Ngemuva kwesahlukaniso, bobabili abazali ababhekana nakho babhekana nemizwa ebuhlungu nobuhlungu obukhulu. Le mizwa kwesinye isikhathi iholela umuntu oyedwa noma bobabili ebadmouth futhi igxeke umuntu wabo wakudala. Ngenkathi intukuthelo nokukhungatheka kuyaqondakala futhi nemizwelo idinga ukukhishwa, lokhu kuba yinkinga uma kulimaza imizwa yomunye umuntu futhi kudala izinkinga eziningi.
Lapho umzali wakho osebenza naye ehlale egxeka izenzo zakho futhi enza imibono engafanele ngawe ezinganeni zakho, izingane zithola ukucindezeleka okukhulu ngokomzwelo. Ukuthi bayakukholelwa noma cha abakutshelwe, ukuzwa nje kuphela kuyabathinta ekuxabaneni phakathi kwabazali babo. Le yinto okungenzeka ukuthi bazama kanzima ukuyigwema noma abangalindelanga ukuthi babe yingxenye yayo kwasekuqaleni. Izingane kufanele zithole ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo nabazali bazo bobabili obakhelwe kancane ekuthembekeni, futhi ukulalela konke lokhu kugxekwa ngomzali oyedwa noma bobabili kuzilimaza amathuba okwenzeka kwalokhu. Ingane kufanele ithembe kanjani ukuthi umzali wayo ngeke aqale ukuqondisa ukugxeka kubo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi?
Ngaphandle kwabazali kuphela, kungenzeka futhi ukuthi amanye amalungu omndeni angasho izinto ezingezinhle ngomunye wabazali. Noma kungesiye omunye wabazali osho lezi zinto, ukuba nakho kuvela kwelinye ilungu lomndeni elithembekile kusengabadida futhi kubacindezele. Lokhu kugxekwa kungabeka umgoqo ebudlelwaneni obuphakathi kwabazali noma phakathi komzali namanye amalungu omndeni.
Lapho uhlangabezana nalokhu emndenini wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi uyazibuza ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani kangcono. Isinyathelo sokuqala ukukhuluma nezingane zakho ngalokho okushiwo. Bazise ukuthi yini okungelona iqiniso, futhi uma izingxenye zayo zikhona, sebenzisa ukwahlulela kwakho okuhle ukuchaza ukuthi kungani kwathiwa ezinganeni zakho, njalo ugcine izimpendulo zakho zifanele ngokwanele ukuze izingane zakho zikuqonde kuye ngeminyaka yazo. Sebenzisa lokhu ukufundisa izingane zakho isifundo sokuba nobudlova nokugxeka ngokweqile abanye, hhayi njengethuba lokubuyela kumuntu obekugxeka. Uma uphendula kulesi simo ngokusho izinto ezibucayi noma ezimbi ngomunye umzali, lokhu kuqhubeka kuphela kufaka izingane emzabalazweni okufanele zigcinwe kude nawo. Njengoba uzwa ukuthi izingane zakho zithini, ungazithukutheleli ngokuletha le ndaba. Esikhundleni salokho, bavumele bakutshele abakuzwile futhi babuze imibuzo ukuze ukwazi ukucacisa nokunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwabo.
Ngemuva kokuthi ukhulume nezingane zakho, kufanele uqale ukucabanga ngezindlela zokuzivikela ekubeni nale ngxoxo okwesibili. Musa ukusebenzisa izingane zakho njengesithunywa kulesi simo; esikhundleni salokho, bhekana nalo muntu ngokwakho. Khuluma nomuntu okhuluma izinto ezingezinhle ngawe, bese umcela ukuba ayeke ngokushesha. Uma ungacabangi ukuthi ungahlala uzolile mathupha noma ngocingo nalo muntu, zama ukuthumela isicelo sakho nge-imeyili. Uma umuntu engaphenduli kahle, funa ukuholwa kuchwepheshe ofana nomeluleki noma umelaphi, bese ukhuluma nabo ngezindlela zokuqhubeka kulokhu. Uma umuntu obekhuluma izinto ezimbi ngawe ungumzali osebenza naye, kufanele ucabange ukukhuluma nommeli wakho ngakho noma kunjani. Ummeli wakho angakusiza ekuphenduleni imibuzo yakho futhi akusize uthathe izinyathelo zomthetho uma kuza kukho.
Ukugxeka nokukhuluma izinto ezingezinhle ngabanye abantu kungadala ukulimala okukhulu kumuntu ekugcineni kwalawo mazwana. Esimweni sokubambisana ngokubambisana, ukulimala kungasakazeka ngokushesha ezinganeni. Ungasiza ukunciphisa umonakalo futhi usheshise ukwelashwa ngokubhekana nesimo ngokushesha nangokuzola. Futhi, uma ungaqiniseki ukuthi ungasisingatha kanjani kahle lesi simo nomndeni wakho, khuluma nomthetho womndeni noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ngokushesha okukhulu. Bangakusiza uthole izindlela zokubhekana nalesi simo ngendlela efanele.