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- Imithetho eyisisekelo yokwehlukaniswa kwecala
- Kungani ukwehlukana kwecala kusebenza
- Kungani kwehluleka
- Okudingayo ukuze uphumelele
- Imingcele yokwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo
- Ukusinda ukwehlukana kwecala
Kuyini ukuhlukaniswa kwesivivinyo, futhi umuntu kufanele aqhubeke kanjani nokusinda ngokwahlukana kwesilingo?
Ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo igama elisemthethweni lesikhathi sokuphumula. Eminye imibhangqwana ithola ukuthi impilo yayo yansuku zonke ikhathaza kakhulu futhi idinga iholide elide ebudlelwaneni nakomunye nomunye.
Kungavimbela isehlukaniso noma kusheshise inqubo. Kuyindlela, ithuluzi, futhi njengazo zonke izinto zomqondo, Alilungile futhi alibi.
Ukusinda ngokwahlukana kufanele kugxile ekuxhumaneni nawe futhi ube ngumuntu ofuna ukuba sebudlelwaneni nomlingani wakho.
Ukusinda ukwahlukana kwesivivinyo akukhona ngokubuyela emuva esihlalweni bese uthandana nabanye abantu. Usazibophezele, futhi udinga ikhefu nje.
Isikhathi lapho uqala ukucabanga ngokuba nobudlelwano nomunye umuntu, bese ukwehlukana kwesivivinyo nobudlelwano bakho kwehlulekile.
Amaphesenti amakhulu abantu abadlula ngokwehlukana kwecala bagcina ngesehlukaniso. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi kuze kube ngama-87% emibhangqwana egcina ukufaka idivosi.
Lokho kungenxa yokuthi imibhangqwana eminingi iya ngokuhlukaniswa kwecala ngaphandle kokuxoxa ngezinto kahle. Imvamisa kunalokho, ukwahlukana kuqala lapho iqembu elilodwa lifuna ukukwenza futhi liphume.
Imithetho eyisisekelo yokwehlukaniswa kwecala
Ukuhlukaniswa kwesilingo kumayelana nokushintsha imithetho ebuhlotsheni.
Leyo mithetho kufanele yakhelwe ukunciphisa okulindelwe komunye nomunye futhi inikeze isikhathi esithe xaxa nendawo yokuba umlingani ngamunye acabangisise ngezimpilo zakhe kanye nobudlelwano.
Khumbula, inhloso ukulungisa izingqinamba zakho (nozakwenu alungise ezabo), ukuze niphinde nibe nobudlelwano. Uma omunye wenu engenawo lo mgomo engqondweni, lapho-ke senivele sehlulekile, futhi ukusinda ekuhlukanisweni kwecala kufana nokuzilolongela ingubo yesehlukaniso.
Ngizoliphinda leli phuzu ngoba libalulekile, futhi yisona sizathu esikhulu esenza ukwehlukaniswa kwesilingo kwehluleke. Womabili amaqembu kufanele avumelane ngokuhlukaniswa kwecala. Uyayidinga isikhala sokubuyela ezinyaweni zakho bese ubuyela emuva ukwakha kabusha ubudlelwano bakho.
Uma lokhu kungacaci komunye wenu, kuzokwenza ngcono ukuthi nibhale isehlukaniso esikhundleni sokwandisa ubuhlungu bokusinda ekuhlukanisweni kwecala.
Kungani ukwehlukana kwecala kusebenza
Imibhangqwana ingabantu ababili abahlukile (ngethemba). Abasoze bakwazi ukuqonda omunye nomunye i-100% yesikhathi.
Kuwubambiswano lokunikeza nokuthatha, lapho iqembu elilodwa noma elinye kuzodingeka liyekethise kaninginingi.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, izingcindezi, okulindelwe, kanye nokuyekethisa kuba nzima kakhulu koyedwa noma kuzo zombili izinhlangothi. Basabela kuso ngokukhalaza kumlingani wabo.
Banomuzwa wokuthi banikele kakhulu, bathola okuncane kakhulu, noma bobabili, ebudlelwaneni. Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zisuka ekubeni nguzakwethu ziye ekufezeni izifiso zazo.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwezilingo kuyasebenza ngoba kusiza abashadayo ukuthi bakhumbule ukuthi kungani banqume ukuyeka inkululeko yempilo eyodwa futhi bazibophezele.
Bazodinga ukulungisa ukungabaza kwabo futhi babe ngumuntu ozimisele futhi okwaziyo ukuzidela ngenxa yobuhlobo babo.
Kungani kwehluleka
Ukusinda ekwehlukaneni kwecala ngomqondo wokufika kude nobudlelwano ngangokunokwenzeka isizathu esiyinhloko esenza iningi ligcine ngesehlukaniso.
Oyedwa noma bobabili abathintekayo banomuzwa wokuthi umlingani wabo kanye nobudlelwano babo kungumthombo wezinkinga zabo. Bakholelwa ukuthi impilo yabo imapeketwane ngenxa yomlingani wabo.
Ukuba nemicabango yokuphunyuka kuzoholela ekuhlulekeni futhi, kamuva, isehlukaniso. Imicabango yobugovu yokuqhubeka nokushiya ubudlelwano esikhathini esedlule izobenza isiprofetho esizigcwalisayo.
Uma ubambiswano selufikile kuleli qophelo, khona-ke ungcono ngokufaka isehlukaniso kunokuya ngokuhlukana okokulingwa.
Ukuhlukaniswa kwesilingo kunikela kuphela isikhala sokuphefumula ngenkathi usezibophezelweni. Sebenzisa isikhala sokuphefumula ukucabanga ukuthi ngamunye wenu angenza kanjani kangcono ekusingatheni isimo sakhe futhi aqhubekele phambili njengombhangqwana.
Buka le vidiyo:
Okudingayo ukuze uphumelele
Imibhangqwana idinga imigomo nemithetho eyisisekelo ukuze iphumelele ukwahlukana kwesivivinyo ngempumelelo. Nobabili nisasebudlelwaneni futhi nidinga ukuba nentshisekelo yokuqhubekela phambili nakho.
Kunemithetho embalwa nokulindelwe komunye nomunye. Ukwethembeka akumele neze kuphazanyiswe. Vele niqhelelane komunye nomunye njengoba nilungisa ukungezwani ngokuzicabangela.
Landela futhi uhloniphe imithetho oyibekile, futhi ungayishintshi ibe ngumlilo. Gxila kuwe futhi ulungiselele amaphuzu okuxoxa lapho uzimisele ukubuyisana.
Imingcele yokwehlukaniswa kwesivivinyo
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungasinda kanjani ekuhlukaneni kwecala, khona-ke usukucabangele njengesehlukaniso. Akusona isehlukaniso, kepha kungagcina kube munye.
Ukusinda ukwahlukana kwesilingo kumayelana nokuthatha ikhefu elidingeka kakhulu ebudlelwaneni obucindezelayo. Ubudlelwano uqobo abukapheli.
Ungacabangi ukuthi unjalo, uma usuvele unawo, ngakho-ke ungachithi isikhathi somunye nomunye ngokuhlukana ngokwecala.
Ukwehlukaniswa kwecala okuyimpumelelo kumayelana nemingcele. Kukhona ngisho namacala wokwehlukaniswa kwecala ngenkathi ehlala ndawonye. Kumane nje kuguqulwe imithetho yalokho umlingani ngamunye anelungelo lokukunika nokukwenza ebudlelwaneni.
Uma, ngokwesibonelo, umlingani oyedwa kudingeka njalo ukuthi atshele omunye ukuthi bakuphi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ungasusa leyo mithetho bese unikeza isikhala. Lokhu kufaka izinto ezahlukahlukene, ezinjengezikhathi zokufika ekhaya, izinqumo ezisetshenziswayo, imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Uma umbhangqwana uvumelana ngokuhlukana kwecala endlini eyodwa, bese ucabanga ngobudlelwano bakho njengabantu abahlala nabo.Lapho ungalindeli okuningi okuningi komunye nomunye, kepha kufanele ulale ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo.
Landela imithetho yasekhaya. Ungesabi ukuchibiyela njengoba kudingeka. Akufanele kube khona ukuyekethisa ekwethembekeni.
Okwamanje lapho othile eqala ukuzibandakanya nomunye umuntu, khona-ke ukuhlukaniswa kwecala kwehlulekile.
Ukusinda ukwehlukana kwecala
Yisikhathi esiyinselele sanoma yimuphi umuntu nobudlelwano. Uma nobabili ninomqondo ofanayo wokuthi ninobudlelwano “hiatus” esikhundleni “sedivosi yesilingo,” lapho-ke ninethuba.
Ayikho into efana nesehlukaniso esivivinyweni, umzuzu ohamba ngawo ushiye ubudlelwano ngemuva, bese ubuhlobo buphelile. Musa ukwenza impilo yakho ibe nzima ngokwengeziwe ngokuhlala emngceleni wokungena noma ukuphuma kobuhlobo.
Qiniseka ukuthi ungalokothi ungazinaki izibopho zansuku zonke ezifana nezikweletu, izingane, nemisebenzi yasendlini (uma nisahlala ndawonye). Anicindezelani ukuthi nenze eyabo indima.
Iphuzu lonke lokwehlukana kwecala ukugwema izimpi futhi "zipholile." Lapho nobabili senibuyele esimeni somqondo esamukelekile, lapho-ke ningaxoxa ngokubuyisana.