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- 1. Vumelanani ngezikhathi ezithile
- 2. Vumelanani ngemingcele nalokho enikulindele
- 3. Cabanga ukwelashwa kwezithandani
- Hlela uhlelo lwakho lwezezimali
- 5. Ingabe uthola ikhefu elihlanzekile, noma uzohlala usondelene?
Ukwazi ukuthi umbhangqwana oshadile kufanele uhlukane isikhathi esingakanani kungaba yinkohliso ukuthatha isinqumo, ngaphandle kokuthi uhlose ukwehlukana ukuze ufanelekele isehlukaniso. Kuleso simo lapho lokho kungasikwa futhi kumiswe kakhulu futhi kuya kuphela ngesimo ohlala kuso.
Isibonelo, eLouisiana, isehlukaniso ‘esingenaphutha’ singanikezwa ngokuhlukana ezinyangeni eziyisithupha nje kuphela, kodwa ePennsylvania ‘idivosi engenacala’ inganikezwa kodwa hhayi ngokuhlukana. Ngakho-ke ukwazi ukuthi umbhangqwana oshadile kufanele uhlukane isikhathi eside kangakanani ukuthola inhloso yesehlukaniso kuncike ngokuphelele esifundeni ohlala kuso.
Kepha akuyona yonke imibhangqwana eshadile ehlukanayo ngenhloso yokuhlukanisa. Esikhundleni salokho, bayahlukana ngezinye izizathu ezifana nokuthi;
- Ukuthatha isikhathi ngokuhlukana ukuze uthole umbono ngomshado wakho.
- Ukuhlola ukuthi ngabe bobabili abashadile bakhipha okuhle noma okubi kakhulu komunye nomunye.
- Ngolwazi lokuhlala ngokwehlukana noma ngokuzimela.
- Ukuqonda noma ukuvivinya umthelela wokuhlala ngokuhlukile ezinganeni noma kwezezimali.
- Ukunikezana isikhala sokubhekana nenkinga yomuntu ngamunye noma ukuhlukumezeka.
- Ukuyeka ukuthathelana phansi
Ezimweni ezinjengalezi ezingenhla, kunzima ukuhlola umugqa wesikhathi osikiwe ohlanzekile wokuthi umbhangqwana oshadile kufanele uhlukane isikhathi esingakanani ngoba kuzoncika ekutheni ukuphulukiswa kungathatha isikhathi esingakanani nokuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuqala ukwazisa omunye nomunye - noma cha.
Ngakho-ke uma uhlukanisa ngesinye sezizathu esishiwo ngenhla nansi inqubo ongayilandela ukukusiza wazi ukuthi wena nabashadikazi kufanele nihlukane isikhathi esingakanani ngaphambi kokuba nizithole seniloluhlobo olusha lwe-limbo.
1. Vumelanani ngezikhathi ezithile
Uma ungavumelani isikhathi sokwenza isinqumo sakho sokugcina mayelana nokuthi nizohlukanisa yini noma nihlale ndawonye, ningazithola ningavumelani ngokuthi kufanele nihlukane isikhathi esingakanani. Ngakho-ke ukugcina iqembu elilodwa lilindile ukuthola ukuthi ngabe likhona yini ithemba lokubuyisana noma cha. Ukuvumela ukuphuma kwakho kwehlukane ngeke kulunge kubo bobabili abashade noma izingane uma kukhona abathintekayo.
Kubalulekile futhi ukucabanga ukuthi uma ukwehlukaniswa kukhishwa ngokungadingekile, nobabili niyophoqeleka ukuzakhela indlela yokuphila ehlukile ezoqhuba ibanga phakathi kwenu ngokuqhubekayo futhi okungaholela esahlukweni - noma ngabe benethuba lokuxazulula umehluko wenu bese nibuya ndawonye njengezithandani.
2. Vumelanani ngemingcele nalokho enikulindele
Kukangaki uzwile ngemibhangqwana exabanayo ngaleyo ndaba eyodwa omunye umlingani ayenayo kuphela yokuthi omunye umlingani amemeze athi 'kwaba lapho sehlukana.' Manje, ukube zombili izinhlangothi bebevumelene ngemingcele ecacile ngaphambi kokuba bahlukane, futhi ukusebenzisana nabalingani abasha okungenzeka kube isivumelwano sokwaphula isivumelwano somlingani oyedwa noma bobabili, lowo mngcele udinga ukusethwa.
Okufanayo kuyasebenza maqondana nezimali zakho, izingane, nokuthi uzosebenza kanjani emshadweni wakho ngenkathi nihlukene. Ngokwesibonelo; ukunquma ukuthi nizosebenzisa isikhathi ndawonye yini ngesikhathi sokuhlukana nokuthi nizosenza kanjani.
Ngaphandle kwemingcele ecacile nokulindelwe, kulula kakhulu ngomlingani oyedwa ukusichaza isimo ngendlela engafanele ukuze enze okuthile, noma ukuthatha isinqumo esizothinta ikusasa lomshado wakho uma nihlala ndawonye. Kungangeza nesikhathi sokwehlukana ngoba uzobe ungasebenzelanga ukuvumelanisa umehluko wakho.
3. Cabanga ukwelashwa kwezithandani
Ukwehlukana (ngaphandle kokuthi nihlukane ngenhloso yokwehlukanisa) kuyisu lokusindisa umshado ukuze nibe nesikhathi sodwa nibuyisana nemicabango yenu bese nibuya nombono omusha futhi ngethemba ukuzibophezela okuphelele ekusebenziseni okusele wempilo yakho ndawonye.
Ngakho-ke kunengqondo uma usesigabeni sokwehlukana ukuthi ukwelashwa kwabashadikazi kuzokusiza ukuthi ulungise ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakho, nikusebenzise ngokugcwele ukwahlukana futhi nakhe kabusha umshado wenu.
Kukunika ithuba elihle kakhulu lokwehlukaniswa ngempumelelo ngoba umeluleki uzoba nokuhlangenwe nakho okuningi ngalezi zimo kunokwakho futhi uyazi ukuthi yini okudingeka yenzeke ukukubuyisela ndawonye.
Uma uthatha isinqumo ngokwelashwa kwezithandani, qiniseka ukungeza ukuzibophezela kokufika ezifundweni zakho ndawonye nokuzibandakanya ngenhliziyo yonke kuhlu lwakho lwemingcele nokulindelwe.
Futhi ngeke kulimaze ukuya ekwelashweni okuyimfihlo kwakho, ukuze ukwazi ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izingqinamba onazo uqobo.
Lezi zinyathelo zizokusiza ukuthi uxoxe futhi uchaze isikhathi sangempela sokwehlukana, ikakhulukazi uma unosizo lweqembu langaphandle elinolwazi ukukusiza ekuqondiseni.
Hlela uhlelo lwakho lwezezimali
Kwenzekani ezimalini zakho uma nihlukana? Lo ngumbuzo okufanele nixoxe ngawo ndawonye. Uzodinga ukuhlelela izindleko zokuqhuba indlu eyengeziwe kanye nokuqinisekisa ukuthi izidingo zezingane ziyahlangatshezwa (uma zikhona).
Uma uvumelana kusengaphambili ngokuhlukana, kuzosusa noma yikuphi ukucindezeleka kwezezimali kulesi simo, futhi kulinganise umthwalo wezezimali ikakhulukazi kumzali okungenzeka unakekela izingane; kuzophinde kugqamise ukuthi ungakwazi ukukhokhela isikhathi esingakanani ngokwehlukana ngaphambi kokuba kube yinkinga.
5. Ingabe uthola ikhefu elihlanzekile, noma uzohlala usondelene?
Lesi ngesinye isimo lapho kuzodingeka nivumelane ngakho futhi ninamathele ekusuleni imingcele nokulindelwe. Ngokufanelekile, kuzoba ngcono ukugwema izindaba ezididayo nokuxuba imizwa (ngokubandakanya ukusondelana ndawonye) ukuze nobabili nihlale nicacile futhi nigxile kokufanele nikwenze ukwenza umshado wenu usebenze.
Isiphetho
Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi sokwehlukana ukuthola ukuthi yini engcono enhlalakahleni yakho - ukwakha isisekelo esiqinile somshado ongcono noma ukukhetha ukuhlukana ngezindlela.