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- Ukungqubuzana okudinga ubumfihlo nokusondelana
- Isidingo sobumfihlo sichazwa kabi ngomunye umlingani
- Yazi indlela yokulimala nokuxolisa
- Umuzwa wokulimala uvame ukuhlobene nemingcele engaphephile ngokwanele
- Ukungabaza kuholela ekuthandeni ukuzibophezela
- Prakthiza ukuthethelela
- Ukwelashwa kwephethini engasebenzi
Ngokungabaza okwesabekayo kokubonakala, Ngokungaqiniseki ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuze sikhohliswe, Lokho-kungaba ukuthembela nethemba kodwa kungukucabangela nje. ~ Walt Whitman ~
Iningi labantu lilangazelela ukusondelana nokuthandwa okwengeziwe ezimpilweni zabo. Imvamisa bazama ukubhekana nalezi zidingo ngobudlelwano, ikakhulukazi ubudlelwane nomuntu okhethekile noma umlingani. Kepha, kubo bonke ubudlelwano, kunesithiyo esingabonakali enanini noma ezingeni lokusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.
Lapho oyedwa noma bobabili abalingani befika kulowo mkhawulo, izindlela zokuzivikela ezingazi lutho zingena. Iningi lemibhangqwana lilwela ukukhulisa nokujulisa amandla alo okusondelana, kepha ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuzwela kwabo bobabili abalingani kuloyo mkhawulo, ukudedelana, ukulimala kanye nokuqongelelwa kwama-akhawunti kungenzeka kakhulu ukwenzeka.
Ngicabanga ngalowo mkhawulo njenge-quotient ehlangene, imfanelo yokuzalwa yombhangqwana. Noma kunjalo, ngokungafani ne-IQ. ingakhula ngokuzilungiselela ngamabomu nangokujwayelekile.
Ukungqubuzana okudinga ubumfihlo nokusondelana
Isidingo sobumfihlo nokuzimela sisisekelo kakhulu futhi sikhona kithina sonke, njengoba kunesidingo sokuxhuma, isibuko nokusondelana. Ukungqubuzana phakathi kwala maqembu amabili ezidingo kungaholela emzabalazweni futhi mhlawumbe nasekukhuleni.
Ingxoxo yangaphakathi, evame ukungazi lutho, ingasho into efana nokuthi: “Uma ngivumela lo muntu ukuba asondele kimi futhi abheke izidingo zakhe, ngikhaphela izidingo zami. Uma nginakekela izidingo zami futhi ngivikela imingcele yami nginobugovu, noma angikwazi ukuba nabangane. ”
Isidingo sobumfihlo sichazwa kabi ngomunye umlingani
Imibhangqwana eminingi ithuthukisa iphethini okwabelwana ngayo engasebenzi kahle elulaza ukusondelana.
Imvamisa, uma kungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, kususelwa kuzindlela zokuzivikela zabantu. Kuyinsakavukela ukuthi izivikelo ezinjalo ezingazi lutho ziyabonwa ngomunye umlingani futhi zithathwa ngokwazo, zihunyushwe njengokuhlaselwa noma njengokulahlwa, ukunganakwa noma ukwaliwa.
Kunoma ikuphi, kubonakala sengathi bathinta amaphuzu abucayi womunye umlingani futhi bavusa izimpendulo zabo zakudala ezigxile kakhulu ebuntwaneni.
Yazi indlela yokulimala nokuxolisa
Ukungaqondani okunjalo kuvame ukwenzeka lapho omunye noma bobabili abalingani belimala. Kubalulekile ukuzinza kobudlelwano ukuze kufundwe ukubona amaphethini aholela ekulimaleni nasekuxoliseni lapho eqashelwa.
Ukuxolisa kuqinisekisa ngokuphelele ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela zisuka nje ukuthi ukuxolisa akukhona ukuvuma ukuthi unecala. Kunalokho ngukuvuma ukuthi omunye ulimele, kulandelwe ukubonakaliswa kozwela.
Umuzwa wokulimala uvame ukuhlobene nemingcele engaphephile ngokwanele
Umlingani owoniwe uvamise ukusabela ngezenzo ezilimazayo noma amagama aqhubekisela phambili impi futhi andise ibanga. Ukubuyela emuva ekuxhumaneni kudinga ukuxoxisana kabusha ngemingcele, kanye nokuqinisekiswa kokuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni.
Ukuvuleleka ezingxoxweni kuveza ukuqonda ukuthi imingcele ngayinye nokuxhumeka okujulile akuhlangene. Kunalokho zingakhula futhi zijule ndawonye.
Ukungabaza kuholela ekuthandeni ukuzibophezela
Indlela ejwayelekile yokuvikela ukungabaza okuholela ekuthandeni ukwenza. Lapho abantu besocingweni, bezwakalisa ukungabaza ngokusebenzisa amagama, ukushukuma komzimba noma okunye ukuziphatha, kuzamazamisa isisekelo sobudlelwano futhi kuholele ebangeni nasekuzinzileni.
Lapho omunye umlingani ezwakalisa ukungathembi, omunye kungenzeka ahlangabezane nokwenqatshwa noma ukushiywa futhi aphendule ngokungazi ngokuzivikela kwakhe okujwayelekile.
Prakthiza ukuthethelela
Akunakugwenywa ukuthi abalingani bayalimazana. Sonke siyawenza amaphutha, sisho izinto ezingalungile, sithatha izinto ngokwethu noma singaqondi kahle inhloso yomunye. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwenza ukuxolisa nokuthethelela.
Ukufunda ukubona iphethini futhi uma kungenzeka kumise futhi uxolise ngokushesha okukhulu kuyikhono elibalulekile ekulondolozeni lo mbhangqwana.
Ukwelashwa kwephethini engasebenzi
Lapho sikhomba iphethini engasebenzi ngesikhathi seseshini yokwelashwa, futhi bobabili abalingani bangayibona, ngibamema bobabili ukuthi bazame ukuyibiza ngegama lapho kwenzeka. Amaphethini anjalo kungenzeka ukuthi aphindaphinde njalo. Lokho kubenza babe yisikhumbuzo esithembekile somsebenzi walezi zithandani ekwelapheni ubudlelwano bazo.
Lapho omunye umlingani engathi komunye “Othandekayo, ngabe senza njengamanje noma yini ebesikhuluma ngayo kwiseshini yokwelapha edlule? Singazama ukuma sihlangane? ” leyo nkulumo ukuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni futhi ibonwa njengesimemo sokuvuselela noma sokujulisa ukusondelana. Lapho ubuhlungu bukhulu kakhulu, okuwukuphela kwento ongayenza kungaba ukushiya isimo noma uthathe ikhefu.
Uma lokho kwenzeka, ngeluleka imibhangqwana ukuthi izame futhi ifake isitatimende sokuzibophezela. Okuthile okunjengokuthi: “Ngiphatheke kabi ukuhlala lapha, ngizohamba uhambo lwehhafu lehora. Ngiyethemba ukuthi sizokhuluma uma ngibuya. ”
Ukwephula ukuxhumana, kungaba ngokushiya ngokwenyama noma ngokuthula buthule futhi "ukuvimba ngamatshe" kuvame ukuholela ehlazweni, okuwumuzwa omubi kakhulu. Iningi labantu lingenza noma yini ukugwema amahloni. Ngakho-ke ukufaka isitatimende senhloso yokugcina ukuxhumana kunciphisa ihlazo futhi kuvule umnyango wokulungiswa noma ukusondela okukhulu.
UWalt Whitman uqeda inkondlo ngokungabaza ngenothi elinethemba elikhulu kakhulu:
Angikwazi ukuphendula umbuzo wokuvela, noma lowo wobunikazi ngale kwethuna; Kepha ngihamba noma ngihlala ngingenandaba — ngiyaneliseka, Ubambe isandla sami unganelise ngokuphelele.
Lokhu “Ukubamba ngesandla” akudingeki kube okuphelele. Ukwaneliseka okuphelele okuchazwa yinkondlo kuvela ekwazisweni okujulile nokwamukelwa ukuthi noma yibuphi ubuhlobo busekelwe ekuvumelaneni. Ukwamukelwa kuyingxenye yokukhula, kushiya iminyaka yobusha kanye nemibono yabo emuva futhi babe ngabantu abadala. Ngiphinde ngafunda kule migqa yokugcina yenkondlo, ukuzimisela ukuyeka ukuthanda izinto, ukungabaza noma ukusola futhi ngimamukele ngokuphelele injabulo yokwethembana, nobudlelwano obuvuthiwe.
Ukwakhiwa kweTrust kuwumkhuba olula wokwenza izethembiso ezincane nokufunda ukuzigcina. Njengabelaphi, singakhombisa imibhangqwana amathuba ezethembiso ezincane ezanele futhi sibasize bazijwayeze ngokungaguquguquki kuze kube yilapho ukuthembela kuqala ukuba nezimpande.
Ukuvumela ukuba sengozini kukhulisa kancane kancane i-quotient yokusondelana. Kuyesabisa ukuba sengozini njengoba ukuphepha kungenye yezidingo zomuntu eziyisisekelo. Kodwa-ke, umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu wezithandani wenziwa ngqo kuleso sifunda lapho ubungozi kanye nokulimala okuncane kungabuyiselwa ngokuxolisa okuqotho nokubonisa okucacile kokuzibophezela bese kuguqulwa kube ukusondelana.