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- 1. Ukuxhumana kuyinto esemqoka
- 2. Batshele ngezinkinga
- 3. Cela usizo kwabasondelene nawe
- 4. Gwema ukuxhomekeka
- 5. Benze babone ukunakekelwa kwabathandekayo
- 6. Basekele futhi ubakhuthaze
- Zinakekele
Ukwenza indoda ephuzile iyeke ukuphuza akuwona umsebenzi wosuku, ngoba kudinga isikhathi esiningi, umzamo nokubekezela ukuze kusebenze. Kuvame ukucatshangwa ukuthi umlutha uzoyeka kuphela lapho efuna, hhayi ukuthi uwuphoqa kangakanani. Kodwa-ke, ungenza okuncane ukubasiza ekunqandeni isimilo sabo sokulutha.
Uma umyeni wakho ephuza futhi ungakhululekile kukho, ucabangela ubungozi obuhambisana nakho nokuthi kungawuthinta kanjani umndeni wakho, kufanele uzame ukumvimba. Udinga ukubheka izindlela zokuthi ungamphatha kanjani umyeni oyisidakwa.
Njengomlingani wakhe, uzohlupheka kakhulu ngemiphumela, futhi kungakushiya uphukile ngokwengqondo, ngokomzimba nangokwezimali.
Ngezansi kunamathiphu asebenzayo okuthi ungasiza kanjani indoda ephuzile iyeke ukuphuza:
1. Ukuxhumana kuyinto esemqoka
Into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho futhi ukuveze, kufaka phakathi ukuthi kuthinta kanjani wena nezimpilo zakho ndawonye. Uma ungakaze ukhulume ngakho, umlingani wakho kungenzeka angazi ukuthi uphazamiseke kangakanani futhi ukhathazeke kangakanani ngakho.
Umqondo ukubenza bazi ukuthi kwenzakalani nokuthi ungakhululeki kangakanani, kufaka phakathi ukuthi ungathanda kangakanani ukuyeka ukuphuza. Le ngxoxo kufanele futhi ibenze baqonde iphuzu lapho ukukhathazeka kuvela khona, okungokwabo, okwakho, nokwomndeni.
Lapho ucabanga ukuthi uzosebenzelana kanjani nomyeni ophuzile, ukungenelela nakho kungaba yindlela uma ingxoxo elula phakathi kwakho nayo ingasebenzi.
Lesi futhi kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokubavumela bakhulume ngalokho abacabanga ukuthi kungaba imbangela eyimbangela yokuphuza kwabo.
2. Batshele ngezinkinga
Uma nobabili nihlale phansi ukuba nibe nengxoxo, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukubazisa ngezinkinga ezihambisana nokuphuza. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukunxanela utshwala, ukuphuza ngokungaguquguquki kunalokho obekuhlosiwe, ukuphuza kungakhathalekile ukuthi unezinkinga zempilo noma zobudlelwano, ukuba nezimpawu zokuyeka lapho ungaphuzi nokwehluleka ukuhlangabezana nezibopho ngenxa yokuphuza. Ungafaka nezingozi zempilo ezihambisanayo, ezinye zazo okuyi-pancreatitis, isifo sesibindi, umdlavuza, i-osteoporosis, izilonda nezinkinga zesisu, ukulimala kobuchopho nokungondleki kahle. Konke lokhu kungayilimaza impilo yakhe futhi kuthinte nezimali zakho njengomndeni.
3. Cela usizo kwabasondelene nawe
Akulula ukubhekana nomyeni ophuzile, yini okufanele uyenze ukumsiza lapho engakulungele ukukulalela? Cela abangani bakho abaseduze nomndeni ukuthi bangenelele.
Enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokusiza umyeni wakho ukufuna ukwesekwa kwabathandekayo. Ungacela amanye amalungu omndeni nabangane ukuthi bakusize; vula futhi ubazise ukuthi kwenzekani uma ubethemba ngokwanele.
Futhi, uma wazi othile obekade eyisidakwa, bangakusiza ngokukutshela ukuthi bakweqe kanjani okwabo, indlela abasebenza ngayo nokuthi yini ongayenza ukusiza umyeni wakho.
Uma lo muntu kungumuntu osondelene nomyeni wakho, ungabenza bakhulume naye ngqo ngakho, ukwenza inqubo ibe lula, ngoba ivela kumuntu owayevame ukuba sezicathulweni ezifanayo.
4. Gwema ukuxhomekeka
Ukuxhomekeka kwe-Codependency kunika amandla ukulutheka komlingani wakho, ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakho maqondana nesimo. Ukuzimela ngokweqile kuhlotshaniswa nokwenza izaba ngokuziphatha kwabo noma ukuthola indlela yokubakhipha ezimweni ezimbi. Uma ufuna ngempela ukusiza umlingani wakho, kuzofanele ubenze babhekane nemiphumela yezenzo zabo, ukuze baqonde umphumela wokuphuza futhi basebenzele ukuyeka.
Ukubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo komyeni oyisidakwa akuyona indlela yokuphila impilo enempilo. Kwesinye isikhathi ukuthola isehlukaniso kumyeni ophuzile ukuphela kwendlela yokuphuma.
Kwezinye izimo, ukuluthwa utshwala kuba kubi kakhulu kangangokuthi ayikho enye indlela ngaphandle kokushiya umlingani ongumlutha wotshwala. Uma unomyeni oyisidakwa, uzohamba nini nokuthi uzohamba kanjani eminye yemibuzo ozodinga ukuyithola.
5. Benze babone ukunakekelwa kwabathandekayo
Ngesinye isikhathi, umyeni wakho angazizwa ekhishwe inyumbazane noma ahlulelwe. Kungakho kubalulekile ukubakhumbuza ukuthi abathandekayo bakhe bamkhathalela kangakanani futhi bangafuna ukubona ushintsho. Khuluma nabathandekayo ukuze nabo bazwakalise ukukhathazeka kwabo futhi bayeke ukwahlulela.
6. Basekele futhi ubakhuthaze
Kungakudina ngesikhathi esithile kodwa noma ngabe kunjani, zama njalo ukusekela nokukhuthaza umlingani wakho kulo lonke lolu hambo. Hamba nabo ngemihlangano yabo neqembu lokusekela, ukuze ubonise ukuthi ngempela unabo kulolu hambo.
Zinakekele
Ngenkathi lokhu kuqhubeka, khumbula ukuzinakekela wena nezingane zakho, njengoba udinga ukuphepha futhi ube nempilo ukuze usize umlingani wakho ngempumelelo. I-Sober Living Colorado Springs iyindawo enhle eColorado enganikeza usizo lochwepheshe ngokululama utshwala futhi ngeke ube nokuningi ongakhathazeka ngakho.