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- Yikuphi ukukhulelwa okuletha ebudlelwaneni
- Kungani kuyinselele kangaka kwabashadikazi?
- Izinkinga zokukhulelwa nobudlelwano
- Ungakuvimbela kanjani ukuwohloka kobudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa
- Izeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana
Ukwehlukana kobudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwenzeka kaningi kunalokho abaningi abangakulindela. Ukukhulelwa kuvame ukwethulwa kithi ngemidiya, izikhangiso, nezinkumbulo zabangane bethu nomndeni wethu, njengenkathi yenjabulo nesikhathi esivumelana sothando nokuzwana. Kodwa-ke, iqiniso lalo ukuthi futhi lingaba yisikhathi esicindezela kakhulu futhi esinzima kwabashadikazi.
Umama ozayo ngokuqinisekile angathola injabulo nokuchazeka okungachazeki. Kepha, ngaphandle kwalokho, ukukhulelwa kungaletha isilingo esinzima kunazo zonke kunoma iziphi izithandani uma ukuwohloka kobudlelwano kwenzeka nabazoba ngabazali kungekudala.
Yikuphi ukukhulelwa okuletha ebudlelwaneni
Ukukhulelwa kwenzeka emibhangqwaneni ngezindlela ezingafani nangezindlela ezahlukahlukene ebudlelwaneni, kepha kunento eyodwa eqinisekile - isimemezelo soshintsho olukhulu kakhulu empilweni yabalingani nasebudlelwaneni.
Kusukela lapho umbhangqwana ukhulelwa, akukho okuyoke kufane. Yebo, izoba yinhle, futhi imibhangqwana kuyaqabukela ikwazi ukuyiguqula lapho isizobona ingane yayo. Kepha, iqiniso futhi ukuthi liyashintsha konke okuncane futhi abaningi bakhathazeka ngokweqile ngakho.
Okungahlupha labo abasazoba abazali nganoma iyiphi yalezi zinto ezilandelayo - ezezimali, ezothando, ezenhlalo, ikusasa, indima entsha yempilo, inkululeko. Empeleni, noma yiluphi ushintsho oluncane noma olukhulu lungadala ukuwohloka kobudlelwano futhi lubangele ezinye izinkinga zomshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Bobabili abazali bangakhathazeka ngokweqile futhi besabe ngamakhulu ezinto. Bobabili bangadinga ukuxhaswa okwengeziwe nokuqinisekiswa. Abesilisa, ikakhulukazi, bavame ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando nokunakekelwa komlingani wabo.
Kungani kuyinselele kangaka kwabashadikazi?
Zonke izinguquko esizishilo zibeka ingcindezi enkulu kubo bobabili abalingani. Kunezingcindezi eziphindwe kabili, eyodwa ebheka abantu abasebudlelwaneni, kanti enye ephathelene namandla wobudlelwano uqobo.
Kokubili abesilisa nabesifazane, lokhu kuyinselelo ekuzazeni kwabo kanye nobudlelwano babo.
Abesifazane bangesaba ukuthi bazolahlekelwa yini ngabo endimeni yokuba ngumama, futhi babe omama nje esikhundleni sabathandi. Bangesaba ukuthi imizimba yabo izokubheka kanjani ukukhulelwa nokuthi ngabe bayoheheka yini kubalingani babo.
Ngokushesha abazoba omama nabo bangahlushwa ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Besaba ukuthi ubudlelwano babo buzohlukana ngenkathi bekhulelwe futhi bezwa ukucindezeleka kobudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Futhi bobabili, abesilisa nabesifazane, bavame ukwesaba ukuthi bazokuphatha kahle kanjani ubuzali.
Konke ukungabaza nokungazithembi kubeka ubunzima ebudlelwaneni, futhi lokhu kungabaza kungaholela ekuchithekeni komshado. Ukukhulelwa kungaba esinye sezikhathi eziyinselele kakhulu kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, njengoba kumemezela ukuphela kwenkathi eyodwa nokuqala kwesikhathi esilandelayo.
Ngalesi sikhathi abantu abaningi bazoqala ukuzibuza ukuthi bangakwazi yini ukuguqula ushintsho olunjalo. Ubuhlobo babo buzoguquka nakanjani. Ukubekezelelana kwabo kuzovivinywa. Ukuxhaswa kuzofuneka kakhulu. Noma yikuphi ukweqa ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kungabala njengokulimaza nobugovu njengokuphindwe kayishumi. Ukungasho, izinkinga ezingaba khona uma kukhulunywa ngempilo yocansi ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa zingavela.
Izinkinga zokukhulelwa nobudlelwano
Ukuhlukana kobudlelwano kuvamile ngoba ubudlelwano buyashintsha ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Sivame ukuzwa imibhangqwana ikhononda ngokuhlangabezana nezinkinga zomshado ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa njengoba ithola izingqinamba zobudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuyinselelo yokubhekana nazo.
Ubudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa buhamba ngezikhathi ezinzima nezimbi. Ama-hormone okukhulelwa ajwayele ukwenza omama abakhulelwe bazizwe besengozini enkulu noma bekhathazekile njengoba behlangabezana nokuxubana kokuphakama kwemizwa nokwehla.
Abanye abakwazi ukubhekana nezimpawu kanye nezinguquko ezidlula emzimbeni wabo. Futhi, izinkinga ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa zidala ukucindezeleka okwengeziwe okuholela ezinkingeni zobudlelwano ezingadingekile ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Lokhu kuchithwa kobudlelwano besikhashana, uma kungaphathwa ngokunakekelwa kungaholela ekwehlukaneni nesehlukaniso.
Ukwelulekwa ngokwengqondo kungasiza imibhangqwana emisha ukubhekana nezinkinga zobudlelwano bokukhulelwa futhi igcine imishado yayo ekuqhekekeni kobudlelwano besikhashana.
Ungakuvimbela kanjani ukuwohloka kobudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa
Konke obekuchazwa kungabeka ingcindezi enkulu ebudlelwaneni. Akumangalisi ukuthi ubudlelwano obabusebenza kangcono futhi bunempilo ngaphambi kokukhulelwa buba sethubeni elingcono lokusinda kulo. Yize ukuba ngumzali kuyinselele kukodwa, sizoxoxa ngokuthi singakuvimbela kanjani ukuwohloka kobudlelwano ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa.
Uma uthemba ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bumi esisekelweni esiqinile, lokho kuyizindaba ezinhle! Kepha, noma kunjalo, kuyalulekwa ukuba nengxoxo nomlingani wakho ngombono wakho nokulindela kwakho.
Kodwa-ke, uma ubudlelwano bakho bebuzamazame ngaphambi kokukhulelwa, kungadinga usizo olwengeziwe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi buyakhula buqine ngaphambi kokuba ingane ifike. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuhlukana ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa akuzwakali.
Izeluleko ezibaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana
Lokhu kusho ukukhuluma ngakho konke ukungabaza nokwesaba, kokubili okuphathelene nokukhulelwa nokuba ngumzali, kanye nobudlelwano uqobo. Khuluma, khuluma, khuluma.
Lesi seluleko sihlala sidlala, kunoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, futhi kunoma yisiphi isigaba, kepha ekukhulelweni, kubaluleke kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili ukuthi uvuleke ngokuphelele futhi uqonde ngezidingo zakho, ukwesaba, nezifiso zakho.
Ukugwema inkinga ngeke kusize. Kunemibhangqwana eminingi okuthi, ngenxa yengane, izame ukushanela ukungaboni ngaso linye ngaphansi kombhoxo. Lokhu kuzobuyela emuva lapho ingane ifika.
Ngakho-ke, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ebudlelwaneni bakho, nomndeni wakho, ukuvakashela udokotela wezifo zengqondo.
Lokhu yinto ngisho nabantu abanobudlelwano obukhulu okufanele bakucabangele ukuyenza ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kepha kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile kuwo wonke umuntu ozwa ukuthi ubudlelwane babo bungahlupheka ngenxa yengcindezi ezungeze ukukhulelwa futhi kugcine ngokuqhekeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kulandela ukuwohloka kobudlelwano.