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- Uyini umfana kamama?
- Ungayibona kanjani umfana kamama
- Izinkinga zomyeni nomamezala - ukubeka imingcele
- 1. Khuluma bese ubeka imingcele
- 2. Gxila kuwe njengonkosikazi nomama ezinganeni zakho
- 3. Veza imizwa yakho kumyeni wakho kodwa yenze kahle
- 4. Ukubekezela okukhulu yilokho okuzobe ukudinga
Uyaziqhenya ngomyeni wakho ngoba muhle futhi uyacabanga, ingasaphathwa eyomnumzane wangempela ezungeze izintokazi.
Uyakwazi ukuhlonipha nokuthi angasho kanjani izinto ezihehayo abesifazane.
Ungumbambisi onjalo futhi uqinisekile ukuthi uyomona ngabangane bakho - uze ubone ukuthi kungani enjalo. Ngemuva kwezinyanga eziningi eshadile, ekugcineni uyabona ukuthi kungani engumnumzane futhi evusa amadlingozi - ushade nomfana kamama!
Manje wenzani?
Uyini umfana kamama?
Unjalo umfana kamama! Uzwile le nkulumo kaninginingi kepha uchaza kanjani ukuthi iyini incazelo yomfana womama wangempela?
Umfana kamama uyingane ewuhlamvu lukanina kodwa eminyakeni edlule, le ncazelo yashintsha yaba owesilisa okhule ngokugcwele osencike kakhulu kunina noma esekhulile.
Ngenkathi ungacabanga ukuthi ayinabungozi noma ikhombisa nje ukuthi indoda ayizimele, empeleni kungadala usongo hhayi nje ngokuvuthwa kwayo kepha futhi nalapho isivele inomndeni wayo.
Indoda esivele ikhule ngokwanele ukuthi ingazithathela izinqumo kepha ivumela umama wayo ukuthi athathe izinqumo zokugcina noma ngabe usenomndeni nakanjani uphakathi kwamadoda anezinkinga zomama.
Ukubhekana nomfana kamama akulula!
Abesifazane abaningi abashade nomunye bangafunga iqiniso lokuthi kunzima ukubhekana nendoda engakwazi ukwenza lutho ngaphandle kokusho kukanina kokugcina.
Ungayibona kanjani umfana kamama
Uzazi kanjani nje izimpawu zomfana kamama emadodeni asekhule ngokugcwele?
Ekuqaleni, ungahle ungaboni ukuthi isoka lakho noma umuntu othandana naye ungumfana kamama oqinisekisiwe. Eqinisweni, bangadlula nje njengomuntu omnandi ngempela nomama wabo futhi abakulesi sigaba sokuqomisana, ubungeke uzibone izimpawu.
Uma usushadile, lesi yisikhathi lapho uzozibuza nje ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nomfana kamama.
Izimpawu zizoqala ukukhombisa, futhi nazi ezinye zezimpawu zokuthi ushade nomfana kamama.
- Isicelo sikamama kuyinto eza kuqala kuye. Ngabe umyeni wakho umatasa kakhulu kuwe kepha uhlala etholakala lapho kubizwa umama wakhe? Ngabe umyeni wakho uyena ohamba naye njalo ukuyothenga, ukhokha izikweletu, nalapho kufanele aye kudokotela?
- Ingabe uyabona kaningi ukuthi umyeni wakho ematasa nefoni yakhe kodwa akadlali ngothando namanye amantombazane, empeleni ekhuluma nomama wakhe, njengezikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ngosuku!
- Okufanele ukwenze lapho umyeni wakho ukhetha umndeni wakhe phezu kwakho nezingane zakho? Uma uzwa ukuthi lokhu yinto okufanele ucabange ngayo, khona-ke ushade nendoda ebingakhetha umama wayo kunomndeni wayo.
- Lapho wenza izinqumo ezinkulu, umyeni wakho kufaka phakathi umbono kanina.
- Okwakho umamezala ukuvakasha kaningi futhi wenza izinguquko azithandayo ekhaya lakho.
- Ngabe umyeni wakho noma isoka lesikhathi eside uhlala njalo akuqhathanise nomama wakhe? Uyakutshela ukuthi i-steak yakho yehluke kanjani ngokungafani nomama wakhe?
- “Umamezala wami wenza sengathi ushade nomyeni wami,” uma uzithole usho lawa mazwi kungenzeka ukuthi, ushade nomfana kamama.
- Okokugcina, uhlala ngasekhaya likanina noma empeleni uhlala naye.
Izinkinga zomyeni nomamezala - ukubeka imingcele
Uma ungakashadi kodwa usuvele usebudlelwaneni obungathi sína, vele, ungafuna ukwazi ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesoka lomfana womama futhi wenze iphuzu.
Awufuni ukuzizwa sengathi uyisondo lesithathu lapha, akunjalo?
Kodwa-ke, umbuzo wangempela lapha ukuthi, ngaphambi kokuba izinkinga zomyeni nomkhwekazi ziphume esandleni, sifuna ukwazi ukuthi singamguqula kanjani umfana kamama futhi uzitholele indoda uzenzele yena kanye nawe - umndeni wakhe.
Iningi labesifazane lingacabanga ukuthi ukumvumela akhethe futhi ambelesele ngokuthi kufanele ayeke kanjani ukuba ngumfana kamama kuyasebenza, kepha lokhu akuyona indlela ekahle ngoba lokhu kuzodala ukulimala kwakhe, uzolimala namagama usho futhi uzokwakha ukungezwani nentukuthelo.
Futhi, umama wakhe naye uzokuthola, ngakho-ke lokho kuzodala ezinye izinkinga.
1. Khuluma bese ubeka imingcele
Yazisa umyeni wakho ukuthi uyaqonda futhi uzokuhlonipha ukubophezeleka kwakhe nomama wakhe kepha naye udinga ukukulungisela wena nezingane uma unakho.
Akudingeki uhlale ulungele umamezala wakho njengoba kwenza umyeni wakho. Esikhundleni salokho, uma befuna ukudla ndawonye noma befuna ukuphuma, ungala ngenhlonipho.
2. Gxila kuwe njengonkosikazi nomama ezinganeni zakho
Endleleni, khuluma nomyeni wakho mayelana nokuthi kufanele futhi abeke imingcele ethile ngoba lokhu kungumndeni wakho hhayi insimu yabomama bakhe.
Ukukhawulela ukulawula kwakhe ikhaya lakho kuzokhulula kanye nokuvula amehlo ukuthi uyindlovukazi yekhaya lakho.
3. Veza imizwa yakho kumyeni wakho kodwa yenze kahle
Ungabi ngumuntu omubi kulesi simo.
Ungenza umamezala wakho ubungani futhi ukhulume ngokukhulisa imindeni. Ungakhuluma futhi nomyeni wakho ngokuqhathanisa nokuthi akukuhle ngempela ukwenza lokho - futhi yenza lezi zinto kahle.
4. Ukubekezela okukhulu yilokho okuzobe ukudinga
Njengegama elithi mfana kamama, kungahle kubonakale sengathi umyeni wakho usengumfana omncane othanda kakhulu futhi oncike kunina. Lokhu yinto ozoyishintsha kancane kancane kodwa uyenze kancane.
A umfana kamama akuyona yonke into embi leyo, empeleni, kumenza abe nozwela futhi ahloniphe abantu.
Kwesinye isikhathi nje, umcabango wokuba nomncintiswano wokumnaka, ukungqubuzana phakathi kukankosikazi nomamezala kuba nengcindezi enkulu kepha kuseyinto ongasebenza kuyo nakanjani - phela ungumndeni.