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- Abangane Abakhulu: Kusho ukuthini lokho?
- 1. Ukubuyisa ubungani ebudlelwaneni bakho kuzothatha umsebenzi
- 2. Hlela kabusha izimpilo zenu ukuze nichithe isikhathi esiningi ndawonye
- 3. Tshala imali komunye nomunye
- 4. Ukunakekelana komunye nomunye ngendlela yangempela
- 5. Jabula ngempilo yabo
Uma ucabanga ngezimfanelo ozithandayo kumngane wakho omkhulu, yini efika engqondweni yakho? Cishe kulula ukuba naye. Ungahlala usuku lonke enkampanini yomunye nomunye futhi usafuna ukuqhubeka nengxoxo. Wazi konke ngawe, okuhle nokubi futhi akahluleli nhlobo. Uyazi ukuthi unomhlane wakho nawe unezakhe. Ungashayelana noma nini, emini noma ebusuku. Uma kudingeka, uyazi ukuthi nobabili nizolahla konke ukuze nibe sohlangothini lomunye nomunye.
Manje, ngabe lokhu kuchaza ubudlelwano bakho noshade naye? Kwemibhangqwana eminingi, ubudlelwane babo bomshado abufani nobungane babo ngaphandle kwabashadikazi. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi emishadweni ende lapho izinto sezizinze zaba yinto ejwayelekile. Kwesinye isikhathi inqubo ye-blah, lapho ungasakhulumi ngokujulile nganoma yini. Usanda kuthola izindaba ezinhle futhi umuntu wokuqala ofuna ukuxoxa naye ngumngane wakho omkhulu hhayi owakwakho?
Abangane Abakhulu: Kusho ukuthini lokho?
Lapho imibhangqwana iqala ukushada, bavame ukuchaza ubuhlobo babo ngokuthi "ubungani obuhle kakhulu kwezocansi buhlanganisiwe!" Uma sikhuluma ngokuba ngabangane abakhulu nomuntu, yiziphi ezinye zezinto ezifika engqondweni yakho? Nazi ezinye izindlela abesifazane abachaza ngazo abangane babo abakhulu. Lokhu futhi kungazwakala njengalokho obekufakwa emshadweni wakho ekuqaleni, kepha mhlawumbe akusenjalo.
- Uyangiqonda, ngaphandle kokuthi ngichaze konke
- Uveza izimfanelo ezinhle kimi — ukuhlakanipha kwami, ilukuluku lami, isifiso sami sokubheka izinselelo, uzwela lwami, ukukhonza kwami abanye, uhlangothi lwami oluhlekisayo
- Lapho ngidangele, uyangisiza ngikhumbule izimfanelo zami ezinhle
- Akaze angihlulele
- Ungivumela ukuthi ngibe nezinsuku / imizwa emibi futhi ngiyakuqonda ukuthi lokhu akuhlangene naye. Uyangivumela ukuthi ngihlale phansi kodwa akangivumeli ukuthi ngihlale lapho isikhathi eside kakhulu
- Uyazi izintandokazi zami: ukudla, umculo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, isitayela sezingubo futhi uhlala ekhomba ngezipho zokuzalwa
- Wazi wonke umlando wami futhi uyangithanda yize kunamaphutha engiwenzile
- Ungabanda nami usuku lonke futhi ungalokothi ube nesithukuthezi, noma ngabe asisho okuningi
- Ngijabulela engikufezile futhi angikaze ngibe nomona ngokuwina kwami
Ingabe zikhona lezi zimfanelo ezifanayo kowakwakho?
Kwesinye isikhathi imibhangqwana ilahlekelwa yilezi zimfanelo "umngane omkhulu" njengoba isikhathi siqhubekela phambili. Esikhundleni sokuqonda umehluko womlingani wakho, ubasola ngokungalokothi baqonde indlela yakho yokucabanga. Lapho udangele, oshade naye ukutshela ukuthi “jabula!” kunokukuvumela ukuthi ube luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka kancane ngezikhathi ezithile. Bangaba nomona uma wenza kangcono kunabo ngokomsebenzi. Ungagodlela umuntu oshade naye imininingwane mayelana nesikhathi sakho esidlule, wesaba ukwahlulelwa noma ukugxekwa. Uma umshado wakho uzwakala njengawo, sekuyisikhathi sokufaka ubuhlobo bakho nobungani.
Nazi izindlela ezi-5 zokubuyisa ubungani emshadweni wakho
1. Ukubuyisa ubungani ebudlelwaneni bakho kuzothatha umsebenzi
Uma ngabe unaka nje ukusebenzisa kabusha okulahlekile, umsebenzi wakho uzoba mkhulu, futhi ungaqala ukuzonda ukucasukela oshade naye. Ukwakha kabusha ubungani ngeke kwenzeke uma intukuthelo ikhona. Nobabili kudingeka nizinikele kule phrojekthi.
2. Hlela kabusha izimpilo zenu ukuze nichithe isikhathi esiningi ndawonye
Ngabe ujwayele ukuphuma uqonde ehhovisi uyosebenza ejimini, ubuye ekhaya ngesikhathi esifanele sokulunywa ngokushesha ngaphambi kokulala? Noma usike isikhathi sokuzivocavoca noma ufake oshade naye ebhodini njengomlingani wokuzivocavoca. Awukwazi ukulindela ukwakha ubungani bakho uma ungekho endaweni efanayo ndawonye. Lokhu akusibo ubudlelwano be-inthanethi; lesi yisivumelwano sangempela.
3. Tshala imali komunye nomunye
Lokhu kusho ukutshala isikhathi namandla, ukuxoxa, nokunaka. Lapho oshade naye ekhuluma nawe, faka isandla. Beka eceleni ifoni yakho. Vala i-TV. Vala i-pc. Phendukela kubo ulalele sengathi bakutshela okuthile okumangalisayo.
4. Ukunakekelana komunye nomunye ngendlela yangempela
Lapho oshade naye ezizwa edangele noma ecindezelekile, bonisa ukuthi uyasikhathalela isimo sabo sengqondo. Ungayikhuhli imizwa yakhe “ngenjabulo! Izinto ngeke zibe zimbi kangako! ” Hlala phansi ubacele ukuthi bandise ngokwenzekayo. Qoqa futhi uvume ukuthi uyabezwa. “Kuyaqondakala ukuthi uzophatheka kabi ngalokho,” kuyindlela enhle yokukhombisa ukuthi ubalalela ngempela. Awudingi ukunikeza izixazululo, udinga nje ukubakhombisa ukuthi ukhona.
5. Jabula ngempilo yabo
Uma oshade naye eza ekhaya futhi ekutshela ngomsebenzi omusha afuna ukuwuqala, mjabulele. Gubha amandla akhe amahle. Isho okuthile okuqinisekisayo, okufana nokuthi “Ngiyakutshela ukuthi awukwazi ukulinda ukuze ungene kulokhu! Ngiyazi ukuthi uzokwenza kahle ngale nselelo entsha. ” Ngemuva kwakho konke, yilokho umngane omkhulu angasho, akunjalo?
Imivuzo yokuba abangane abakhulu nomngane wakho womshado
Ngomshado, ukuba nobudlelwano obuphephile kuyajabulisa. Lapho lesi sibopho sihlanganisa nobungane obuhle kakhulu, imivuzo iba miningi. Nikhona komunye nomunye ngendlela ejulile evumela ukuthi nibe nesibindi, ukudala, ukuhlola, ukucabanga, ukuthandana nokuxhasana nalabo abakuzungezile kusuka endaweni ephephile.