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- Isinyathelo 1: Iso emzimbeni
- Isinyathelo 2: Iso ngeso
- Isinyathelo 3: Izwi elizwakala
- Isinyathelo 4: Isandla ngesandla
- Izinyathelo 5 & 6: Ingalo ihlombe, nengalo okhalweni
- Izinyathelo 7 & 8: Umlomo emlonyeni nesandla ekhanda
- Isinyathelo 9: Isandla emzimbeni
- Isinyathelo 10: Umlomo To torso
- Izinyathelo 11: Umthetho wesiphetho sokugcina
Kuyini ukusondelana ngokomzimba? Buyini ubuhlobo bomzimba? Le mibuzo ingaba nedlanzana labantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho kwezocansi okulinganiselwe noma abangenakho nhlobo. Ukuqonda izigaba zokusondelana ebudlelwaneni kanye nokwakha amazinga amasha okusondelana ebudlelwaneni kubaluleke kakhulu kwabashadile.
Izigaba zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni inqubo echaza izinyathelo esidlula kuzo ngokwemvelo njengoba sikhulisa amazinga ethu okusondelana nabalingani bethu bezothando.
Izinyathelo ziqala ukuba ziqonde ngqo futhi zibukeke zijwayelekile phakathi kwabantu ongabazi - futhi zikhule zibe yizenzo ezisondelene kakhulu phakathi kocansi - ucansi.
Into enhle ngezigaba zokusondelana ngokomzimba ukuthi kuyisiqondisi esihle kakhulu sokuhlola ukuthi ukuphi ekwakhiweni kobudlelwano.
Futhi kungakusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi ungabudlulisa kanjani ubudlelwano bakho namazinga amasha okusondelana ngokomzimba uma kubonakala kuhamba kancane, noma umlingani wakho ebonakala enamahloni kakhulu. Ukuyisebenzisa ufunda izinyathelo ezingokomzimba ebuhlotsheni futhi uhambe kamnandi kuzo nomlingani wakho.
Kepha ngaphambi kokuthi sidlulele kule ncazelo, kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ukuthi ngenkathi izigaba zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni zingakusiza ukuthi uzizwe uqiniseka ngokuqonda imingcele yakho neyomlingani wakho mayelana nokusondelana, umlingani wakho kungenzeka angabi nalo lolo lwazi olukhethekile.
Kungenzeka bangazethembi, noma bazimisele ukuthuthuka ngezigaba zokusondelana ngangokunokwenzeka. Nawa amathiphu ambalwa wokuthi ungakwakha kanjani ukusondelana ebudlelwaneni obusha nokuthi ungabuthatha kanjani ubuhlobo uye ezingeni elilandelayo ngokomzimba.
Dala ukuxhumana okuthembekile ngaso sonke isikhathi
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungafaki intando yakho kwabanye noma ngabe ucwaningiswe noma ufunde kangakanani. Ngakho-ke, ukuze izigaba zokusondelana ngokomzimba zisebenze ebudlelwaneni obusha, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha umlingani wakho futhi nisebenzele ukwakha ukuxhumana okuvulekile nokwethembeka ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ngenkathi uhlonipha ukuthi isikhathi esinqunyelwe umlingani wakho ezungeze ukuthuthukiswa kobudlelwano bungase buhluke kakhulu kwesakho. Ukubekezela kungadingeka.
Isinyathelo 1: Iso emzimbeni
Isinyathelo sokuqala ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni 'iso emzimbeni'. Lona umbono wokuqala, lapho uqaphela umzimba womuntu. Uma ufuna ukudlulela esigabeni esilandelayo, uzodlula kulesi sinyathelo kuqala.
Futhi uma ufuna ukukhombisa intshisekelo yothando kothile bese ubabona bekuhambisa amehlo akho emzimbeni wabo. Uma zibonisa okufanayo kuwe, bese udlulela esinyathelweni esilandelayo, uyazi ukuthi uthole umuntu onentshisekelo kuwe.
Isinyathelo 2: Iso ngeso
Isinyathelo sesibili ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni ‘iso neso’ - Uma usudlulile esinyathelweni sokuqala, futhi manje senibheke emehlweni omunye nomunye, siyakuhalalisela! Ukulungele ukuhlola isinyathelo esilandelayo.
Khumbula, uma ufuna ukukhombisa umuntu ukuthi unentshisekelo kuye, qiniseka ukubamba iso lakhe ngemuva kokuhlola umzimba wabo!
Isinyathelo 3: Izwi elizwakala
Isinyathelo sesithathu ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni ‘yi-Voice to Voice’ - Manje senike nahlolisisana, futhi nixhumane emehlweni, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukukhuluma omunye nomunye.
Uma uthuthukela ezinyathelweni zesikhathi esizayo ngaphandle kwalesi sigaba, kuzokwenza umuntu wakho onentshisekelo azizwe engakhululekile. Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba uthinte lowo muntu, qala ingxoxo!
Lesi yisigaba lapho ukuqhubeka kwakho kungahle kume khona, ukusondelana akuqinisekisiwe. Ungahle ungadluli sawubona, uma ungadluli sawubona, uyeke uhambe uye kumuntu olandelayo, ozokuthola uheha njengoba wenza kubo.
Isinyathelo 4: Isandla ngesandla
Isinyathelo sesine ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni 'Hand to hand (noma ingalo)' - Manje ukuqhubeka kwezigaba kungaqala ukwehla. Izigaba ezintathu zokuqala zingenzeka ngokushesha, kepha awufuni ukushesha ngokushesha uthinte ingalo yomuntu ongamazi, noma isandla.
Uzodinga ukuqhubeka nengxoxo, uthathe isikhathi sokwazana nokwakha ukuxhumana kwakho nobungane ngaphambi kokuthi uqale uthinte.
Lapho uzizwa ukulungele ukubona ukuthi umuntu wakho onentshisekelo unendaba nawe, zama ukubamba noma ukuhlola isandla sakhe ngokunganaki.
Noma ukuxubha / ukuthinta ingalo yabo ngobumnene engxoxweni, vumela ukuthinta kwakho kuhlale umzuzwana isikhathi eside kakhulu (kepha hhayi ngendlela exakile!) Futhi uqaphele ukubona ukuthi basabela kahle yini kulesi senzo. Bangase bakuthinte futhi.
Lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi nobabili ninentshisekelo komunye nomunye. Uma umuntu wakho onentshisekelo engakuthinti emuva futhi ebukeka ekhubekile noma engaphathekile kahle ngokuthinta kwakho, kungadingeka ukuthi uthathe isikhashana esiteji sokukhuluma ngaphambi kokuba lowo muntu akulungele ukuqhubeka.
Izinyathelo 5 & 6: Ingalo ihlombe, nengalo okhalweni
Isinyathelo sesihlanu nesesithupha ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni yi-'Arm to Beer kanye 'ne-Arm to Waist' '.
Ukuqhubekela phambili kulezi zigaba kuzokhombisa ukukhanya okuluhlaza kokunye okuthuthuka kakhulu.
Noma ngabe umazi kahle umuntu (njengomngani), ubungani benu bungasondelana ngokwanele ukuthi ningathintana ngale ndlela ngaphandle kwanoma yini ebhekiswe kwezothando.
Ungayifundi kabi imiyalezo.
Uma ungaqiniseki, khuluma ngakho, umlingani wakho wesithakazelo kungenzeka ajabule ngokuthi ubahloniphe ngokwanele ukuba uxoxe ngakho nabo!
Uma ukwazile ukufika ezigabeni zokubamba ngesandla bese udlulela kulesi sigaba, mhlawumbe ubhekise ekusondeleni kothando.
Uma ufikile lapha, ungacabanga ukuthi awukho endaweni yomngani nokuthi ukuqabula kukumakhadi esikhathini esithile maduzane! Izinyathelo ezimbili ezilandelayo zazizokhulisa izigaba zokuqabulana ebudlelwaneni.
Izinyathelo 7 & 8: Umlomo emlonyeni nesandla ekhanda
Isinyathelo sesikhombisa nesesishiyagalombili ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni - ‘umlomo nomlomo; futhi 'isandla ekhanda.' Uma uzithola ulapha, usufike phakathi nezinyathelo. Manje yisikhathi sokungena ukuze uqabule.
Ungahlola ukuthi ngabe lokhu kungukuphepha ngokufunda izigaba ezingenhla bese ubheka ukuthi uthuthukile ngazo. Yama phambili ukuze uqabule umlingani wakho futhi uma behambisana nakho, jabulela umzuzu.
Okuqhamuka ngemuva kokuqabulana ebudlelwaneni yisinyathelo 8, ukuthuthela kusinyathelo 8 kulula kakhulu kusuka kusinyathelo 7 futhi kuvame ukwenzeka ngesikhathi sokuqabulana. Leso sigaba esilandelayo okufanele sisilindele ukuthi 'sibhekane ngamakhanda.'
Uma ungabeki isandla sakho ekhanda labalingani bakho ngokuvamile, manje yisikhathi sokuzama. Imiyalezo engezansi izosiza umlingani wakho azizwe ekhululekile futhi eqondiswa nguwe.
Kepha uma kulapho ofuna ukuma khona, noma udinga ukuma, yenza kanjalo. Ungacabangi ukuthi kufanele udlule kulezi zigaba ezilandelayo zokusondelana ngokomzimba, noma yiziphi izigaba ngokushesha.
Kungase kube yisikhathi ngaphambi kokuba wena noma umlingani wakho akulungele ukuqhubekela phambili, futhi kubalulekile ukwamukela ukuthi ezinye izinto zingavele ziphele ekuqabulaneni.
Isinyathelo 9: Isandla emzimbeni
Isinyathelo sesishiyagalolunye ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni - 'isandla emzimbeni.' Lesi yisiqalo salokho esingakubheka njengokuhlangana kocansi kanye nokuqala kokudlala kwangaphambili.
Uma umlingani wakho ezimisele, ungathatha isikhathi ukuhlola imizimba yomunye nomunye. Uma nobabili nenza kanjalo, ningacabanga ukuthi nisanda kweqa isigaba sesishiyagalolunye.
Isinyathelo 10: Umlomo To torso
Isinyathelo seshumi ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni - 'umlomo esihlungwini,' futhi kulesi sigaba lapho imizwa iqala ukuba yimbi kakhulu futhi ibe nobulili. Uzokwazi ukuthi ngabe kulungile ukuqhubeka, uma ukwazile ukususa izingubo okhalweni phezulu, futhi umuntu ukuvumela ukuthi wenze njalo.
Ukhiye ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ukuqhubeka kancane nangokuhlonipha ukuze unikeze umlingani wakho ithuba lokuma uma kudingeka.
Vele, kulungile ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi ume ubuyele emuva nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, noma kunjalo, uma uqhubeka ngale kwalesi sigaba, ungakuthola kunzima ngoba kungaba nzima ukukwenza ngaphandle kokudida omunye umlingani.
Izinyathelo 11: Umthetho wesiphetho sokugcina
Thatha isikhathi sakho uthuthuke ngesinyathelo sokugcina ezigabeni zokusondelana ngokomzimba ebudlelwaneni. Uma ningenzi ukushesha ukufinyelela esisekelweni sokugcina futhi isipiliyoni sizoba mnandi futhi sijabulise nobabili.
Ngalesi sigaba, uma be nihloniphana futhi ningagijimanga, niyobe futhi niveza ukwethembana nokusondelana okungagcini ngokocansi kuphela, futhi lokho kuzokhulisa ukusondelana ngokomzimba phakathi kwenu.
Ungaqhubeka noma ungaqhubeki ngazo zonke izinyathelo zocansi ebudlelwaneni nomlingani wakho ngokuzayo.
Kodwa-ke, uma nithola ukuthi niyathandana, kepha izinto zomile engxenyeni yezocansi ebudlelwaneni bakho, buyela ezigabeni zangaphambili zobudlelwano bakho obuseduze futhi uthole indlela yokuthuthuka ngokusebenzisa izinyathelo futhi. Kuzokusiza ukuvuselela noma yikuphi ukuthanda okulahlekile.