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- Phathanani ngendlela enifisa ukuphathwa ngayo
- Gcina umthandazo enhliziyweni yomshado wakho
- Prakthiza ukuthethelela
- Thatha isikhathi sokulalela
Ukukhulumisana okuhle kuyisihluthulelo kunoma imuphi umshado. Ukuxhumana okuhle kuqinisekisa ukuthi nobabili noshade naye nizizwa nihlonishwa, nivunyelwe futhi niqondakala. Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo sokugwema nokulungisa noma ikuphi ukungaboni ngaso linye, kanye nokubhekana nezinkinga ngekusasa elijabulisayo sindawonye.
Kulabo abasemishadweni yamaKrestu, ukukholwa kungaba ngumthombo owengeziwe wokusekelwa ngezikhathi zempilo nezikhathi ezinzima.
Kungasiza ekuqiniseni inhliziyo yakho futhi kuthuthukise indlela okhuluma ngayo noshade naye. Ibhayibheli lingumthombo wokhuthazo, amandla, nesikhuthazo emindenini yamaKrestu yonke indawo. Futhi kungumthombo wezeluleko ezinamandla ezingaphilisa, zishintshe futhi zakhe umshado wakho.
Uyini umshado wamaKrestu? Kungani yehlukile kwezinye izinhlobo zemishado?
Into ehlukanisa umshado wamaKristu kwabanye ukuthi awusekelwe nje othandweni nasekuxhumaneni. Umshado wamaKristu ufana nesivumelwano, ukuzibophezela okunganqanyulwa.
Imibhangqwana engamaKristu ayiphumi emshadweni wayo, hhayi kalula kalula, ngoba isebenza ekuxazululeni izingqinamba zayo ngokuthatha izeluleko ezithile zobudlelwano bobuKristu kunokuba ishiye ubudlelwane bayo.
Kunezeluleko eziningi zemishado yeBhayibheli ezitholakalayo ezingasiza ekunqobeni iningi lezithiyo zomgwaqo imibhangqwana eshadile ehlangabezana nazo.
Kuyini ukuxhumana kwemishado yamaKrestu?
Emshadweni wamaKristu nakubudlelwano, kunamakhodi athile adinga ukulandela ekuxhumaneni.
Ukuhwebelana ngokuxhumana kobuKristu kufanele kugcwaliswe ngomusa, imizwa esuka enhliziyweni futhi kudinga ukuba kube okwasemphakathini. Izimiso zomshado eziseBhayibhelini zithi maqondana nokuxhumana emshadweni wamaKrestu kufanele kulandelwe lezi zimiso.
Ukuxhumana komshado wamaKristu kunesixazululo sezinkinga eziningi kwezokuxhumana emshadweni wamaKristu. Inezimpendulo zemibuzo efana nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nenkosikazi ekhathazayo, ngokweBhayibheli nangokomphakathi.
Iseluleko seBhayibheli ngomshado sithi uma uqala ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho ngomusa, ekugcineni bazobuyisela indlela efanayo yokuziphatha futhi bakhuthaze ukuxhumana okuhle emshadweni wamaKristu.
Nazi izimiso ezinhlanu zeBhayibheli zokuxhumana okuhle emshadweni wamaKristu.
Phathanani ngendlela enifisa ukuphathwa ngayo
UMathewu 7: 12 usitshela ukuthi "Ngakho-ke, noma yini enifuna abanye bayenzele nina, yenzani kanjalo kubo ..."
Lesi yisimiso esinamandla sokusetshenziswa kunoma imuphi umshado. Cabanga ngakho - uphendula kanjani ekubeleseni, ekumemezeni, noma ekukhulunyweni ngendlela engenamusa?
Iningi labantu aliphenduli ngenjabulo noma ngokuzola ekukhulumeni okuthukuthele, okulimazayo - futhi lokho kufaka wena nomlingani wakho.
Funda ukuphathana ngendlela ongathanda ukuphathwa ngayo. Uma ufuna ukuthi umlingani wakho alalele uma ukhuluma, akusize ngemisebenzi, noma akhombise uthando noma umusa kuwe, qala ngokubenzela lezo zinto. Lesi yisimiso esibalulekile sokukhulumisana ngemishado yamaKrestu.
Uma niphathana kahle, nivula umnyango wokukhulumisana ngokweqiniso nothando emshadweni okondla bobabili.
Gcina umthandazo enhliziyweni yomshado wakho
U-1 Thesalonika 5:17 usitshela ukuthi "Sithandaze njalo." Ukholo lusenhliziyweni yezimpilo zobuKristu, futhi lokho kulubeka enhliziyweni yemishado yamaKrestu futhi. Umthandazo usiqondanisa noNkulunkulu futhi usikhumbuza ngothando lwaKhe, ukunakekela, ububele nokwethembeka kithi, nokwethu Kuye.
Umthandazo usho ukuthatha izinkinga phambi kukaNkulunkulu futhi umazise ukuthi yini okusezinhliziyweni zethu. Uma unezinkinga ngokuxhumana emshadweni wamaKristu, zinikeze uNkulunkulu ngomkhuleko umtshele izinkathazo zakho. Ingani useyayazi inhliziyo yakho.
Izwi elizolile, elincane ngaphakathi lizokukhuthaza ukuthi uxhumane kanjani nomlingani wakho ngendlela enempilo.
Ukuthandaza ndawonye kuyindlela enhle yokuqinisa umshado wakho. Hlalani ndawonye emthandazweni bese nicela amandla nokuqonda ekukhulumisaneni okuhle emshadweni wamaKristu.
Prakthiza ukuthethelela
Kwabase-Efesu 4:32 basitshela ukuthi "Yibani nomusa nobubele komunye nomunye, nithethelelane, njengoba noNkulunkulu anithethelela kuKristu."
Kunzima ukuxhumana kahle lapho omunye wenu noma nobabili nithukuthele, nithukuthele noma nihlengisa imizwa emibi evela esikhathini esedlule. Lapho ubambe intukuthelo futhi ungathetheleli kumlingani wakho enhliziyweni yakho, kwenza kube nzima ukubona isimo samanje ngokucacile.
Usondela ngenhloso yokulimaza, ukuqhuma, noma ukuveza ulaka nokukhungatheka kwakho, futhi ngokwenza njalo, ungalahlekelwa yinhliziyo yalokho abazama ukukusho kuwe. Uma intukuthelo engalawulwa iyekelwa izokhula futhi yenze ukuxhumana kube nzima.
Ukuvumela imizwa yakho emibi ikunqobe kuphambene nemigomo yokuxhumana kweBhayibheli. Kumele uziyeke ukuze uqinisekise ukuxhumana okunokuthula emshadweni wamaKristu.
Isikhathi esedlule sesedlule. Into enempilo kakhulu emshadweni wakho ukuwuvumela uhlale lapho. Vele kubalulekile ukubhekana nezinkinga njengoba zivela, nokuzixazulula ngendlela enizokwazi ukuhlala nobabili ngayo.
Kodwa-ke, uma udaba selusingathwe, luyekeni. Ungayihuduli ezingxabanweni ezizayo.
Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi ungabambeli entukuthelweni. Intukuthelo ifaka imibala ekusebenzisaneni kwakho noshade naye futhi ikuyekise ukubona okuhle nokufanele ukukwazisa emshadweni wakho. Oshade naye ungumuntu kuphela, futhi kusho ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi bazokwenza amaphutha, njengawe.
Funda ukwenza ukuthethelela njengoba kukhonjisiwe nguKristu, ukuze nikwazi ukusondelana ngezinhliziyo ezivulekile nezethembayo. Ukuthethelela kubalulekile ekuxhumaneni okunempilo emshadweni wamaKristu.
Thatha isikhathi sokulalela
UJakobe 1: 19-20 usitshela ukuthi "Wonke umuntu makasheshe ukuzwa, ephuze ukukhuluma futhi ephuze ukuthukuthela."
Lesi iseluleko esihle somshado, uma sesisetshenzisiwe, sizoshintsha indlela enixhumana ngayo kuze kube phakade. Kukangaki ulinde isineke ukuthi umlingani wakho aqede ukukhuluma ukuze uzenzele elakho iphuzu? Ungazizwa kabi uma une - kungokwemvelo, futhi kulula ukukwenza.
Uma, noma kunjalo, ungafunda ukulalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela noma ukulinda ukungena, ukuxhumana emshadweni wamaKristu kungathuthuka kakhulu. Uzofunda okuningi ngomlingani wakho, kanye namathemba abo, ukwesaba, nemizwa yabo.
Ukulalelwa ngokucophelela kungokuhlangenwe nakho okuqinisekisayo. Ngokunikeza lowo oshade naye leso sipho, nisondelana nobabili.
Kwesinye isikhathi umlingani wakho uzokhuluma izinto okunzima ukuzithwala. Esikhundleni sokushesha uphendule usuthukuthele, zinike isikhathi sokucabanga ngaphambi kokuba ukhulume. Bheka inhliziyo yamazwi abo - bayathukuthela noma bayesaba? Ingabe bakhungathekile?
Bheka ongakwenza ukuze ubasekele ngalokho, kunokuya kumodi yokuzivikela. Lokhu kubalulekile ekukhulumisaneni okuhle emshadweni wamaKristu.
Ukukholwa kobuKrestu kunikeza wena noshade naye into enivumelana ngayo, isisekelo somusa nothando eningakha kuso umshado onondla nobabili futhi okusondeza komunye nomunye, nakuNkulunkulu futhi.