-Delile
- Bangabantu abaphelele
- Isasasa lokubeka abanye phansi
- Abakhululekile ezimweni zomphakathi
- Ukuthula kuyisikhali
- Bamelana nempendulo enhle
- Kusolimini lwabo lomzimba
- Ihaba
- Baziqhathanisa nawo wonke umuntu
Ukuzethemba okuphansi kungathinta intando yokufunda. Futhi lokho kungazizwa njengokugcina ikhandlela livutha esivunguvungwini vele. Ngakho-ke ukufunda ukuthi ungabona kanjani ukuziphatha kokungazethembi ezinganeni kungasiza ukugcina intando yabo yokufunda iphila.
Nazi izinto eziyi-8 abantu abasha abazenzayo lapho behliswa ukuzethemba
Bangabantu abaphelele
Ukufuna ukuphelela empeleni kungenye yezinto ezibhubhisayo zokuzethemba okuphansi.
Izingane ezinokuzethemba okuphansi zizobonisa kuphela amakhono namakhono azo lapho ziqinisekile ukuthi zizophumelela. Umuzwa wokwehluleka uhlala njalo ezimpilweni zabo ngoba noma ngabe impumelelo yabo ihlaba umxhwele kanjani, abazizwa benele ngokwanele.
Kungakho beyeka: bancamela ukubonwa njengabantu abashiya phansi kunokuhluleka. Konke kuza ngesidingo esikhulu sokuthandwa nokwamukelwa.
Isasasa lokubeka abanye phansi
Wake wezwa ngesisho esithi, 'Usizi luthanda inkampani?'
Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngezingane, futhi impela abantu abadala abahlushwa ukuzethemba okuphansi. Uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho ihlala ikutshela ngamaphutha abanye abantu, lokhu kungaba yindlela yabo yokwehlisa abanye babe sezingeni labo. Bazolimaza abanye abantu futhi benze imibono enokhahlo ngabantu ababazungezile.
Ngokusho kombhali uJeffrey Sherman, umuntu ongazithandi kakhulu kungenzeka angazithandi izimfanelo zabanye abantu ezihlukile. Bavame ukubeka phansi abanye abantu kaningi kunokuphakamisa.
Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi babe nokuthile okumuncu abangakusho kuzo zonke izingxoxo.
Abakhululekile ezimweni zomphakathi
Amakhono omphakathi aphansi awuphawu lokutshela ukuzethemba okuphansi.
Uma ingane yakho ingazazi, inenkinga enzima yokukholelwa ukuthi omunye umuntu uyazi. Ngakho-ke, bayaziqhelelanisa nabanye abantu ukuze bazivikele ezinsongweni abazibonayo. Ngeshwa, lokhu kuzihlukanisa kunomphumela ophambene: lapho umuntu ezahlukanisa kakhulu, kulapho ezizwa enesizungu futhi engafunwa khona.
Ngabe ingane yakho icasha ekhoneni emcimbini futhi ichitha sonke isikhathi ocingweni lwayo noma icasha egumbini layo lapho unezivakashi? Lokhu kuziphatha okungahlanganyeli kungenye yezimpawu eziqinisekile zokukhula kokuzethemba okuphansi.
Ukuthula kuyisikhali
Ezimweni lapho umuntu ozenyeza kumele ahlangane nabanye abantu, bazothula, balalele futhi bavumelane nakho konke okushiwo abanye abantu.
Bazoba nemibono yabo, kepha lokhu kuhlala engqondweni yabo. Bangacabanga imibono yabo kanye nemibono yabo kaninginingi, kepha ngeke babe nesibindi sokukhuluma ngoba besaba ukwenza iphutha.
Kamuva, lapho beyiphinda lengxoxo, bazozishaya ngoba bengazwakali imibono yabo, abazomangala ukuthola ukuthi, babephakeme kakhulu.
Bamelana nempendulo enhle
Ukuba nesithunzi esiphansi kwenza umuntu angayamukeli impendulo enhle kakhulu engabasiza bathuthukise ukuzethemba kwabo. Ingane yakho izozizwa ingakufanelekele ukwaziswa futhi ize ikhathazeke ngokulindela ukuthi ikholelwa ukuthi udumo lwakho luzoletha.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuqinisekiswa okuhle akusebenzi kubantu abalwisana nokuzethemba okuphansi.
Basikisela ukuthi kungokwemvelo ukuthi umuntu enqabe umbono noma isitatimende abona sengathi siwela kude kakhulu ngaphandle kwenkolelo yabo ngaye. Lapho umuntu ezizwa engafaneleki futhi engenamandla, ukuqinisekiswa okuhle kakhulu kubakhumbuza ukuthi bazizwa kangakanani okuphambene nalokho.
Kusolimini lwabo lomzimba
Esinye sezibonakaliso ezibonakala kakhulu zokuzethemba okuphansi kungumzimba womzimba.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ungavele ubheke osemncane futhi wazi ukuthi kukhona okucishiwe. Uma ingane yakho ihamba ikhanda layo likhonjwe phansi nesilevu sinamathele ngaphezulu kwesifuba, lokhu kungukubonakaliswa kwangempela kwamahloni nokuphoxeka.
Amahlombe awele phansi, akukho ukuthintana kwamehlo, ukushukuma kwesandla sezinzwa: lezi yizimpawu zengane engazethembi.
Uzobona futhi ukuthi ingane iqhubeka nokugoba, izama ukuthatha isikhala esincane ngangokunokwenzeka esidlangalaleni. Bafuna ‘ukunyamalala’ kwazise abafuni abantu babone amaphutha abo.
Ihaba
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ingane enokuzenyeza ingafisa ukunakwa.
Enye indlela abafuna ukunakwa ngayo ukusebenzisa ukushukuma komzimba okumangazayo nokungahambelani nomongo ngoba banesifiso sokuthi abantu bakuqaphele. Bangase futhi bakhulume kakhulu kakhulu ukukhokha imizwa yokungabalulekile.
Ngeshwa, lokhu akusebenzi isikhathi eside, futhi basala bezizwa babi kakhulu kunangaphambili.
Baziqhathanisa nawo wonke umuntu
Izingane ezinokuzethemba okuphansi zinomkhuba wokuziqhathanisa nabanye: izingane zakwabo, izingane ezifunda nabo, kanye nabantu abangaziwa okungahleliwe. Yize kungekho lutho olungalungile ngokuziqhathanisa nabanye, ukuqhathanisa okweqile kumane nje kulimaze i-ego esivele isintekenteke.
Banenkolelo yokuthi abanye abantu banakho konke ndawonye futhi bavame ukuphatha impilo njengomncintiswano.
Bese besekela ukubaluleka kwabo kulokho abanye abantu abakwaziyo ukukwenza. Bachitha isikhathi esiningi bebuka abanye abantu: ukubukeka kwabo, ubuntu babo, kanye nempumelelo yabo ukuthi abaziboni izimfanelo zabo ezihlukile.
Lapho beziqhathanisa ngokwengeziwe nabanye abantu, kulapho beya bengenamandla.
Ukukwazi ukubona lezi zimilo eziyisishiyagalombili kuzokunika isikhathi sokubhekana nabantu abazenyeza empilweni yakho.