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- 1. Imali ibalulekile
- 2. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi ulwe nokulawula isikhathi sakho
- 3. Ungazami ukulungisa owakwakho
- 4. Jwayela izihloko ezintsha
- 5. Ungahle ube nezimpikiswano eziningi
Izibopho zomshado zifana nanoma yiziphi ezinye izibopho - zikhula kancane. ~ UPeter De Vries
Umshado uyisikhungo esihle. Inamandla okusetha inkambo yezimpilo zethu. Umshado oqinile udambisa izimo ezinzima kakhulu ezisifikelayo. Kepha njengabo bonke obunye ubuhlobo, kuzoba khona iziphonso ezinzima lapho imizwa yothando ingabonakala ngathi iyoma. Kuma-veteran amaningi ashadile, unyaka wokuqala womshado unzima kakhulu futhi ubaluleke kakhulu. Kuzoba nokuningi kokuhlangenwe nakho okusha, okunye okuhle kanti okunye akukuhle kangako. Ukuguqulwa okulula kwezabizwana kusuka ku-'mina 'kuya ku-'si' kungaholela enqwelweni yemizwa nokuphendula okuxubile. Unyaka wokuqala womshado ugcwele izinto ezihlukile, ezingalindelekile ezingavivinya uthando nokubekezela kwakho. Njengoba udlula kulezi zehlakalo, ubudlelwano bakho buzoqina futhi bubeke isisekelo sempilo yakho yonke ndawonye.
Lapha, sikulethela izinto ezi-5 ezizokumangaza onyakeni wokuqala womshado-
1. Imali ibalulekile
Umqondo wemali engenayo ehlangene kanye nokuhamba kwemali ubukeka ujabulisa kakhulu kepha akumele ukhohlwe yonke imithwalo yemfanelo nezikweletu eziza nemali ehlanganyelwe ngemuva komshado. Ngokwezibalo, ezezimali ziyimbangela ehamba phambili yezinkinga nokulwa phakathi kwezithandani. Ngokuya ngocwaningo oluhamba phambili olwenziwe e-Utah State University, imibhangqwana ephikisana ngezimali okungenani kanye ngesonto inamathuba angama-30% wokudivosa kunalabo abaphikisana kaninginingi ngenyanga. Ngakho-ke, kufanele ukhulume ngokukhululekile njalo ngemali engenayo nezindleko. Zama ukufinyelela esivumelwaneni esinempilo kuzo zonke izindaba eziphathelene nemali ngaphambi kwesikhathi ukunciphisa izingxabano ezikulesi sihloko. Ungakhohlwa ukwazisa umlingani wakho uma kunezikweletu, ngaphambi komshado.
2. Kungase kudingeke ukuthi ulwe nokulawula isikhathi sakho
Ukulinganisela amashejuli akho ngamanye ukuze nenze isikhathi sokuba nomunye kuzoba yingxenye ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni bakho. Zibekele imigomo efinyelelekayo yokuchitha isikhathi noshade naye futhi nisebenzise sonke isikhathi senu ndawonye. Gxila ekwakheni izinkumbulo ezizokusiza kamuva ngezikhathi zezingxabano.
3. Ungazami ukulungisa owakwakho
Abanye abantu ngokwemvelo bazama ukulungisa izinto ezibazungezile uma bezwa ukuthi kukhona okungahambi njengokuhlela noma ngokulindela kwabo. Kungenzeka ukuthi wakwenza lokhu nisathandana. Kodwa izinto ziyashintsha post umshado. Ngezingcindezi ezingeziwe nokulindelwe kwalesi sidlo, lesi sici singaqhamuka sinobudlova kakhulu noma sicindezela. Udinga ukuba lula kulobu budlelwano obusha. Funda ukuziguqula kuqala ngaphambi kokuthola amaphutha koshade naye.
Njengoba umuntu asho ngokufanele- Impumelelo emshadweni ayiveli nje ngokuthola umlingani ofanele, kepha ngokuba ngumlingani ofanele.
4. Jwayela izihloko ezintsha
Kuzozwakala kwehlukile ukubhekisa umuntu ozoshada naye / wesikhathi eside njengomlingani wakho. Kuzojabulisa kakhulu ukwamukelwa njengoMnu noNkk ndawonye, emphakathini. Kwabanye abantu abashadile, lokhu kushintshwa kobunikazi kungaba nzima ukwamukela nokugoqa ikhanda lakho. Futhi yebo! Lesi yisikhathi lapho uzovalelisa ngokusemthethweni ngesimo sakho esisodwa.
5. Ungahle ube nezimpikiswano eziningi
Uzoba nezimpi. Kuxhomeke ngokuphelele kuwe ukuthi uzisingatha kanjani izimo zakho. Lokhu kungahle kuthathwe njengokungahloli okuyiqiniso okungenangqondo ikakhulukazi ngoba ngaphambi komshado oshade naye kungenzeka ukuthi ubephatha izingxabano ngokuhlukile. Kepha thatha isinyathelo sakho. Oshade naye umusha kule nyunyana njengoba unjalo. Ukwamukela amaphutha kuyingxenye yokuba sothandweni. Khumbula lokhu!
Impilo iyisigaxa sezimanga kuwo wonke umuntu. Sonke sinethemba lokuba nomshado wamaphupho nokuphila okuhle komshado phambili. Kepha kungukuhamba kwesikhathi kuphela lapho sibona khona ukuthi impilo izoziveza kanjani nokuthi sizosabela kanjani ezimweni. “Noma yimuphi unyaka womshado ungaba nzima futhi, mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi okulindelwe kuphezulu kakhulu, izinto eziphansi mhlawumbe zingalimaza kakhulu kulowo nyaka wokuqala,” kusho umeluleki wezobudlelwano, uSusie Tuckwell.
Kafushane nje, ukuze sikwazi ukuphila impilo enenjabulo nenokuthula, kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi sikwazise lokho esinakho futhi sibale izibusiso esinazo. Unyaka wokuqala womshado wakho ubaluleke impela kepha kunesikhathi sokuphila okufanele sisetshenziswe ndawonye futhi kuningi okuphindwayo okulindelwe ukuthi kwenzeke, ngakho-ke ungakhathazeki kakhulu ngezinto ezingahambanga njengokuhlela kwakho.