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- Ngabe ubudlelwano obuphukile bungalungiswa?
- 1. Thatha umthwalo omkhulu
- 2. Zimisele ukwenza noma yini edingekayo ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo bakho
- 3. Dala isikhathi esibekiwe
- 4. Thola ukwesekwa ngaphandle ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo bakho
Lapho ubudlelwano bakho sebunqenqemeni lokubhujiswa, bungangethusa, bube namandla ngokweqile, futhi buhlungu kakhulu. Kungaba futhi yisikhathi esivuthiwe soguquko. Kungokwemvelo yomuntu: lapho kufanele silahlekelwe kakhulu, kulapho sizimisele khona kakhulu ukushintsha.
Ngabe ubudlelwano obuphukile bungalungiswa?
Iningi lemibhangqwana alikaze lifinyelele ebudlelwaneni babo, ngakho-ke likhona ithemba. Ngakho-ke, ingabe ubudlelwano bakho bungasindiswa? Nakhu okumele ukwenze, uma uzithola ubuza ukuthi, “ubusindisa kanjani ubuhlobo obufayo?”
Okokuqala, ukuze ulondoloze ubudlelwano bakho, kubalulekile ukuthi usebenzise la macebiso ama-4 abalulekile ngokushesha:
1. Thatha umthwalo omkhulu
Yize ukuzigqaja kwakho kungamelana nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, futhi ungahle ukhathazeke ngokuveza ubuthakathaka bakho bese uziphonsa ngaphansi kwebhasi, okuphambene nalokho kuyiqiniso uma ufuna ukusindisa ubudlelwano bakho.
Ukuzimisela kwakho ukuba neqhaza ekunciphiseni ubudlelwano bakho kuzoholela ekutheni bakuhloniphe kakhulu.Kudinga isibindi nobuqotho ukusho amaphutha ethu.
Kuyabasiza nokuthi bathembe amandla akho okushintsha. Uma wazi ukuthi wenzeni okungasebenzanga, amathuba aphakeme kakhulu kuwe wokukhula ngezindlela abazidingayo.
Ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo kuphinde kukhulule umlingani wakho ekucabangeni ukuthi badinga ukukhomba lezi zinto kaninginingi. Uma usuyitholile, abadingi ukuthi balwe kanzima ukuze uvuke futhi uqonde ukukhathazeka kwabo.
Yini obungayenza ngokuhlukile ukuthola imiphumela ehlukile?
Xolisa ngokukhululekile uma ufuna ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho. Ithi ngiyaxolisa.
Zwelana nokuthi ngabe lokhu kumthinte kanjani umlingani wakho. Bona ukuthi ungenza kanjani kubo futhi wenze izinto ngokuhlukile ekuqhubekeleni phambili.
Beka izivikelo zakho phansi. Yiba sengozini futhi uthobeke njengoba wenza lesi sinyathelo.
2. Zimisele ukwenza noma yini edingekayo ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo bakho
Ngemuva kokuthi uthathe isibopho sanoma yimaphi amagama nezenzo ezingasizi osho futhi wazenza, zimisele ngokuphelele ukwenza noma yini edingekayo ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono kunakuqala.
Esikhathini esedlule, uke waba nezikhathi lapho ubuzibophezele kakhudlwana ekulungeni kunokujabula nokuxhuma. Noma mhlawumbe ubuzinikele kakhulu ku-ego yakho kunasenhliziyweni yomlingani wakho. Noma mhlawumbe ubuzimisele kakhulu ekuhlangabezaneni nezidingo zakho kunokuqinisekisa ukuthi izidingo zobudlelwano ziyahlonishwa.
Isikhathi sokushintsha lokhu futhi ungene konke ekwenzeni noma yini edingekayo ukuze uthando lwakho lukhule lube yimo yalo enkulu. Londoloza ubudlelwano bakho futhi wenze ubudlelwane bakho buhle ngendlela engavimbeleki kumlingani wakho ukuze afune ukubukhetha - nawe - kaninginingi.
3. Dala isikhathi esibekiwe
Yiziphi izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni, lapho busemaphethelweni okubhidlika?
Lapho imibhangqwana isemaphethelweni okwehlukana noma isehlukaniso, futhi omunye wenu ebuza izinto ngempela, kungasiza ukubeka isikhathi sokuthi ubacela ukuthi bacabangele isikhathi esingakanani.
Kungenzeka kuthathe isenzeko esikhulu noma izinyanga noma iminyaka ukufika endaweni lapho bezizwa bekulungele khona ukushiya ubudlelwano. Ngakho-ke, kungabonakala kukhanga kakhulu ukubacela ukuthi bakunikeze izinyanga ezintathu zokwenza ushintsho olukhulu, kunokuba ubacele unomphela ukuthi baphinde bahlole isifiso sabo sokuhamba.
Ngemuva kwalokho, ngaphezu kwalezi zinyanga ezintathu (noma noma yisiphi isikhathi esibekiwe osibekile), ngena ungene wenze konke okudingekayo ukuze ukhule, mathupha nindawonye.
4. Thola ukwesekwa ngaphandle ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo bakho
Akunandaba ukuthi ungaba nozwelo noma uphumelele kangakanani kwezinye izindawo zempilo, akukho lutho olufana nobudlelwano bethu bezothando ukuvusa ukwesaba, izinselelo, amanxeba, ukungavikeleki nobuthakathaka bethu obukhulu.
Kulula futhi ukuba nezindawo ezingaboni, unamathele emaphethini athile, futhi uxhumane ngezinto ngezindlela eziholela ekuzweleni okubi ngemuva kokukhuluma, kunokuba ngcono.
Ukuba neqembu lesithathu elingathathi hlangothi - noma ngabe liyincwadi, isifundo sevidiyo, noma umeluleki - kungenza umehluko.
Ukuwela othandweni kulula futhi noma ngubani angakwenza, kepha ukuba nobudlelwano obuchumayo besikhathi eside kudinga i-skillset eyingqayizivele bambalwa kakhulu abantu abanayo. Kunabantu abancane abayizibonelo, futhi iningi lethu alikaze lizifunde lezi zinto sikhula.
Ngakho-ke, ukonga ubudlelwano bakho, yiba necebo. Ngokuholwa nangamathuluzi, ungasheshisa ukukhula kwakho.
Uma ulandela lezi zinyathelo ezine, kuzokusiza ukuthi unyakazise izinto (kunokubhidliza izinto) bese kuguqula lokhu kubonakala kungukuqhekeka kwangempela.