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- 1. Akuyona into ephambili empilweni
- 2. Abafuni ukushesha ngenxa nje yaso
- 3. Akuyona yonke imishado ephumelelayo
- 4. Uthando yilokho okubalulekile
- 5. Umshado uholela ekuthembekeni
- 6. Kunzima ukwethemba umuntu impilo yakho yonke
- 7. Akusona isizathu esihle ngempela sokushada
Njengoba sikhula, kufika isikhathi empilweni yethu lapho abantu abasizungezile, kungaba abangani noma izingane zakwethu, beshada. Ngokungazelelwe, ungazithola ungaphansi kokuqashelwa uma ulandela ulayini noma uke wapaka isihloko somshado isikhashana. Siphila emphakathini lapho ngemuva kweminyaka ethile kulindeleke ukuthi umuntu ashade futhi aqale umndeni. Noma ngubani odlula leyo minyaka uvusa amashiya amaningi.
Abantu abaseduze kwakho bangakukhonela ukuze bazi izizathu zokuthi kungani ungakulungele ukushada. Kubo, uma ukhula iminyaka yobudala ethile kunzima ukuthola umlingani ofanele. Okumangazayo ukuthi, nasemindenini yanamuhla, ukushada ngemuva kweminyaka ethile kubhekwa njengento efanele ukwenziwa. Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani abantu bengafuni ukushada. Ake sibheke ezimbalwa zazo.
1. Akuyona into ephambili empilweni
Indoda ehlakaniphile yake yathi, ‘Uhambo lomuntu ngamunye. Mabahambe baziklwebhe indlela yabo. ' Ngempela! Wonke umuntu kule planethi unezifiso namaphupho akhe. Banokulindelwe okuthile kubo. Abanye bakhona abafuna ukusebenza impilo yabo yonke, kanti abanye bangaba nephupho lokujikeleza umhlaba.
Ngokudabukisayo, sonke siqala ukuchaza ukuthi abanye kufanele baphile kanjani izimpilo zabo futhi baphazamise izimpilo zabo ngokungazi.
Kungenzeka,umshado akuyona into eza kuqala kuwo ngalesi sikhathi.
Banohlu lwabo lwezinto okufanele bazenze lapho baphuphe ngokufeza ezinye izinto kunokushada eminyakeni ethile. Esikhundleni sokuphoqa noma ngubani ukuthi ashade, kubalulekile ukuthi uqonde ukuthi balindeleni empilweni yabo futhi ubasekele.
2. Abafuni ukushesha ngenxa nje yaso
Kwakunesikhathi lapho umshado wawudingeka khona. Kwakugunyazwe ukushada nokuba nezingane ngeminyaka ethile. Noma kunjalo, izinto zishintshile. Kunezinto eziningi ezenzekayo njengamanje ukuthi ezinye izinkulungwane zeminyaka azifuni ukugijimela emshadweni futhi ziqale umndeni, zisuka nje.
Mhlawumbe, bangathanda ukuzimela, bahlole umsebenzi wabo, futhi bakhule ngobungcweti ngaphambi kokuthatha umthwalo womunye umuntu.
Imishado ehleliwe noma ukufanisa into yesikhathi esedlule. Namuhla, kukhulunywa ngothando. Umshado uyisinyathelo esikhulu empilweni yanoma ngubani. Ngakho-ke, lowo ongashadi njengamanje angahle angafuni ukushesha kulokhu.
3. Akuyona yonke imishado ephumelelayo
Esinye sezizathu zokungashadi yiningi lemishado engaphumeleli emphakathini. Ngokombiko, izinga lezehlukaniso e-USA liyi-53% ngo-2018. IBelgium ihamba phambili ohlwini ngo-71%. Le mishado ehluleka ngokushesha ayisona isibonelo esifanele emehlweni esizukulwane esisha. Kubo, umshado awutheli futhi uholela ebuhlungwini obungokomzwelo.
Uma ubheka lokhu, kusobala ngabo ukuthi bangacabanga ukuthi ukushada nalowo omthandayo akuqinisekisi ukuthi kuholela empilweni ephumelelayo nejabulisayo.
Yingakho benqaba ukushada.
4. Uthando yilokho okubalulekile
Iminyaka eyizinkulungwane eziningi ingaphikisana ngokuthi uthando lubalulekile hhayi ubudlelwane bomphakathi. Singakhuluma ngokuphepha nokwamukelwa komphakathi, kepha ngezikhathi eziguqukayo, izinto ziyashintsha futhi.
Namuhla, abathandi bancamela ukuhlala ndawonye endaweni yokuhlala kunokumemezela ubungani babo emhlabeni ngokushada omunye nomunye.
Ngisho nomthetho uyashintshwa ukuze uhambisane nomqondo wamanje wabantu. Imithetho isekela ubudlelwano bokuhlala futhi ivikela bobabili abantu. Abantu bahlala ngokuthula futhi njengabantu abashadile ebudlelwaneni bokuhlala. Lezi yizibonelo zokuthi izikhathi ziguquke kanjani.
5. Umshado uholela ekuthembekeni
Umshado umayelana nokwehlukanisa izibopho ngokulinganayo. Izowa lapho omunye ethwala umthwalo omkhulu. Namuhla, abaningi bakhetha ukuphila impilo yamahhala, ngaphandle kwemali eyengeziwe. Abakhethi ukuncika kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo.
Kubantu abanomqondo onjalo, umshado awulutho ngaphandle kwekheji elibaphuca inkululeko yabo futhi libabophezele endlini ngemithwalo yemfanelo eminingi engafuneki.
Yibona abangathanda ukuphila impilo ngokwabo. Ngakho-ke, bagwema umshado nganoma iyiphi indlela.
6. Kunzima ukwethemba umuntu impilo yakho yonke
Kunabantu abaye bakhohliswa kokuningi abakuthola kunzima ukwethemba noma ngubani. Banabangani abazohlangana nabo kepha uma kukhulunywa ngokuchitha impilo yabo yonke nomuntu, bayabuya.
Ukwethemba kungenye yezinsika zempilo yomshado ephumelelayo. Lapho kungekho ukwethembana, akubuzwa ngothando.
7. Akusona isizathu esihle ngempela sokushada
Kungani abantu beshada? Bayifisa ngakho. Bayayifisa. Empeleni bafuna ukushada. Kwi-movie ‘Akunjalo nje kuwe', UBeth (Jennifer Aniston) usebudlelwaneni obuhlala bukhoma nesoka lakhe uNeil (Ben Affleck). Ngenkathi efuna umshado, uNeil akakholelwa kuwo. Ngasekupheleni lapho ezizwa ethanda ngempela, uphakamisa uBeth. Isimo esifanayo senzeke ‘Ucansi Nomuzi ' lapho uJohn ‘Mnu. UBig 'akafuni umshado obizayo futhi uthola izinyawo ezibandayo ngaphambi komshado.
Umuntu akumele ashade ngoba isikhathi esifanele noma abantu abaseduze kwakho bekusho noma imindeni yakho ifuna.
Esikhundleni salokho, umuntu kufanele ashade uma enesizathu noma akholelwa kulokhu kuqomisana.
Okubalwe ngenhla ezinye zezizathu ezijwayelekile zokungashadi iminyaka eyinkulungwane futhi abantu abaningi abaphila ngayo. Umshado akufanele neze uphoqelelwe komunye umuntu. Kungokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo yonke nokuzizwa okufanele kube ngokuvumelana.