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- Umbhangqwana ufika kanjani ezingeni lokuhlukana
- Ukuhlukana kusebenza kanjani
- Imiphumela yokwehlukana
- Ungazenzela kanjani okuhle ngokuhlukana
Kuyini ngempela ukwehlukana komshado? Njenganoma iyiphi enye indaba yothando nobudlelwano, impendulo ayilula kangako. Empeleni, yisimo lapho abashadikazi behlukana kepha abahlali behlukanisa. Ama-nuances wenqubo maningi. Ukuqala embuzweni omkhulu - ukuthi ukwahlukana kuzophela ngesehlukaniso noma cha, emininingwaneni emincane kakhulu, njengokuthi ngubani ozothatha inqwaba elandelayo yokuhlanza okomile.
Le ndatshana izokudlulisa konke lokhu futhi ikubonise ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani ukwahlukana kube yinto enhle, noma ngabe kunjani kini njengombhangqwana.
Umbhangqwana ufika kanjani ezingeni lokuhlukana
Okuye kwaba yindinganiso ukuthi abashadile bazofika kude kakhulu nenjabulo yomshado ukuthi ngeke besakwazi ukubekezelelana. Lapho-ke, uma kunikezwe ukuthi kuvame ukuba nezingane nempahla ethintekayo, bazothatha isinqumo sokuthi bahlukane kuqala ukuze kungadingeki babukane, kodwa badivose kamuva. Noma, okuvame kakhulu, omunye wabashadikazi angahamba ngesankahlu somnyango phakathi kwenye ingxabano futhi angabe esabuya.
Futhi lokhu kusenzeka namanje. Kakhulu. Umshado uyindawo ephephile cishe kuwo wonke umuntu oshadile, noma ngabe ubudlelwano bungaba nobuthi obungakanani. Kuyinto ejwayelekile, noma ngabe kungukuhlambalaza noma ubuhlungu okujwayele kangangoba wesaba ukusuka. Lapho kuwumndeni onezingane, izinhlelo ezabiwe, kanye nezimali, kunzima kakhulu ukwahlukanisa. Kungakho abaningi begcina behlukene.
Kodwa-ke, kunesinye futhi isimo. Noma kungukuhamba okuyinselele futhi kwesinye isikhathi okuyingozi, kwezinye izimo, ukwahlukana kusetshenziswa njengethuluzi lokwelapha. Lapho umbhangqwana ungasindwa ukungathembani okukhulu nokungazethembi, futhi owelapha ehlola ukuthi bazohlomula ngesikhathi esithile esakhayo behlukene, ukwahlukana ngokwelashwa kungaba yindlela enconyelwe abashadile.
Ukuhlukana kusebenza kanjani
Njengoba sesishilo, ukwehlukana akufani nesehlukaniso. Lokho kusho ukuthi izinto ebezingenakulunga emshadweni nazo ngeke zilunge ngokwahlukana. Isibonelo, ukwahlukana akusona isaba sanoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlukumeza, ngamazwi, ngengqondo, ngokomzwelo, ngokomzimba, noma ngokocansi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwahlukana akufanele kuthathwe njengekhadi eliluhlaza lezindaba zangaphandle komshado, yize abantu abaningi abahlukene bathambekele ekucabangeni ngaleyo ndlela. Ukweqa okunjalo nakanjani kuzodala ezinye izinkinga emshadweni osuvele unezinkinga. Uma ukubona abanye abantu kuyisisusa sakho esikhulu sokwehlukana, kufanele ungafihli lutho ngakho futhi uxoxe ngakho noshade naye.
Ukuze ukwahlukana kusebenze kahle (kungakhathalekile ukuthi izithandani zizogcina zibuyelana yini noma cha), imfuneko ephambili ukuthi iqonde futhi ihloniphe. Vumelanani ngemithetho. Uzoxhumana kanjani futhi kangaki? Ingabe uzomfaka umlamuli wangaphandle? Ngabe uya ocansini noma uzoya ezinsukwini? Ingabe uvunyelwe ukuthi uvele endaweni yomunye nomunye?
Imiphumela yokwehlukana
Empeleni, kunemiphumela emibili kuphela engaba khona - nizophinde nibuyelane noma nithole isehlukaniso (noma nihlale nihlukene kodwa ningenanhloso yokubuyelana). Uma nibuyisana, kukhona izindlela ezimbili - kungaba umshado othuthukisiwe noma ukuhlukunyezwa okufanayo okudala. Uma uthola isehlukaniso, ungasifaka njengabantu abathandanayo abathandanayo nabanenhlonipho noma ugcine izindlela ezifanayo ezingenampilo zokukhulumisana.
Yikuphi kulawa amacala akho okuzoncika entweni eyodwa eyinhloko. Yindlela osisebenzise ngayo isikhathi osichithe ngokwehlukana. Uma ubusebenzela amakhono akho okuxhumana, nakubuthakathaka bakho namaphutha akho, kunethuba lokuthi ubudlelwano bakho obusha buzoba ngcono kakhulu kunakuqala, kungakhathalekile ukuthi nizohlala ndawonye noma cha.
Ungazenzela kanjani okuhle ngokuhlukana
Okusiholela embuzweni wokugcina. Abantu ngokwehlukana bangachuma kule nkathi ebudlelwaneni babo, noma ngabe babuyela emshadweni wabo noma cha. Uma usebenzisa isikhathi uhlukane njengendlela yokuzithuthukisa wena, impilo yakho, nobudlelwano bakho, ungahle ugcine usithi ukwahlukana yinto enhle kakhulu eyenzeke kuwe.
Ukuthuthukisa ukucabanga kufakazele ukuthi kungenye yezinto ezibalulekile zomshado ojabulisayo, kanye nokuphila okunenjongo njengomuntu ngamunye. Ngakho-ke, jula ujule, bese uthola ukuqonda ukuthi ungubani wena nanjengabantu abashadile. Sebenzela ukubona abanye ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Thola indlela yokuphila kumzuzu wamanje bese ususa ukucasuka okudlule noma izinkathazo zesikhathi esizayo.