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- Lapho umzali ephendukela entshisekelweni
- Izinhlobo ezahlukene zezitayela ze-niche-parenting
- Xhuma nezingane zakho nganoma yisiphi isikhathi
- Ukuvikela izingane zakho kunoma yikuphi ukufihla
Ukuba ngumzali osebenzayo akuwona nje umsebenzi, futhi kudinga okungaphezulu kakhulu kwalokho.
Kudinga ukuqeqeshwa okukhulu ukwenza imisebenzi evela ekuqeqesheni uthando nokunakekelwa, ukupakisha i-tiffin yesikole, ukuhlinzeka ngemithombo yokuzijabulisa, nokunye okuningi.
Ngaphambi kokuba ube nezingane, kungenzeka ukuthi wawungacabangi ukuthi ngelinye ilanga uzozibandakanya nokufunda la makhono wokuba ngumzali, futhi noma ngabe ubuzilungiselele, ukuthola la makhono wokuba ngumzali kungathatha isikhathi.
Ngakho-ke, ungaba kanjani ngumzali omuhle, nokuthi ungawathuthukisa kanjani amakhono akho obuzali?
Kufanele usebenzise ulwazi nesipiliyoni sakho sokuba ngumzali ukuhlanganisa uthando lwakho nokuzikhuthaza ukuthi usebenze njengoba uba ngumzali.
Kunamathuba amaningi lapho ungafunda khona izeluleko zokuba ngumzali zokuthuthukisa amakhono akho wokuba ngumzali futhi wenze ukukhuliswa kwengane kukhululeke futhi kukhululeke.
Akukho mncintiswano wokuba ngumzali nothando & nokunakekela ingane yakho, futhi kufanele wenze okuhle kakhulu ngalokho okufundile nalokho ofuna ukukwenza.
Lapho umzali ephendukela entshisekelweni
Ukuthola impumelelo nokugxila kungasiza abantu ukwakha Ubuzali babo ngentshisekelo enkulu ngaphandle kokubheka noma iyiphi inkinga.
Kusukela ezindabeni zentsha kuya ekukhuliseni izingane ezinesifiso esiqinile, itshe elingukhiye lingakusiza ukuthi ube ngongoti futhi uxhumane nezingane zakho.
Maningi kakhulu amathuba okuthuthukisa amakhono akho wokuba ngumzali, kepha ukuba ngumzali kuyinto enjalo lapho ungeke uhlole amakhono akho.
Kuyinkambu yolwazi olusebenzayo oluzonikeza ukugxila ezixazululweni ezinhle kakhulu zokuxazulula izinkinga zezingane zakho nokuthola okukhethekile kwakho.
Lapha ungakhetha isikhungo sokugxila esingasuselwa ezinseleleni ezidlulayo zobuzali, kepha kudinga ukunakwa kwakho izinsuku ezithile.
Ezweni lanamuhla ledijithali, izingane zichitha isikhathi esiningi kude nabazali bazo ngenkathi zifunda emadolobheni noma emazweni ahlukahlukene; ukuxhumana kungenzeka kuphela ngezinto zobuchwepheshe.
Kepha abazali abanothando banakekela ingane yabo ngokucophelela ukuze baqonde isimo sabo nezimo zabo, okuqaphe ngokwanele ukuqonda umhlaba wezingane zabo.
Uzophumelela uma uthando lwakho ngabo luzobandakanya ukuhlonipha izingane kanye nawe uqobo.
Buka uBarbara Coloso, umbhali othengisa kakhulu emikhakheni yokukhulisa izingane, ukufundisa nokuqondisa izikole nombhali wencwadi ethi “Parenting through Crisis” ekhuluma ngokubaluleka kokulalela izingane ngenkathi ukhulisa izingane ngothando:
Izinhlobo ezahlukene zezitayela ze-niche-parenting
Amathani ama-niches ahlukene ezitayela zokubeletha afaka izinto eziningi njengokukhulisa ingane encane nokukhulisa izidingo zengane yakho, noma ngabe ingane ingeyakho noma ingane eyamukelwe.
Kodwa-ke, imininingwane nemicabango ingahle ibe mincane noma ibanzi ngaphansi kwesambulela sokuba ngumzali ngenkathi ufeza izinhloso zakho.
Xhuma nezingane zakho nganoma yisiphi isikhathi
Kwesinye isikhathi indlela engeyona eyendabuko yokukhulisa izingane zakho ingakusiza ukuthi ubone ukuzibophezela ekuqhubekeni namakhono obuzali wokukhulisa ipulatifomu enhle kakhulu yokukhula kwezingane zakho.
Njengabazali, niyokwenza kanjalo babhekane nezinselelo eziningana ngokukhula kwezingane zakho, okungabandakanya njalo lapho izingane zakho zithatha izixazululo ezahlukahlukene zokuxazulula izinkinga zazo.
Kepha kufanele uqaphele futhi uqonde izidingo nezintshisekelo zengane yakho. Ngaleyo ndlela, indaba yakho yokuba ngumzali ingaqondisa izingane zakho ukuthi ziphile okuhlangenwe nakho okukhuthazayo.
Ukuvikela izingane zakho kunoma yikuphi ukufihla
Lokho abantu abakushoyo nemikhuba yabo nakho kuthinta impilo yengane.
Iqiniso ukuthi ukuba ngumzali kucasula izinto ezintsha nemicabango exhumene nabantu namasiko.
Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukunikeza imibono ekhanyayo kwabanye ngalokho okushoyo futhi ofuna ukukuhlanganyela.
Njengomzali, ungabelana ngezinkinga zakho siqu noma ezejwayelekile ukusiza izingane zakho ukuxazulula izinkinga zazo.
Inika amandla ukuqonda kwamalungu emindeni, noma ngabe kungabantu abadala noma abancane.
Njengabazali, kufanele nizibandakanye izindaba zomuntu siqu nemizwelo yakhe kuphela uma ninesifiso sokuyiveza.
Ukuthatha okuhlekisayo kungaguqulwa kube yindlela ophila ngayo enezisekelo kanye nokuzimisela ukwamukela izinto zikhululekile kubo bobabili abazali nezingane.