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- Imiphumela yengqondo nengokomzwelo
- Imiphumela yokungathembeki kumlingani okhashelwe
- Ukwakha kabusha umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki
Ukungathembeki kungalimaza ubudlelwano obuqine kakhulu, kungenye yezithiyo ezinkulu ezithinta umshado futhi kubangele ukulimala ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo. Ukungathembeki kungachazwa njengomuntu oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani abashadile noma ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside bokuzibophezela bethinteka ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba nomuntu ongaphandle kobudlelwano, okuholela ekungathembekini ngokocansi noma ngokomzwelo. Noma ngabe hlobo luni, ukungathembeki kubanga imizwa yokulimala, ukungakholelwa, usizi, ukulahlekelwa, intukuthelo, ukukhashelwa, ukuba necala, ukudabuka, futhi kwesinye isikhathi ukufutheka, futhi le mizwa inzima kakhulu ukuhlala nayo, ukuyilawula, nokuyihlula.
Lapho ukungathembeki kwenzeka, kukhona ukulahleka kokwethembana ebudlelwaneni. Imvamisa, kunzima ukubheka umuntu ebusweni, kunzima ukuba segumbini elilodwa naye, futhi kunzima kakhulu ukuba nengxoxo ngaphandle kokucabanga ngokwenzekile, futhi ngaphandle kokuzitshela, “ungasho kanjani uyangithanda wenze lokhu kimi. ”
Imiphumela yengqondo nengokomzwelo
Ukungathembeki emthethweni kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, kuyadida, kunomthelela omubi empilweni yomuntu ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo, futhi kungaholela ekucindezelekeni, kanye nasekukhathazekeni. Imibhangqwana ethola ukungathembeki emshadweni wayo iye ibhekane nezikhathi eziningi ezinzima ngenkathi izama ukubuyisa noma ukudlula kukho, umlingani olimele ukhombisa imizwa yentukuthelo, ukukhungatheka, ukucindezeleka, ukulimala, nokudideka, futhi abe nesikhathi esinzima sokubhekana nemizwa yokukhaphela.
Imiphumela yokungathembeki kumlingani okhashelwe
Ukungathembeki emthethweni kubanga umthelela omubi kakhulu emshadweni, futhi kushiya umuntu ebuza ukubaluleka kwabo, ukubaluleka kwabo, ingqondo yabo, kanye nemithelela yabo yokuzethemba. Umlingani olimele uzizwa elahliwe futhi ekhashelwe, bese eqala ukubuza yonke into ngobudlelwano, umlingani wakhe, futhi azibuze ukuthi ngabe bonke ubudlelwano bebungamanga yini. Lapho kube nokungathembeki, umlingani olimele uyadabuka futhi ucasuke kaningi, akhale kakhulu, akholelwe ukuthi yiphutha labo, futhi kwesinye isikhathi azibeke icala ngokungazi kahle komlingani wakhe.
Ukwakha kabusha umshado ngemuva kokungathembeki
Yize ukungathembeki kulimaza kakhulu futhi kungadala umonakalo omkhulu, akusho ukuthi umshado kumele uphele. Uma uhlangabezane nokungathembeki ebudlelwaneni bakho, kungenzeka ukuthi nakhe kabusha, niphinde nizinikele futhi nixhumane futhi; kodwa-ke, kufanele unqume ukuthi uyafuna yini ukuhlala ebudlelwaneni nokuthi kufanele yini ukulondolozwa. Uma wena noshade naye ninquma ukuthi nifuna ukwakha ubudlelwano benu, niphinde nizinikele ebudlelwaneni futhi nakomunye nomunye, futhi niphinde nihlangane, kungadingeka ukuthi uthathe izinqumo ezinzima, wenze izinqumo ongavumelana nazo noma ongavumelani nazo, futhi kufanele uqonde futhi wamukele okulandelayo;
- Ukukopela kufanele kuphele ngokushesha uma ufuna ukusebenza ngobuqotho emshadweni.
- Konke ukuxhumana ngocingo, ukuthumela imiyalezo, ama-imeyili, imithombo yezokuxhumana nokuthintana nalo muntu kumele kume ngokushesha.
- Ukuziphendulela nemingcele kufanele kusungulwe ebudlelwaneni.
- Inqubo yokutakula izothatha isikhathi ..... ungayijahi.
- Kuthatha isikhathi ukuphatha nokubhekana nemicabango engemihle, imizwa, nemizwelo, kanye nezithombe eziphindaphindayo ongazithola kuzona.
- Ukuthethelela akukhona okuzenzekelayo futhi akusho ukuthi owakwakho uzokhohlwa ngokwenzekile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho,
- Uma kunguwe okopelile, kufanele uxoxe ngokwenzeke ngokwethembeka nangokusobala, bese uphendula noma imiphi imibuzo umlingani wakho anayo ngokungathembeki.
- Funa ukwelulekwa kumeluleki ogxile ekusebenzeni nemibhangqwana ethinteke ukungathembeki.
Akulula ukululama ekungathembekini, futhi akunakwenzeka. Ukuphulukiswa nokukhula kuzokwenzeka emshadweni wakho uma ukhetha ukuhlala futhi nilulame ekungathembekeni nobabili, futhi uma uthatha isinqumo sokuthi ukuhlala ndawonye yilokho okufunayo, khumbula ukuthi kubalulekile kini nobabili ukwelapha nokwakha ukwethembana.