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Abaningi bethu bangaluthatha kalula usuku nosuku lojwayelo nabalingani bethu. Sivuka eduze kwabo, sihlanganyele inkomishi yekhofi ekuseni, sixoxe ngohlelo lwethu losuku, futhi siqabulane ubusuku obuhle. Kepha kwenzekani lapho umlingani wethu kwesinye isikhathi elapha, kwesinye isikhathi engekho?
Yize lo mbono ngokuqinisekile usebenza kubo bonke ubudlelwano lapho oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani behambela khona, mina ngiza kulokhu ngombono oyingqayizivele wokuba ngumelaphi nokwazi ukuthi kunjani ukuthanda umuntu othile endizeni.
Amabhayisikobho ezothando ngaso sonke isikhathi abonakala enesimo sokuvalelisa ngokomzwelo esikhumulweni sezindiza, neqembu lishiywe ngemuva lizizwa lithandekile futhi liphelelwe yithemba, lilangazelela kakhulu umzuzu wokubuyela kothandekayo walo. Ngokuqinisekile, ngingasho ukuthi lokhu bekungewona amava ami. Imvamisa, ngilinda isikhathi lapho umlingani wami engena endizeni aye emsebenzini, ngifisa kakhulu ukubuyela esimeni sami sedwa. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kusho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ebudlelwaneni noma sifinyelele ekugcineni kwezigaba zobudlelwano
Kunemihlomulo ebudlelwaneni enesikhala, kufaka phakathi ukuthuthukisa ubunikazi bethu nezintshisekelo zethu ngaphandle kobudlelwano, kepha kukhona nokushiyeka kwengqondo.
Inani elibi lokhu lithatha ubuhlobo lingakhuphula kakhulu iphuzu lokunqanyulwa kwanoma yibuphi ubambiswano, njengoba imizwa yentukuthelo, ukungavikeleki, nokushiywa kuvela bese kuthatha izintambo eziholela kuleyo miphumela yokungathembeki nokukhaphela kobudlelwano.
Ngokombono wami, futhi ngokuqinisekile akulona iqiniso kubo bonke, ngizovuma imizwa yami yokushiywa ivela okungenani usuku olulodwa ngaphambi kokuthi umlingani wami ahlelelwe ukuhamba. Ingxenye yami ekhulumayo ngalesi sikhathi iba ngegxekayo, yahlulele, futhi ixabane, okuholele ekulweni nathi sobabili sihlukane ngamagama axokozelayo. Ingxenye engavikelekile kimi ibangela ingxenye engavikelekile kumlingani wami, lapho ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, engakwazi futhi ezoholela kwesinye isikhathi 'ukududuza' ukulimala ngendlela engcono kakhulu abakwazi ngayo.
Ukungathembeki kudlangile embonini yezindiza, futhi kunesizathu. Uma siqhubeka nokuthumela ozakwethu ukuba bayosebenza ngentukuthelo nangentukuthelo, asikwazi ukuthi asikho iphutha ekuphenduleni okususelwa ehlazweni okuthatha izintambo.
Esikhathini sami sezindiza kanye namakhasimende engiwasebenzelayo, ngithole ukwethembana okujulile nokuba sengozini kakhulu kulo mongo.
Asinakho ukunethezeka kokuqabula umlingani wethu ekuseni noma ebusuku obuhle nsuku zonke, asazi ukuthi bangabe bakuphi umzuzu nomzuzu futhi asinayo inketho yokubabamba kalula, futhi asazi ukuthi nobani bayazihlanganisa.
Njengoba lokhu kungaqiniseki kuba ngokoqobo kwamasonto onke, ukuvalelisa kuba nesisindo.
Ngicela wazi, kanti yebo kukhona izingcindezi, lesi akusona neze isimo esingenathemba. Ngithole inkambo engcono kakhulu yokwenza ukufaka izindlela ezilandelayo.
Nakhu ukuthi ungazulazula kanjani ebudlelwaneni embonini yezindiza:
1. Dlulisa ukwesaba nokungazethembi
Ukuvumela umlingani wethu ukuthi ezwe ukuthi kungani ukungazethembi kwethu kuvela, nokuthi yini engakubangela kunika ithuba lokusisekela. Hhayi ngokuba sengozini kuphela lapho siqhubeka nokuqinisa ukwethembana, futhi sibanikeza nethuba lokuphumelela futhi babe ukusekelwa esikudingayo. Lokhu futhi kubalulekile ukuthuthukela ezigabeni ezithuthukile zobudlelwano.
2. Yazi ukuthi imizwa yakho isebenza
Imvamisa ukuba necala nehlazo kuvela lapho sekuyisikhathi sokuvalelisa, futhi lokhu kulungile impela. Icala lingavela lapho sijabule ukubabona behamba, ngoba sifuna ukubuyela enkambisweni yethu.
Ihlazo lisebenza lapho sizizwa siphoxekile noma silahliwe, okuholela ekunqanyulweni okukhulu nasezithikelweni phakathi kwethu.
Ukuzwa le mizwa neze kubonisa ukuthi usufinyelele izigaba zokugcina zobudlelwano.
Sicela wazi ukuthi le mizwa ingeyangempela futhi lapho samukela kakhulu ubuntu bethu, kulapho-ke singaba sengozini kakhulu, okuyindlela yokulwa nehlazo nomakhi wokwethembana.
3. Yakha isiko
Phatha ukubuyela ekhaya futhi uhambe njengemicimbi efanele ukugujwa. Lokhu akumele neze kuchazwe kabanzi, kepha yenza iphuzu ukufaka isiko lokubeka isiteji sesikhathi esizayo, noma sihlangene noma sihlukene. Lokhu kwehlukile kumbhangqwana ngamunye kepha kungafaka izinto ezinjengokuthatha imizuzu engama-30 ngaphandle kwama-elekthronikhi ukukubamba, ukwenza umsebenzi oletha injabulo ngaphambi kokuhlukana, noma ukudla isidlo esifanayo ngaphambi kokuhamba ngakunye. Ngokuhleleka, silungiselela izinto ezizayo, futhi nozakwethu eza njalo futhi aqhubeke, isakhiwo singantuleka.
Ngokufaka izeluleko ezimbalwa nje, singagcina injabulo futhi siqinise ukwethembana okudingekayo ukuze siphumelele ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside, obude nobude noma ngabe ukuphi isigaba sobudlelwano. Ukuvalelisa akukaze kube lula, kepha futhi ayinabuhlungu kangako. Kungasiza futhi ukuthola owelapha umbhangqwana ogxile kakhulu futhi oqonda izidingo ezihlukile zomndeni wezindiza. Wena nomlingani wakho nenza kanjani ukuthi ukuvalelisa kube lula ukuzulazula?