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- Ukulungiselela ukwelulekwa ngomshado
- Isazi sokuqoqa imibuzo ebalulekile yokwelulekwa ngomshado
- Ukuhamba kokugcina
Ukulungiselela ukwelulekwa ngomshado
Uma ukhathazekile ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho sebufike ezingeni lokungabuyeli, okugcwele izingxabano, ukwelulekwa ngemishado kungakusiza wakhe kabusha umshado ojabulisayo.
Kodwa-ke, umshado onezingxabano usho ukuthi wena noshade naye anikho esimweni esihle kakhulu sokuzihlelela futhi nize nemibuzo efanelekile enizoyibuza ngesikhathi sokululekwa ngomshado.
Njengoba imizwa eminingi igcwele ebudlelwaneni obunenkinga, ungavele ukhohlwe okufanele ukubuze, bese ugcina ubambe iqhwa ebuchosheni esimisweni sokululekwa ngomshado.
Isinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu sokwenza okungcono kakhulu esimisweni sokweluleka ngomshado ukulungiselela ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Futhi yingakho silungiselele ukubuthana kochwepheshe emibuzweni ebaluleke kakhulu yokweluleka ngomshado ukubuza oshade naye.
Isazi sokuqoqa imibuzo ebalulekile yokwelulekwa ngomshado
Ochwepheshe uqobo lwabo baveza imibuzo efanelekile yokweluleka ngomshado okufanele ubuze oshade naye nokuthi lokhu kungakusiza kanjani ukuveza ukukhathazeka kwakho nokuthola izixazululo ezinkingeni zakho zomshado.
UKEVIN FLEMING, Ph.D.
Kwake kwathiwa ngu-CS Lewis ukuthi umshado ofanele lapho ungaya kumlingani wakho bese uthi, "Ngiyakuthanda njengoba unjalo futhi ngithanda ukuthi ungahlali unjalo."
Futhi-ke, emsebenzini wami, kuyisihluthulelo ukufinyelela kule 'dialectic' yenguquko nokungashintshi, lapho kuhlangana khona ukuhlakanipha phakathi kwabantu ababili kubantu abaningi abafuna ukubikezela ukuthi bazothandwa njengoba benjalo nokukhula / ukukhula yemibono.
Ngakho-ke nazi izinhlamvu zami zeleveli yemeta yami.
Kunemibuzo ngaphakathi kwemibuzo efinyelela emazingeni angakhululeki kodwa adingekayo weqiniso sonke esivame ukungawanaki esigabeni sokusetha sokuqomisana
- "Uyini umthunzi walokhu okuthandayo ngami?"
- “Ngikwenza kanjani ukungithanda kube nzima kuwe?”
- "Uma kukhona ukucasulwa ngami ngaphansi kwe-radar kulo mshado, kungaba kuphi?"
- “Yikuphi ukubophela kabili engikubeka lapho? Okusho ukuthi, ngibuza kanjani / ngisho into eyodwa kodwa ngikhiphele okunye? ”
- “Yini engikukhumbulile mayelana nokuthi ungubani?”
U-ANGELA AMBROSIA, Umqeqeshi Wobudlelwano
Nayi iminikelo yami;
- Yini engingayenza noma engingayisho ukuze uzizwe ukhululekile?
- Lapho uzizwa ungakhululekile, iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphendula kimi?
Ufunani ebudlelwaneni bethu? Ungifunani? Kwakho?
UDAVID RISPOLI, uMeluleki
Kunezizathu ezimbili zokuthi imibhangqwana ifune ukwelulekwa ngemishado. Isizathu esiyinhloko ukuthi umshado usenkingeni futhi umlingani oyedwa futhi kwesinye isikhathi bobabili, bafuna ubudlelwano bube ngcono.
Imvamisa, umuntu oyedwa usevele uhlolile ebudlelwaneni, futhi ukwelulekwa kuthathwa njengomzamo wokugcina wokuvikela umshado.
Isizathu sesibili sokuthi abanye abashadikazi bafune ukwelulekwa ngemishado ukuthi bafuna ukuthuthukela emshadweni osuvele uqinile.
Noma ngabe kunasizathu sini sokwelulekwa, maqondana nemibuzo ethi “Imibuzo Yokululekwa Ngemishado Ongayibuza Oshade Naye”, nazi ezintathu zami eziphezulu:
- Ukube lesi sehlakalo sokwelulekwa ngemishado besizophumelela, futhi ekupheleni kwesikhathi sethu kuMeluleki Womshado imishado yethu ibiyinto enhle, ngabe umshado wethu ubukeka kanjani?
- Ngabe ucabanga ukuthi umshado wethu ukude kangakanani kulesi sithombe somshado esimangazayo esisidwebe embuzweni wokuqala?
- Yisiphi isenzo esisodwa esingasithatha ngokuhlanganyela namuhla ukusisondeza esithombeni esisidwebe embuzweni wokuqala?
Imishado ayigcinwa nakubeluleki bemishado noma emahhovisi abaqeqeshi bemishado, iyasindiswa njengoba imibhangqwana ithatha izimiso ezizifundayo futhi izisebenzise ngokuzikhandla ekugayeni kwansuku zonke kobuhlobo babo.
Kungakho-ke nginikela indlela ebheke phambili kakhulu, ebheke esenzweni, nenhle ekuqeqesheni umshado. Angikaze ngibone noma ngubani enza ngcono noma asindise umshado wabo ngokubuka esibukweni sokubuka ngemuva.
UNICOLE GIBSON, Wezokwelapha Nezomndeni
Njengomelaphi onelayisense emshadweni nasemndenini, nowesifazane oshadile uqobo lwami, ngithole ukuthi kunemibuzo eminingi ephakamayo lapho kucatshangelwa ukwelulekwa ngemishado futhi nalapho ukwelulekwa ngomshado.
Enye yezinto engizithandayo isebenza nemibhangqwana futhi ngivame ukutshela lezi zithandani ukuthi ngisebenza nalokho, iphuzu lokwelulekwa ngomshado, emehlweni ami, akukhona nje ukuzigcina zihlangene kodwa kunalokho ukuthola ukuthi ziletha ini ubudlelwano obudinga ukubhekelwa ngoba noma yini abayenzayo kulobu budlelwano, bazoyenza kobulandelayo, uma kukhona obulandelayo.
Ngakho-ke nansi imibuzo embalwa yokweluleka ngomshado ongayibuza oshade naye:
Uzizwa kanjani ngegama elithi "ukusondelana"?
Kusho ukuthini ukuthi “ukusondelana” kuwe, okusho ukuthi yini ezokukhomba kuwe ukuthi wazi ukuthi uhlanganyela “ekusondeleni”?
Uyini umbono wakho ngenkolo?
Uzizwa kanjani ngezingane (okusho ukuthi ufuna izingane?)
Uma izinto zihlala zifana ncamashi ebudlelwaneni bethu, ungajabula ngalokho?
Ingabe uzibheka njengomuntu ongenisa isingeniso noma ongaphezulu?
Uma singavuka kusasa futhi zonke "izinkinga" esinazo emshadweni wethu zilungisiwe, lokho bekuyobukeka kanjani?
Wazi kanjani ukuthi uyangithanda?
Wazi kanjani ukuthi ngiyakuthanda?
Emndenini wakho okhulele kuwo, wawubukeka kanjani umshado?
Ithini imibono yakho ngezezimali?
Yonke le mibuzo iyaqondisisa kubo bobabili abashadikazi nakumeluleki wemishado ngoba inkolo, ezezimali, izingane, ukukhuliswa komndeni, ukusondelana, uhlobo lobuntu, nemibono yothando konke kuyizinto ezinkulu okufanele kubhekwane nazo emshadweni.
USUSAN WINTER, Umqeqeshi Wobudlelwano
Yini osaba ukungitshela yona?
Yiluphi ulwazi lwezezimali, lwezocansi noma lokuziphatha osaba ukuluhlanganyela nami ngoba wesaba ukuphendula kwami?
Ingabe kukhona ongifihlela khona, ucabanga ukuthi ngizokwahlulela noma ngifuna ukukushiya?
Ubudlelwano budinga indawo ephephile 'yokukhuluma iqiniso.'
Imigoqo engokomzwelo iyakhiwa lapho singeke sibe yithi uqobo futhi sesabe oshade naye ngokwazi ukuthi singobani nokuthi siyini.
Ukuhamba kokugcina
Le mibuzo ewusizo yokweluleka ngemishado iyisiqalo esihle sokwenza kanye neminye imibuzo eqondene nobudlelwano bakho. Bheka lezi!