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- Gcina ingxabano kuwe
- Hlola izidingo zakho ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzwelo
- Hlonipha umuntu owawushade naye
- Yazisa izingane zakho ngemininingwane edingekayo bese weqa idrama
- Yenza izinqumo ezigcizelelayo
- Yamukela amacala kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi beka umndeni wakho phambili
- Hlala ubenza bazizwe bethandwa
- Ukudla okudlela endlini
Ukubona isehlukaniso sabazali kungumcimbi obuhlungu oletha ushintsho olukhulu empilweni yomfana noma yentombazane, kungakhathalekile ukuthi uneminyaka emingaki. Ngokubona ukuncipha kothando phakathi kwabazali, bese kuqedwa umshado, ukungabi bikho kwansuku zonke komzali oyedwa ngenkathi ehlala nomunye bese kulungiswa ukuhlala emakhaya amabili ahlukene - konke lokhu kudala isimo esinzima sokuhlukumezeka komndeni nokomphefumulo lowo idinga ukwamukela nokubhekana nayo.
Yize kungekho okulula futhi okulula ngesahlukaniso, kunezinyathelo ezithile ezingeyona inkimbinkimbi abazali abangazenza ukusiza izingane, kufaka phakathi intsha esivele ibhekene nezinguquko zansuku zonke ezisendleleni yokuba ngumuntu omdala ukuze ikwazi ukubhekana nemiphumela engokomzwelo yesehlukaniso. Ukuhlukumezeka kuyelapheka ngokubhekana nezici ezibalulekile ezibhekene nezingane ezithola isehlukaniso emndenini futhi zilandele izinyathelo ezingezansi.
Gcina ingxabano kuwe
Uyesaba, uthukuthele futhi ukudabuka kwakho kuhlala kuwe njengephunga elibi elingapheli. Uzwa sengathi ukungathembeki komuntu oshade naye bekuyindlela yokukushiya wena nezingane zakho. Ufuna izingane zakho zazi ukuthi wenzeni noma wenzeni. Badinga ukwazi iqiniso; uyazibonela. Kodwa-ke, isidingo sakho sokuhlanzwa asizisizi izingane zakho.
Zonke izingane ezizobona ukuthi ubaba noma umama wazo ungumuntu omubi futhi zizocabanga ukuthi zenze okuthile okungalungile ukumenza afune ukubashiya. Ufaka igebe phakathi kwezingane noyise noma umama wazo. Yinto abazoyibona lapho bekhula, futhi ingahle ikucasukele.
Hlola izidingo zakho ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzwelo
Usizi lwakho, ukungakhululeki kwakho, kanye nemizwa yokwenqatshwa kuyizinto ezivamile zenqubo yesehlukaniso. Kepha, uma ungabahloniphi, bazoqhubeka nokuvuselelwa noma ngabe umshado usuphelile. Uma usesimweni sokucindezeleka, kulula ukudonsa ingubo phezu kwekhanda lakho futhi uhlale usesimweni somntwana kunokuba uvuke embhedeni. Ungakwenzi; udinga ukusukuma.
Vumela wena ukuyeka ukuzishaya esikhundleni sokuchitha ihora lakho lesidlo sasemini ukhanyisa. Cabanga ukukhuluma nomelaphi noma umuntu onobungoti obuthile ekubhekaneni nemindeni ekuguqukeni esikhundleni sokufaka kozakwenu okungesona umqondo omuhle kakhulu.
Hlonipha umuntu owawushade naye
Akwanele ukugwema ukubeka kabi umuntu owayeshade naye phambi kwezingane zakho. Ngaphandle kokuthi ufune ukuthi ingane yakho ihlupheke lapho abanye abantu bephinda okushilo ezinganeni zabo nezingane zabo zikuphindisela enganeni yakho, udinga ukwenza imizamo yokubambisana ukuze ukhulume kahle ngalowo owawushade naye kubantu besithathu.
Izingane zakho zizozibona zinandisa wena kanye nowawushade naye. Ngakho-ke, lapho ukhuluma kabi ngalowo owawushade naye, izingane cishe zizokufaka ezinhlamba.
Buka futhi: Izizathu Eziningi Ezivamile Zesehlukaniso
Yazisa izingane zakho ngemininingwane edingekayo bese weqa idrama
Uma ufuna ukunciphisa ukungaphatheki kahle kwengane yakho, udinga ukudala ukubumbana okuhlangene. Qala ngokumtshela ngesehlukaniso ndawonye. Izingane zingase zibe nomuzwa wokuthi elinye iqembu alinandaba, kodwa udinga ukubazisa.
Beka eceleni isidingo sakho sokuqinisekisa ukuphakama esigabeni somshado. Beka kuqala inhlalakahle yengqondo yezingane zakho. Bazise ukuthi wena nowawushade naye nisazoyifeza imisebenzi yenu njengomzali ndawonye.
Yenza izinqumo ezigcizelelayo
Lapho ulinganisa izinqumo ezingathinta izingane, qala ngokucabanga ukuthi usezicathulweni zabemukeli ekupheleni kwanoma yisiphi isinqumo ozosenza.
Cabanga ngalokho izingane zakho ezizokusho kubelaphi bazo mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ebuntwaneni nokuthi wabavikela kanjani ngesikhathi sehlukaniso? Ngabe bazobonga ngezinqumo ozithathile, noma bazozisola lapho wena nowawushade naye nizisebenzisa njengamathuluzi engxabanweni yenu? Noma bazokumangalela ngokungakwazi kwabo ukwethemba nezinombolo ezingenamkhawulo zobudlelwano obuhlulekile?
Yamukela amacala kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi beka umndeni wakho phambili
Udinga ukuxoxa nommeli wakho ngezindlela ezingaba khona zokufinyelela esinqumweni esihambisanayo njengokuhlelwa kwesikhathi nokugcinwa kwezingane okukulungele kangcono wena nezingane zakho. Kubalulekile ukuba nenqubo yokubambisana, ukulamula, ukuxoxisana, ingqungquthela yezindawo zokuhlala ezosingathwa ngokomthetho, njll.
Ungakhuluma nodokotela wezingane kanye nowawushade naye ukukusiza ukuthi hlobo luni lohlelo lokuba ngumzali olungalungela ingane yakho. Konke kuya ngesigaba sakhe sokukhula nobudala, ukusondela kuwe noshade naye komunye nomunye, umndeni wakho unamandla nezici ezibalulekile kufaka phakathi ukuthambekela kwakho kokugcina ubudlelwano bekhwalithi nomunye umzali.
Ngakho-ke, yenza ucwaningo lwakho bese uthola ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lwamalungiselelo olungcono kakhulu emndenini wakho - olwenzelwe izingane zakho esikhundleni sokuchitha amandla akho ezimpini ezisemthethweni ngethemba lokuwina ilungiselelo lokugcina njengoba uzakwenu, umakhelwane noma umshana kamzala omkhulu womngani wakho.
Hlala ubenza bazizwe bethandwa
Ngokwemvelo izingane zifisa ukuzinza, ukungaguquguquki, nokuphepha. Isehlukaniso siphazamisa ibhalansi abazijwayele, noma ngabe ayizinzile.
Bafuna ukwazi ukuthi bazobona kangaki umzali ngamunye, ukuthi bazohlala yini nezingane zakubo, ukuthi bazohlala kuphi, ukuthi bazofunda esikoleni esisodwa nokuthi inja abayithandayo izohlanganyela nabo ekhaya labo. Kungenzeka ungakabi nazo izimpendulo ezifanele okwamanje, kodwa okubalulekile ukuthi uma uziphendula, uzenze ngendlela eyiqiniso, ebekezelayo futhi enothando.
Ukudla okudlela endlini
Inqubo yesehlukaniso ayisihlukumezi kangako ezinganeni lapho abazali benezinhlelo ezifanele zokusekelana ezenzelwe bona nezingane ngenkathi begcina imingcele ecacile. Ngokufanelekile, bobabili abazali bangaqhubeka nezimpilo zabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane akufanele zibe nombono wokuthi azilahlekelwanga imindeni yazo kodwa zishintshile kuphela nokuthi abazali bazo banezinhloso ezinhle ngabo.
USofia Larosa
USofia Larosa uyi-blogger nombhali wokuqukethwe wommeli wedivosi eHouston ogxile kakhulu kubudlelwano bokuphila nobudlelwano bomndeni. Ubuye abe nebhulogi ekhuluma kuphela ngobudlelwano nangezindlela zokuphila phakathi kwemibhangqwana. Ngesikhathi sakhe sokuphumula, uSofia uthanda ukupheka nokuhlala ekhaya.