-Delile
- 1. Isimemo esihehayo
- 2. Indlela eqotho - izimbali nenothi elibhalwe ngesandla
- 3.Dala i-VLL esuka enhliziyweni (incwadi yothando lwevidiyo)
Usuku lukaValentine selusondele, usuku olwenza abangashadile abaningi bahlanye ngokukhathazeka nokulindela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukwenza uphuphe ngamathuba angenamkhawulo ukuthi i-crush yakho ingakubuza kanjani ngosuku, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ikwenza ukhathazeke ngokugcina uwedwa ngalolo suku. Hhayi-ke, uma uqhubeka nokuphupha kunamathuba okuthi usuku lwakho lwezithandani lungeke lwehluke kwezinye izinsuku (kuyacasula kancane kuphela mhlawumbe).
Uma ubulokhu ucindezela intombazane, yeka ukucabanga futhi uthathe isinyathelo. Usuku luka-Valentine yisikhathi esihle sokumcela. Yehlisa ukukhathazeka uphinde ukhuphule injabulo. Bamba ithuba, hambisa, cela ukuchoboza kwakho kube usuku lwakho.
Ukucela umuntu ukuthi abe yiValentine yakho akuwona umdlalo olula nokho. Kungaba okucindezelayo futhi kungaholela ekuqhekekeni kwenhliziyo. Kodwa kungcono kunokuqagela ukuthi “ngabe bekuyini” ukube uveze imizwa yakho. Uma uhlela ukucela intombazane ukuthi ibe yi-Valentine yakho, silapha ukukusiza. Nawa amathiphu ama-3 athakazelisayo ngochwepheshe bobudlelwano: -
1. Isimemo esihehayo
Oyi-Veteran Marriage Therapist, uMary K. Cocharo uthi, “indlela engcono kakhulu yokubuza intombazane ngosuku lwezithandani ukudala isimemo esihehayo esimenza azi ukuthi ukhathalela ngokwanele ukwenza uhlelo.” Zama into efana nokuthi, “Ngingathanda ukukubona ngoSuku Lwezithandani. Kungani ngingakulandi ngo-7: 00 ngikuse endaweni ekhethekile? ” Ubani ongathi cha kulokho? Ngemuva kwalokho, mthathele indawo ethile ekhethekile. Akudingeki ukuthi ibize, icabange nje.
2. Indlela eqotho - izimbali nenothi elibhalwe ngesandla
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSaraKay Smullens uthi, “indlela ehlakaniphile kunazo zonke yokubuza umuntu omkhathalelayo ukuthi abe i-valentine yakho ukuthembeka.” Futhi ngaleli holide elingajwayelekile, imithombo yezokuxhumana kufanele ithathelwe indawo ukuxhumana okudala - ukulethwa uma kungenzeka ehhovisi lakhe noma ekhaya. (Uma ungahlali eduzane, sebenzisa 'iposi lomnenke' elidala elinomyalezo omfushane wothando). Khetha imbali eyodwa enhle ehambisana nenothi elibhalwe ngesandla:
“Ukhetheke kakhulu. Kungasho lukhulu kimi uma uzoba yi-Valentine yami. Imininingwane ezolandelwa ngoFebhuwari 14. Kuzoqhubeka (ngiyethemba), ”kulandelwe ukuvalwa komuntu siqu, isignesha yakho, nendlela eya kwi-RSVP.”
Funda kabanzi: Izinto Eziningi Zothando Okufanele Uzenze Ngosuku Lwezithandani
3.Dala i-VLL esuka enhliziyweni (incwadi yothando lwevidiyo)
Indlela yesimanje nokho yokudala yokubuza intombazane ukuthi imenzele ividiyo. Umeluleki onguchwepheshe uDkt LaWanda uthi, "Dala ividiyo ye-Valentine yami." Kuvidiyo, kulula ukuveza imizwa yakho ngaphandle kwezithiyo. Futhi, kukusiza ukuthi ushaye ukuxhumana kwakho cishe ngaso leso sikhathi.
Phatha impilo yakho yothando. Landela lezi zeluleko njengamapulani wokuqopha indawo ethambile enhliziyweni yakhe. Futhi uma konke kuhamba kahle, mancane amathuba okuthi uzoba nesikhathi esimnandi ngosuku lukaValentine nentombazane oyithandayo.