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- Icala elihambisana nesehlukaniso
- Kungokwemvelo ukubangisana ngale nkinga
- Ungazishayi
- Izingane zingahlala zingalimele esahlukanisweni
- Iningi lezingane zesehlukaniso liyajwayela futhi lenze uthando kubo bobabili abazali
- Lapho omunye umzali ephuma ekhaya ngokungazelelwe
- Abazali badinga ukusebenzela amakhono abo wokuba ngumzali ngesikhathi sokuhlala ngokwehlukana
Ukwazi izinketho zakho zokuguqula ilungelo lokugcina ingane ngemuva kwesehlukaniso kungasiza ekwenzeni esinye sezinqumo ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe nangempilo yezingane zakho; ukuthi ubushiye yini ubudlelwano obuzizwa bungenampilo kuwe. Kungenzeka uzame konke ongakwenza ukuze ulondoloze ubudlelwano kufaka phakathi ukwelashwa, ukuncenga, nokwenqaba. Kepha lowo muzwa wokufa komphefumulo obuhlungu, iphupho elibi lokuphila kwakho okubukeka sengathi selikhona ngeke liphele.
Icala elihambisana nesehlukaniso
Ungaqiniseka ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho sebuphelile kepha wesaba ngokuphelele ngomthelela owuqedayo ozoba nawo ezinganeni zakho. Njengoba kukhulula njengoba ukucabanga ukuba wedwa kungaba yindlela evimba imizwa efanayo eqhubekayo ”ingabe ngilimaza unomphela izingane zami ngokwenza lokho okubonakala kubalulekile ekusindeni kwami ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo”.
Ukuzama ukunquma ukuthi isisusa sakho sokushiya kufanelekile noma ukuzicabangela wena wedwa kuyinkinga edla yonke into, eqhutshwa ngamandla.
Uyazibuza ukuthi mhlawumbe into elungile ongayenza ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni, ukudela ukuzizwela kwakho ngenxa yezingane zakho futhi uqine.
Kungokwemvelo ukubangisana ngale nkinga
Ubudlelwano budinga umsebenzi oqhubekayo nokuzidela. Uma imizamo yakho emihle ingalethi ubudlelwano obuphathekayo, bokuthembana nobokusekelana; uma ubonakala wenza wonke umsebenzi futhi udela konke, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubeka.
Ungase futhi ulwe nokuthi kungani ubudlelwano obebubonakala bulungile buphela bukugulisa ngokomzwelo, futhi mhlawumbe ngokomzimba. Izingxenye ezithinta imizwa zale mibuzo eyisisekelo, imibuzo ekhona iyahlukahluka kepha imvamisa ifaka ukukhathazeka, ukuba necala nokwesaba.
Ikhambi elilodwa lokulwa nalokhu kukhathazeka ukwazi ngezinketho zakho zokugcina ingane ngemuva kokuhlukana ukuze ukwazi ukuthatha izinqumo ezinolwazi ngokusiza izingane zakho.
Ungazishayi
Kungokwemvelo ukuthatha umthwalo wezinto ezinzima, eziyinselele ezenzeka ezimpilweni zethu. Ngikholwa ukuthi lokhu sikwenza ukuzwa ukuthi sinezinga elithile lokulawula izingqinamba ezivelayo. Kodwa-ke, akusizi ngalutho ukuzishaya wena ngokuba sesimweni esingabekezeleleki.
Izikhathi eziningi, empilweni senza ubudlelwano nezinye izinqumo ezibalulekile ngokususelwa kusikripthi somndeni noma endaweni yobuntwana esathinteka kuyo. Ubudlelwano bungazizwa bu "lungile" kithina hhayi ngoba bunempilo kepha ngoba bujwayelekile, noma sengozini kubantu abathile nobudlelwano obunamandla ngenxa yalokho esakubona sisengabantwana.
Izingane zingahlala zingalimele esahlukanisweni
Mayelana nombuzo wokulimaza izingane ngokuzihlukanisa, akukho mbuzo wokuthi ukuhlukanisa nokwakha amakhaya amabili kuzoba nomthelela omkhulu kubo.
Bazothinteka unomphela ngokwahlukana, kepha ngeke bakhubazeke noma balimale ngokweqile njengoba kusho abanye ababhali.
Ukubhekana nokulwa nezinselelo kuyingxenye yempilo, hhayi incwadi yokwehluleka.
Iningi lezingane zesehlukaniso liyajwayela futhi lenze uthando kubo bobabili abazali
Bathatha okungcono kakhulu kulokho umzali ngamunye anikela ngakho futhi baphumelele. Umonakalo ovela ekuqhekekeni kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ubangelwe yisimo sangemva kwesahlukaniso phakathi kwabazali. Izingane ezibonisa izinkinga zesikole nezenhlalo ngemuva kwesehlukaniso imvamisa ziye zatholwa kumandla anobuthi phakathi kwabazali.
Abazali abaxoxa ngokuningiliziwe kwezinkinga zesehlukaniso nezenkantolo yomndeni nezingane benza okubi kakhulu futhi bakhombise ukuqonda okuncane ngesidingo sokwenza izinto ezizuzisa izingane zabo.
Lapho omunye umzali ephuma ekhaya ngokungazelelwe
Esikhathini esedlule, inqubo ejwayelekile yokwehlukana kube ukuthi umzali oyedwa uzophuma ekhaya ngokungazelelwe. Kungathatha amasonto noma izinyanga ukuthi kutholakale uhlelo lokugcina ingane. Okwamanje, isifinyezo esikhona ngenxa yokungafinyeleli kwezingane kanye / noma ukwahlukaniswa kwempahla yomphakathi singakhula.
Le ndlela "yokwethuka nokwesaba" ekuhlelweni kwamakhaya amabili kungaphazamisa kakhulu izingane noma ngabe zibona ukwahlukana kuza.
Abazali badinga ukusebenzela amakhono abo wokuba ngumzali ngesikhathi sokuhlala ngokwehlukana
Isimo esikhona njengamanje sokukhulisa izingane ngokubambisana ngemuva kokuhlukana ngokubanzi sishiya lukhulu ekufuneni ngokwakha indawo enempilo yezingane. Ezimweni eziningi, i-acrimony engacindezelwanga phakathi kwabazali ukuhlala njalo ezimpilweni zezingane.
Izingane zizijwayela zisebenzisa abangane bazo nabelaphi njengamabhodi wokuzwakala futhi zilwela ukungazibeki icala lokuzondana kwabazali bazo.
Ngasikhathi sinye, ukukhathazeka kwabazali ngokuzizwa behlukumezekile kunamandla abo okunikeza izingane ukunakekela abakudinga kakhulu phakathi nalolu shintsho olukhulu.
Kuma-athikili alandelayo, ngizohlola ezinye izindlela ezijwayelekile zokusungula uhlelo lokugcinwa kwamakhaya amabili. Lokhu kuzobandakanya i-Birdnesting kanye nezinye izindlela zendabuko zamasu wokugcina. Yonke imindeni inezidingo ezingafani. Akunasayizi owodwa olingana yonke indlela yokuhlukanisa. Ukuba nolwazi maqondana nezinzuzo nezinkinga ezingaba khona ezihilelekile kungavimbela abazali ekwenzeni izinto abangazisola ngazo kamuva.