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- 1. Zijwayeze ukuvuselela imicabango yakho
- 2. Zijwayeze ukucabanga
- 3. Sebenzela ekukhulumisaneni kwakho
Kungaba nzima ukukholelwa ukuthi injabulo ingaba yisinqumo osenzayo. Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi ukusabela kwethu ngokomzwelo ezimweni zethu kungokwemvelo futhi njengoba singazikhethi njalo izimo zethu, ukuphendula kwethu kumane nje kuyimpendulo ezenzekelayo ezimweni.
Impilo igcwele okwenzekile, okunye kwakho kunganikeza injabulo engachazeki futhi abanye kube nosizi olungabekezeleleki. Ngenkathi ungeke uguqule izimo zakho ngaso sonke isikhathi, ungaba nomthelela endleleni ophendula ngayo. Imicabango onayo ithinta ngqo indlela ozizwa ngayo. Ukuze ushintshe umuzwa wakho ngento ethile udinga ukucabanga ukuthi ucabanga kanjani ngayo. Lokhu kuyinto ethatha umkhuba, isikhathi nomzamo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyikhono olithuthukisayo okusho ukuthi uba ngcono kulo lapho ulisebenzisa kakhulu. Izinzuzo zalo mkhuba zidlula kude umsebenzi obandakanyekayo kule nqubo yokushintsha indlela ocabanga ngayo ukuze uzizwe ngokuhlukile. Ezinye izinto eziwusizo ukwazi ukuthi ungazikhethela kanjani injabulo eyengeziwe futhi ekugcineni ubuhlobo bakho.
1. Zijwayeze ukuvuselela imicabango yakho
Indlela esicabanga ngayo ngezinto ithinta indlela esizizwa ngayo. Ubuchopho buqhuba izinhlungu ezingokomzwelo nezingokomzimba ngezindlela ezifanayo kakhulu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi noma sebuhambile ubuhlungu, inkumbulo yobuhlungu isala. Ebuchosheni, ubuhlungu obuvela emlenzeni ophukile kanye nosizi lwenhliziyo ephukile kuhlanganyela kakhulu kumjikelezo ofanayo. Ngenkathi okunye okuhlangenwe nakho (noma abantu) kungagwenywa abanye abavikeleki kalula.
Zinike isikhathi sokuhlola uphinde uqambe kabusha indlela ocabanga ngayo ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nobudlelwano obubalulekile empilweni yakho. Ukwenza kabusha kabusha kufaka phakathi ukukhomba imicabango yakho engakusizi bese uyifaka eminye emihle noma eguquguqukayo. Okuhlangenwe nakho ngokwako akuguquki kodwa indlela ocabanga futhi uzizwe ngayo ingashintsha.Ingabe unemicabango engokoqobo futhi eguquguqukayo? Noma ingabe imicabango yakho iyazihlula, ayinangqondo noma inombala ngentukuthelo? Uma uqala ukucabanga ngokuhlukile, uzozizwa ngokuhlukile. Ngokucabanga ngezindlela ezinempilo nezakhayo empeleni uzikhethela injabulo nokuthula.
2. Zijwayeze ukucabanga
Ngesikhathi sobuhlobo bakho, kungahle kube khona izinto ezenziwa ngumlingani wakho noma athi ucabanga ukuthi ziyahlupha noma sezibe nezinkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ungazijwayeza ukucabanga ngalezo zikhathi ukuze ulawule imizwa yakho. Ukucabangela isimo sokunakwa okusebenzayo nokuhlosile okwamanje. Umkhuba wokucabanga ungakuvumela ukuthi ulawule ukusabela okungathatheki emizweni yakho yokucasuka noma ukulimaza umlingani wakho. Izithandani ezisebenzisa ukucabanga zinobudlelwano obenelisa kakhulu njengoba zilwa kancane, azinakho ukusabela okuncane kokuzivikela futhi ziyahlalisana.
3. Sebenzela ekukhulumisaneni kwakho
Ukuba nokuxhumana okuvulelekile nokuthembekile kuholela emathubeni amancane okulwa, ukuqonda okukhulu izidingo zomunye nomunye kanye nokuxhumana okujulile. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana kuyisizathu esivamile sokuhluleka kobuhlobo nokunganeliseki.
Izikhathi eziningi ngemuva kokuba sebudlelwaneni nothile isikhathi eside, imibhangqwana ijwayele ukwakha umqondo wokuthi imizwa nezidingo zabo kufanele kuqondane nje kuphela futhi akudingeki ukuthi kuvezwe. Yize lokhu kungaba njalo kweminye imibhangqwana noma kwezinye izimo, umlingani wakho akayena umfundi wezingqondo futhi akufanele kulindeleke ukuthi bazi zonke izinto ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokho akulindelwe ngokufanele futhi ngenxa yalokho ukukhungatheka kwezidingo ezingafinyelelwanga kungenzeka futhi kuzokwenzeka. Gcina ulayini wokuxhumana ovulekile ongenazinqumo futhi osekelayo. Izidingo zakho nemizwa yakho kungashintsha futhi akuhlali njalo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ngokufaka le mikhuba emi-3 elula, ungandisa amathuba akho okuba nokuxhumana okwanelisa kakhulu nomlingani wakho ngokujulisa ukusondelana kwakho ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Injabulo yakho incike kakhulu esimweni sakho sengqondo kunasesimweni sangaphandle.
Nakhu okwenza injabulo yakho ize kuqala nomthwalo wakho wemfanelo!