-Delile
- Izinselelo
- Lapho bobabili behlangabezana nesigaba ngasikhathi sinye
- Izindleko zezempilo eziphindwe kabili
- Kwesinye isikhathi amahora angama-24 avela kancane kini nobabili
- Amathiphu namasu wokugcina ubuhlobo obunempilo
- Xhumana, yazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani
- Thuthukisa izimpawu namazwi aphephile ukuxhumana nabanye
Ebudlelwaneni into yokugcina ongayifisa ukugula ngengqondo. Imvamisa, asinaki isimo sempilo yengqondo sikazakwethu. Sibheka konke ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo nokubukeka komzimba.
Ukuhlala nomuntu onesifo sengqondo kungadinga ukuthi nobabili nisebenze kakhulu ebudlelwaneni benu. Kodwa-ke, kuthiwani uma bobabili abalingani begula ngengqondo?
Yonke imisebenzi yobudlelwano iguquka esimweni esinjalo.
Nobabili kufanele nisebenze njengohlelo lokuxhasana futhi nikwazi ukubhekana nokugula kwengqondo komunye nomunye. Umzamo nokuzinikela kuphindeka kabili uma nobabili nithola ukugula kwengqondo komunye nomunye. Ngakho-ke, siletha kini ezinye zezinselelo namathiphu okufanele nobabili nikwazi.
Izinselelo
Imvamisa asikunaki ukugula kwengqondo nezinselelo ezikuletha ebudlelwaneni.
Kepha ukuze bobabili abalingani abaphethwe ukugula ngengqondo, konke kuphindwe kabili: isidingo sokuqonda kanye nezinselelo.
Lapho bobabili behlangabezana nesigaba ngasikhathi sinye
Ngokwethembeka, akekho ongabikezela ukuthi nini futhi yini ezodala ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Ngaphakathi kweminye imibhangqwana, lapho omunye wabo egula ngengqondo, izimo zihlukile. Akunandaba noma yini, kuzoba nomuntu ozolile futhi ozinzile futhi owaziyo ukuthi angasisingatha kanjani isimo.
Kodwa-ke, lapho bobabili behlushwa ukugula ngengqondo, izimo lapho umuntu ezobe ezolile khona ngesimo kungenzeka zingavamile. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi uqonde iphethini futhi ugcine umjikelezo.
Lo mjikelezo uzosebenza kakhulu lapho umuntu ehlelwa ukuwohloka omunye ephethe yonke into ngokufanele futhi alondoloze ubudlelwano babo ekuqhekekeni. Lokhu kungenzeka kungenzeki ngokushesha ukungena kulo mjikelezo kepha uma nobabili nizimisele ukuzama, ngokuqinisekile niyothola indlela yokuphuma kukho.
Izindleko zezempilo eziphindwe kabili
Ukugula ngengqondo kudinga isikhathi sokululama.
Njengoba kunikezwe i-akhawunti yokuthi imithi ibiza kangakanani, lapho bobabili abalingani benokugula kwengqondo umthethosivivinywa wezokwelapha ungavele ukhule ngokushesha kunokulindelekile.
Lo mthwalo owengeziwe wokugcina izikweletu zezokwelapha zabo bobabili ophathina kungabonakala kubi emalini yonke yasekhaya kepha uma ufisa ukuqhubeka nobudlelwano kufanele uthole indlela yokuphuma. Ungabeka phambili izindleko zakho bese ubheka okubalulekile.
Futhi, zama ukugcina imali eceleni ngalokho okuthandayo. Ngemuva kwakho konke, awufuni ukwenza ukugula kwakho kwengqondo kube yisikhohlakali empilweni yakho ephelele.
Kwesinye isikhathi amahora angama-24 avela kancane kini nobabili
Lapho uzama ukubambelela kuyo yonke into futhi ufuna ukwenza izinto zisebenze kahle, ungazithola usesimweni lapho ngisho namahora angama-24 ezoba mancane kini nobabili.
Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka kweminye imibhangqwana kwesinye isikhathi ethola ukuthi alukho uthando phakathi kwabo. Kodwa-ke, uma nobabili nizimisele ukunqoba le nselele, khona-ke kunendlela yokuphuma kuyo.
Hlanganisa umsebenzi wakho womzimba ndawonye. Zama ukwazisa zonke izikhathi ezincane ozithola kulawo mahora angama-24.
Lokho kuzogcina inhlansi iphila phakathi kwenu nobabili.
Amathiphu namasu wokugcina ubuhlobo obunempilo
Omunye umuntu ohlakaniphile wake wathi, 'Kukhona isixazululo sayo yonke inkinga, okudingayo nje ukuzimisela ukusibona.' Noma bobabili abalingani begula ngengqondo futhi bengabhekana nezinselelo ezithile ebudlelwaneni babo, kukhona izeluleko ezingakusiza ukuthi ugcine ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Xhumana, yazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani
Into eyodwa ebenza buhlukumeze noma yibuphi ubudlelwano, nokugula ngengqondo noma ngaphandle kwayo, akukho ukuxhumana. Ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo sempumelelo. Ngisho nodokotela wakho angakuncoma ukuthi uvulele umlingani wakho noma nini lapho unokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Xhumana, yazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nokuthi uzizwa kanjani kuzonciphisa inkinga ngesigamu.
Lokhu, eceleni, kuzoqinisa ukwethembeka nokwethembeka, okuyizithako ezibalulekile ebudlelwaneni obuqinile obuhlala njalo. Ngakho-ke, uma unosuku olubi, khuluma.
Khuluma nomlingani wakho, udlulisele kubo. Futhi uma ucabanga ukuthi umlingani wakho akavuli ngalokhu, buza imibuzo.
Thuthukisa izimpawu namazwi aphephile ukuxhumana nabanye
Kungenzeka ukuthi omunye wenu akazimisele ukuxhumana nhlobo.
Esimweni esinjalo ukuba nesibonakaliso somzimba noma igama eliphephile kungasetshenziswa ukwazisa abanye ukuthi umuntu uzizwa kanjani.
Lokhu kuzokusiza uma omunye wenu ehlupheka ngokweqile noma engakwazi ukuveza imizwa ngamagama. Lokhu futhi kungagwema noma yikuphi ukushayisana komzimba ngesikhathi sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Buyela emuva noma kunini bese unikeza umlingani wakho isikhala sokululama
Yebo, kuyadingeka ukuthi ume nozakwenu kokuhle nokubi, kepha lokhu akufanele kusho ukuthi uhlasela isikhala sabo ukuze balulame esigabeni.
Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, udinga ukucabanga ngezimpawu namagama aphephile angasebenzisa ukudlulisa lapho udinga isikhala sokululama. Ngaphezu kwalokho, enye kufanele ihlehle futhi inikeze isikhala esidingekayo. Lokhu kuzwana yikho okuzoqinisa ubudlelwano benu.