yobudlelwano ukuze ubuze omunye wakho obalulekile ukuthi aphule umkhuba. Qiniseka ukuthi awupheli izinto ongazibuza isoka noma intombi yakho.
Imibuzo ngobudlelwano ikusiza ukuthi uhlole ukuthi umi kuphi njengabantu abashadile futhi ungene ngokujulile ebudlelwaneni ukuthola ukuthi yini okufanele uyibheke.
Nazi izingxoxo ezimbalwa zobudlelwano
- "Kwenzekeni kulowo mhlangano namuhla?",
- “Wenzeni mayelana (gcwalisa okungenalutho)?”
- “Ubuyaphi nabangani bakho izolo?”
- "Ngubani onqobe umdlalo izolo ebusuku?" (ebhekisa kumdlalo wezemidlalo)
- “Ngingakusiza nganoma yini namuhla?”
Imibuzo yobudlelwano obujulile yokukusondeza
Nayi imibuzo yobudlelwano obujulile oxhumana nayo nomunye wakho obalulekile ngendlela ezwakalayo.
- Yini efanelekayo njengokukopela ebudlelwaneni bakho?
- Ngosuku olubi, ungathanda ukuthi ngikusekele kanjani?
- Kulapho umkhuba engidinga ukuwuguqula ngoba ikucasula kakhulu?
- Yini iseluleko esihle kakhulu sobudlelwano ongathanda ukusilandela ukuthuthukisa ukusondelana kwethu ngokomzwelo?
- Ungu usathintana nanoma imuphi omunye wabalingani bakho bakudala?
- Yini okokugcina osebenzela wena ebudlelwaneni bethu?
- Usikisela kanjani ukuthi siphathe izimali zethu? Yini ongayikhetha phakathi ukuzimela ngokwezezimali noma ubunye bezezimali?
Imibuzo ebucayi kangaka ongayibuza isoka noma intombi yakho inikeza imininingwane ebalulekile ukukusiza uthuthukise ubudlelwano bakho.
Konke lokhu okungenhla kudinga okungaphezu kokuphendulwa kwegama elilodwa futhi konke kukhombisa intshisekelo empilweni yomuntu omthandayo. Elinye icebo elisebenzayo lemibuzo okufanele ubuzwe ebudlelwaneni ukwenza umzamo wokucabanga ngaphambi kokubuza. Uma usunombuzo engqondweni, yenza ukuhlela okusheshayo ekhanda lakho ukuze uwenze ube nenjongo ngokwengeziwe.
Ngenkathi ukhetha imibuzo ozoyibuza isoka noma intombi, kubalulekile ukugxila emininingwaneni nasemizweni yokuqala ingxoxo.
Bambalwa kakhulu abakubonayo lokhu kepha zonke izingxoxo onazo nomlingani wakho, ilungu lomndeni noma umngani zengeza ukujula ebudlelwaneni. Buka zonke izinkulumo ezizwakalayo njenge-intshi yentuthuko bese ulwela ukuqhubeka ngokuningi.
Ingxoxo yindlela abantu abakhombisa ngayo uthando, ukweseka, ukuqonda nokunakekela. Futhi, naka ukulandela imibuzo. Bangakwazi ukunweba inkulumo emnandi.
Imibuzo efanele inciphisa izingxabano
Ingxoxo futhi ukuthi izinkinga zixazululwa kanjani.
Ukubuza imibuzo yobudlelwano obufanele kuyasiza lapho kukhona ukungqubuzana. Ukuthola izinselelo ukuthi ungabusindisa kanjani ubudlelwano bakho futhi kube ngcono, ubenze buqine. Ngemuva kokungezwani, buza imibuzo ezokhuthaza ukuxazululwa.
Imibuzo yezobudlelwano ongayibuza kanjena, “Kukusiphi isikhathi eningaboni ngaso linye ngaso lapho nizizwe khona ningahlonishwa khona?” noma "Yini ebengingayenza ngokuhlukile?" isinyathelo esiqonde ngqo.
Ukwelashwa kwezithandani kungasiza
Kulabo abanobunzima ekushintsheni imikhuba yabo yokubuza noma nje abaziboni bekhuluma ngale ndlela, cabanga ngokwelashwa kwezithandani.
Ukwelashwa kwezithandani kusiza imibhangqwana ekushintsheni imikhuba yayo ngokufundisa izinhlangothi zombili ukuthi zingabuza kanjani imibuzo ezibalulekile. Lokhu kwenziwa ngochungechunge lokuzivocavoca ngaphakathi nangaphandle kwezikhathi eziphendula imibuzo yobudlelwano ukubuza isoka noma intombi yakho.
Buzana imibuzo ejulile
Ukuzivocavoca okuphumelelayo kubuzana imibuzo ejulile.
Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Unjani?" noma "Belunjani usuku lwakho?" wena nomlingani wakho nizophonsela inselelo imingcele engokomzwelo ngendlela enempilo kakhulu. Lokhu kwenziwa ngemibuzo esondelene njengokuthi, "Ngabe kukhona isikhathi kuleli sonto ozizwe ungazwakali ngaso?" noma "Yini engingayenza ukuze uzizwe usekelwa kakhulu?"
Inhloso ukufundisa abantu ukuthi bayeke ukwenza imibuzo ngobudlelwano babo. Vele, lokhu kuzoba isimanga ekuqaleni futhi abanye bangathola impendulo yokuqala yokuthi, “Ugh. Imizwa ”kepha ngemuva kokuthola imiphumela emihle yokubuza imibuzo esondelene kakhudlwana, nobabili nozakwenu nizokwamukela kakhudlwana.
Uma inkinga yokuxhumana ngale ndlela iqhubeka, ukwelashwa kungakhomba ukuvimba kwengqondo okukuvimbela ekuthatheni lesi sinyathelo esibalulekile sokwenza ngcono ukuxhumana futhi kukufundise ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani.
Le kungaba yinkinga evela ebuntwaneni, into ethile ebudlelwaneni okufanele ilungiswe noma ungahle ube nesikhathi esinzima sokushintsha imikhuba. Noma ngabe kuyini, ukwelashwa kungakusiza ngayo.
Xhumana ngenhloso
Ngemuva kokufunda ukubuza imibuzo yobudlelwano obufanele, sebenzisa lelo khono ukuxhumana ngenhloso. Kuyaxaka kepha imibhangqwana nomndeni bawela emkhubeni wokuba nezingxoxo ezijwayelekile bodwa.
Imibuzo enjalo engxoxweni ilingana nenkulumo encane ongayenza nomuntu ongamazi.
Lapho ukhuluma nabathandekayo yenza kanjalo ngenhloso yokusondela nokuqinisa ukuxhumana.
Ngemibuzo yobudlelwano efanele ukubuza, awusoze waphuthelwa ngamathuba wokuxhuma ngokuqhubekayo.
Impilo imayelana nokwakha ubudlelwano obuhlala njalo nokujabulela obuzungeza nabo. Ukubuza imibuzo enjalo yokwakha ubudlelwane kuzovumela ubudlelwano bakho ukuthi bukhule!